Going to see Male specialist Obgyn and nervous!

Re: Going to see Male specialist Obgyn and nervous!

• memali26 member

  July 2013

  Really, don't worry about it! I just tell myself that in their line of work they have to have seen worse than me, right? I used to be uncomfortable with male OB/GYNs, too, but after having two kids my favorite OB ever was a male. Once your in the thick of it you don't really care if they are male/female, so long as you're getting the care you need.

  As far as your husband being in the room, I would leave that up to his comfort level, personally. My DH was with me for a pelvic exam and several pelvic u/s my first pregnancy, and it was a little weird at first, but as he pointed out, he would be there when the baby was born, what's one pelvic exam? 

  Mama to two sweet girls
  DD1 Feb 2010
  DD2 Sept 2011
  
  
  

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• kneenah1231 member

  July 2013

  Welcome, sorry for your losses but congrats on your current pregnancy. My high risk dr is female but my normal ob is a male. The benefits of having a female dr while pregnant is they understand more. Most already have children and know the struggles of pregnancy but I find a male dr is more open to hear your suggestions.
  
  As far as your husband being in the room, me personally I have my hubby wait outside during that exam. My dr yes is a man but he does my pelvic exams in less then 1min and is very professional. Remember there will be a female in the room with you. If you had your pelvic exam already with your other dr I doubt he will do one but if events occur during your pregnancy expect him to ck you...
  
  Good luck and hope you have a great 9 months

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• chicagobride_07 member

  July 2013

  Both my ob and Mfm were male.  

  
  DOR and AMA
  2/12-5/12: 4 IUI cycles = all BFN;
  7/12: DE IVF # 1 (with ICSI)- 20R, 16M, 14F, 5DT of 2 blasts; 6 frosties = BFN;
  Lupus anticoagulant initially high, then found to be normal on hematology consult;
  Follow up testing in September all clear;
  Started synthroid for "high normal" TSH;
  FET # 1- late October 2012- BFP on FRER; beta # 1- 21(low), beta # 2- 48 (still low), beta # 3- 132, beta # 4- 1,293; beta # 5- 5,606; last beta- over 100,000. First u/s 11/21- heard heartbeat
  12/12- Officially an OB patient!
  Level 2 ultrasound at 20 weeks shows vasa previa and VCI
  Referral to MFM and mandatory c section for delivery
  Beautiful baby girl born at 34 weeks
  Finally home after 15 day NICU stay!
  Trying for sibling: FET # 2- May 2014; beta 5/31, BFN
  FET #3, early July 2014; beta 7/14, BFN
  DE IVF # 2- August 2014; 14R, 13M, 11F, 5dt of 2 blasts (3 AA), 5 frosties = BFN
  FET #4- December 2014, yet another BFN

  Dr. KK work up shows borderline uterine blood flow, elevated NK cells, and MTHFR mutation (homozygous for c677t)

  Added baby aspirin, prednisone, supplements, Metanx, and intralipids

  Switched to large clinic for final attempt; had endometrial receptivity testing in January; FET March 2015 = yet another BFN

  Likely OAD- NBC

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• takmjs member

  July 2013

  My OB was a female, but she referred me to a MFM when we realized I was high risk. I saw a male MFM initially and loved him from that first appointment. He works in a practice with another MFM (female), and I do not like her at all (she pet my head, and she asked me if I thought I should go on bedrest--like I had the medical knowledge to make that decision, and like my short-term disability and work would pay for me being gone without a doctor saying it was medically necessary). Ugh, she's frustrating!  

  I wouldn't worry so much about the lady-parts stuff; he does/sees that all day long. I would worry more about the bedside manner, his ability to answer your questions thoroughly, and his experience with your type of high-risk situation. I'm going back to him for my next pregancy even though our insurance changed and he's now out-of-network, because he really knew his stuff and I had complete trust in his decisions. I'm just going to insist that I only come in on days when he's there, so I don't get his crazy partner lady....if I can help it.

  Fyi, my hubby stayed in the room for my pelvic exams. Most of the time, the doc just peeks at you quick to find the spot where their finger goes, and then they aren't staring at you down there; they're talking about what they're feeling--dilation, etc. (mine initially felt to see if I had 1 cervix or 2). I actually thought it was more uncomfortable when my female OB did a breast exam on me while he was in the room.

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• lkm2006 member

  July 2013

  I have a female ob but my MFM was a male. I never had a pelvic exam.
  
  He did the sonogram and then decided I would need an internal sonogram and got the tech to do it [female]. I had my mom and my husband with me and was completely comfortable. Probably more awkward having my mom in the room than even worrying about a male doctor.
  
  FWIW, I had to see the on call OB early in my pregnancy for bleeding and that did include a pelvic exam. He was so completely professional [i actually considered switching to him briefly] and never made me feel uncomfortable at all.

   

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• SilverThrone

  July 2013

  thanks for the feedback...i feel better about this appointment. Just never had a male peek down there and have to discuss intimate stuff ...other than with my husband..LOL!!

   

   

  4 Miscarriages. Me: 34, DH: 35. married since 2006. Trying for first baby.

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