we were running a few errands today and while holding my 14 month old the guy at Dunkin Doughnuts gave him a munchkin, my 3 year old was standing a foot away. Later the cashier at the corner store gave him a chocolate while DD was on the other side of the counter, but I know he knew she was there. She didn't notice either time and I was grateful to the men, but I felt horrible for DD. Have you delt with this? What do you do for the older one?