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Newly on my own

sparrowmomma24sparrowmomma24 member
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I was told that online support can be some of the greatest out there.  So I figured I'd take a chance and try it. 

 

I'm 26 years old and I'm going to be a single mom. After TTC for several years with my ex husband, we divorced and I gave up on having kids. I met my current ex fiance and we started a life together.  About a month ago I found out that I'm expecting. When I told the father (my fiance) he told me to abort the baby or leave. I made the hard decision to leave.  The day before I left, he begged me to stay.  I left anyway under the premise that we were going to try to work it out, but we both needed some time.  It's been two weeks since I left and he's already moved on. He's trying to be supportive (emotionally) when he can, but that's it.  

 I'm so very thankful for this baby, but it's hard being alone. Even though I know it was the right decision. I'm hoping to find other single moms out there to connect with and lean on for support.  There are times I'm so happy that I could burst. And other times I feel very alone. I'm sad that I won't have that person next to me when this child is born, the one who will hold me and kiss me and look at me with love.  But I do have family and friends supporting me, so I'm very very blessed. 

 So that's my story.  

**TW loss mentioned **



12 miscarriages in first marriage (2007-2011)
Surprise BFP - 06/2013
Daughter stillborn at 22 weeks - 09/09/2013
Married my best friend - 09/03/2016
Genetic testing came back with APS - 10/03/2016
TTCAL - 10/21/2016
BFP - 11/18/2016
EDD of Rainbow baby - 07/30/2017
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Re: Newly on my own

  • tracy41tracy41 member
    Welcome! And congrats on your pregnancy! Unexpected gifts are a shock but no less a miracle. It's hard when the relationship doesn't work out but you can still maintain a good co parenting relationship and that will take some of the pressure off!

    Most of us know how hard a pregnancy can be on your own so feel free to vent or celebrate here!
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  • inthelostinthelost member
    welcome to the board and congrats on your pregnancy! Mine was not planned either and was not very happy about it at first, but now I love my daughter and can't wait to  meet her! As the PP poster said, feel free to vent whenever you need it! 
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  • sparrowmomma24sparrowmomma24 member

    I was hoping to maintain that good relationship with the father, but it's not working out that way. He wants nothing to do with the child so I guess it will just be me on my own.  No matter how hard that can be to hear, I'd rather do it alone than have my child feel unwanted or unimportant.  

     

    Thank you so much for the support.  I'm excited to find out the sex in a few weeks and then hopefully start buying all the cute baby stuff I can get my hands on! 

    **TW loss mentioned **



    12 miscarriages in first marriage (2007-2011)
    Surprise BFP - 06/2013
    Daughter stillborn at 22 weeks - 09/09/2013
    Married my best friend - 09/03/2016
    Genetic testing came back with APS - 10/03/2016
    TTCAL - 10/21/2016
    BFP - 11/18/2016
    EDD of Rainbow baby - 07/30/2017
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