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Sad. Mad. All the above

CoIvieCoIvie member
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So I'm laying in bed .. Crying.. Like I've done many of nights.. I'm so tired of it but when the thoughts pop up, they pop up..

I'm excited about being pregnant, I cannot wait to meet my daughter in November. Too bad I can't say the same for her dad and its PISSING ME OFF!! Some days it doesn't bother me but when it's time for bed, all the thoughts come racing

I honestly can't tell you how he feels about having a child on the way. Why? Because He hasn't responded to a thing I've said since I told him. He didn't respond when I told him I was pregnant, no response when I told him it was a girl. NOTHING. I keep hearing "well he's young and his life is about to change..so guys come around after the baby is born..they don't take pregnancy like females do"

F THAT! F ALL OF THAT! IM YOUNG TOO AND MY LIFE IS CHANGING TOO SO WTF! I'm 21 and he's 23. But he can f!!! Off just because he's young!? No! You're young and have a responsibility on the way!

WHAT KILLS ME THE MOST IS .. HE HAS HIS FATHER IN HIS LIFE!! I had mine in my life until he passed away!! So what in hell makes you think your daughter doesn't deserve the same privilege that we got and that you're still getting!! How can you not have some type of response to half of you coming in this world? Your first born! And my first born! Yet, you're keeping up with me because you still follow my Instagram and I post pics on there all the time!!

I don't want a relationship with him.. But I do want my daughter to have her daddy!! I was a daddy's girl and she deserves the same!

Okay.. Rant over...woosah
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  • eg214eg214 member

    I'm so sorry. Tonight has been a cry your eyes out night for me too. It's unbelievable these assbags can act this way. Mine didn't have his dad, so the fact he wants to not be around for the pregnancy and help pay for anything but have half custody is just amazing. It's just disgusting. All of this. For me, the sooner I fully accept he is an a-hole and is not going to do what he needs to do...the easier it will be for me. I just don't want to do this alone, so accepting that is hard as heck for me. I wish he would just disappear.

    Hugs. 


    PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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  • inthelostinthelost member
    I feel the SAME way about my daughter's sperm donor. I'm sorry you're going through this too. I don't know if he'll "come around" after the birth or not, I wish I could tell you he would, but I can't. If he doesn't, then good riddance to him. Your daughter (and mine) are probably better off without them, besides, it doesn't mean they can't have plenty of positive male influences in their lives, for me I know that my own father, my grandfather, and my best guy friend will always be there for my daughter if she needs it. And I'm sure there will be positive male role models for your daughter too. *hugs*
    Liliana Seraphina born 9/5/2103


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  • CoIvieCoIvie member
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    I'm so sorry. Tonight has been a cry your eyes out night for me too. It's unbelievable these assbags can act this way. Mine didn't have his dad, so the fact he wants to not be around for the pregnancy and help pay for anything but have half custody is just amazing. It's just disgusting. All of this. For me, the sooner I fully accept he is an ahole and is not going to do what he needs to do...the easier it will be for me. I just don't want to do this alone, so accepting that is hard as heck for me. I wish he would just disappear.Hugs.nbsp;


    Yes. Can't live with them, can't live without them. It's like "thanks for helping me create my blessing"
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  • CoIvieCoIvie member
    imageinthelost:
    I feel the SAME way about my daughter's sperm donor. I'm sorry you're going through this too. I don't know if he'll "come around" after the birth or not, I wish I could tell you he would, but I can't. If he doesn't, then good riddance to him. Your daughter and mine are probably better off without them, besides, it doesn't mean they can't have plenty of positive male influences in their lives, for me I know that my own father, my grandfather, and my best guy friend will always be there for my daughter if she needs it. And I'm sure there will be positive male role models for your daughter too. hugs


    This is true. My dad is no longer alive but I know he would've been the perfect role model. But I do have some other older males who are important in my life and excited about seeing her. Along with a couple of males friends. So you're right. I guess it's just nothing like having your actual dad ya know? It's so stupid
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  • CoIvieCoIvie member
    I just want to leave mean messages on his pictures and stats. But I decided that I'm better than that. And I don't want to play "crazy baby mama" since there is still a SLIGHT chance that things could change
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  • SheenafontenotSheenafontenot member
    Wow this sounds exactly like my daughters father only he's 31!! "He's young" is no excuse! Nothing is an excuse. I send pictures of the ultrasound and he doesn't reply. I told him it was a girl and no reply. I'm due October and I've stopped crying over it and accepted that I'm in this alone. Their behavior is unjustified and inexcusable. I just hope one day they regret their actions. Until then, stay strong.
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