Major Tantrums

Re: Major Tantrums

• CrawltheWarriorKing member

  July 2013

  CrisM022:

  My son is 17 months old. He was a been a great baby up until a few months ago and then the tantrums started. They are becoming more and more frequent and dramatic. I asked daycare if he was doing this with them and they said not at all. I am not rushing over to him and giving in when this happens. I am not sure why this is going on. I guess I need advice on what to do when he throws himself on the floor and starts screaming because he was told no.

  I'm having the same issue with my DD.  I just walk away or ignore her and walk around her.  I actually started videoing her so I can show her during her teenage years  

  I don't have advice other than what I've been told - don't give in and ignore.  Supposedly they get over it/grow out of it....we shall see!

  

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• hallewoodgal

  July 2013

  I don't have an answer, but I can relate.  My 16 month old started this recently, and so far we're just ignoring her. Like you, she doesn't do this at daycare (or with her Dad).  Only with me.  I don't know if ignorign her is working, but I do know that giving in will only encourage the tantrum. 

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• MaggieF516 member

  July 2013

  My son is starting to do this (and it sounds like he is starting kinda young). I find he is especially moody like this when we are at home. I think he gets bored and cranky. I take him out and about as much as possible as he is in a MUCH better mood. We go to the pool, the playground, shopping, grocery store, etc. in the evenings. I do household things (clean up, load dishwasher, etc) after he goes to bed. I've given up on trying them when he is there as it is tantrum time if he isn't getting 100% attention or being held. He literally does this when I set him down so I can pee!! It is very frustrating at times. When he does this at home, I try to distract him with something he loves doing and he will usually get his mind off of what he was initially upset about. My son is also more dramatic with me. I cannot explain it either.

  

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• meg_2006 member

  July 2013

  Most tantrums are due to a lack of communication skills at this age, so when I sense a tantrum coming I try to get down level with him and communicate in same way. "What is it you want?" "We can't do that because..." Sometimes that can damper the tantrum, other times its inevitable. Once the tantrum is started I ignore him until he's done. No eye contact, no looking at him period, no talking to him until its run its course. Some people say try to distract them with something else...that really doesn't work for us though.

  
  

  
  
  

  
  

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• shannm member

  July 2013

  Unless he was hurting himself or someone else, I would ignore it completely.

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• ChelsiAnn13 member

  July 2013

  I am a first time mom so who knows if I am doing this right but this is what I do...
  
  If my DD is throwing a fit because we said no or something similar I walk away/ ignore it. She has done this at the mall even (it was an empty walkway in a non busy mall) and I just started to walk away. It was funny because she would get up and follow then fall back to the ground every time my mom insisted we stop. 
  When she is ready and has calmed down then I will acknowledge her, sit her down and talk about the situation even if I know she won't understand everything I say. I then ask for an apology, hug/ kiss and go on with things. 
  
  She has gotten into a bit of a hitting stage and has come up and hit me. At that point I stop, grab her hands, tell her hitting hurts and we do not hit and ask her to say sorry. If she continues to hit I ignore her until she calms down like above, walking away so she can not hit me.
  
  I plan to introduce some sort of method she can turn to because I know she does this to release her frustration and I think she is almost at an age where she can start to channel it a bit more. Even if that is rawring like a lion or screaming into a pillow. I may also, when I think she has more emotional control and the tantrums become more of a choice will start doing time outs.
  
  I do want to note she doesn't throw tons of tantrums so I don't know if my method will help you but I don't think I would change it even if she did.
  Also there may be people who don't like my method because I don't change it even in public. But I care more about how I am raising my child then what people think.

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