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August 2013 Moms
henderson1026
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Small DH Vent
henderson1026
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This is totally inline with DH's personality, but it is really starting to bug me. Whenever I complain about something (swollen feet, swollen hands and back aches) he tries to tell my why I am experiencing these things. Really? How about the answer is that I'm pregnant, not that I've done something wrong.
Then he compared me to a friend who he met 4 days before her due date. "Well she was all happy and bubbly and moving around." GRRR!
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Re: Small DH Vent
July 2, 2010- BFP Beta July 5th - 931 Repeat beta July 7th - 2,779
July 13, 2010- First ultrasound! Gestational sac found!
July 16, 2010 - 2nd u/s due to bleeding. Twins found! Baby A is great! Praying for Baby B!
July 23, 2010 - 3rd u/s. Saw Baby A's flicker of a heartbeat! Lost Baby B. :-(
March 16, 2011 - Nathan James was born
November 26, 2012 - surprise BFP! It's a girl!
July 26, 2013 - Lilianna Jean was born
I know it must be annoying, but it seems like he's just trying to comfort you in the only way he knows how...
He is not much of a comforter. He is TOO rational and logical and sometimes too literal. Ex. If I ask "do you want pizza or pasta for dinner" He will say "Yes" because he would be happy with either one - frickin computer programming, logic BS.
I've had to tell him to just shut up and hug me so many times ::eye roll::
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
This would drive me crazy! Casual acquaintances probably would describe me as happy and bubbly too. DH sees me when I have my guard down so he knows how I'm really feeling. Not a fair comparison!
My cousin did this to his wife without realizing what he was saying. She was about 3 weeks postpartum when I saw them at a family party. He mentioned to her later (and she told me) "wow, Kristin looks great for being 35 weeks and she doesnt seem uncomfortable or in a bad mood at all. You seemed much more uncomfortable" She wanted to murder him and I just laughed because my own husband would disagree strongly with my cousin on how I am acting.
My DH also sometimes gets too literal when I complain. I just say "I dont need a solution, I am just telling you because you contributed to me being pregnant and you should hear about it " lol
This is my DH too!! Drives me absolutely insane. I'm so tired of hearing that he thinks he's fat and his complaining. I've been setting up this stupid garage sale all week in 100 degree plus super humid weather out in the garage and today he is off and has been out there for like an hour and hasn't stopped complaining!
Plus I always hear about his aches and pains and lack of sleep and blah blah blah. Men have no idea I swear.
Yes! With the hands things I simply stated that I couldn't wear my wedding ring anymore. Then he tries to tell me it is because of the way I hold my hands over the keyboard. I could have thrown something at him!
Ugh, just needed to get that off my chest.
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
I'm sorry yours is bugging you
Aww, I hear you. I hate it when DH tries to rationalize something that I want to be irrational about. Yesterday, I was really upset about testing positive for GBS. He kept insisting that it wasn't a big deal, but I was in pity party mode. He said, "Am I just supposed to support your complaining then?"
Yes. Yes, that is your one and only job for the next two to three weeks.
BFP #1 mm/c at 12w1d
Yup. He definitely doesn't get that most pregnant women aren't going to have a b*tch fest about pregnancy with their male acquaintences and friends. I usually put on a smile for co-workers, and while out in public, so it's nice to be able to come home and vent.
I honestly feel like the slim quick commercial where I just look at food and I gain 5 lbs, and of course my BF can go on a junk food binge and not gain a single pound. I wanted to smack him when he had the nerve to complain about how he's getting a "pot belly", when his stomach is still perfectly flat, and I have a big ol prego belly!!
Oh, and then he had the nerve to tell me I look like a "Hugry hungry hippo" while I was eating.....THANKS.