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Big Shower. Big question
Hello to all!
I am hosting a baby shower for one of my best friends who is expecting "TWIN"cesses in late Nov. The shower size is pretty large and I want her to be able to get a variety of clothing sizes for the girls. Q1: would it be rude to group up individuals on the invites an ask them to bring specific sizes? (We're expecting aprox. 100 guest, so groups of 25 newborn-3mths, 3-6mth, 6-9mth, 9-12+) Q2: How should I word it so it sounds inviting and not rude.?
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Re: Big Shower. Big question
There's no way to word it w/o sounding rude because it is rude.
Your friend will get what she gets, and return/ exchange/ donate what she can't/ won't use.
Sorry.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
This exactly... plus if you do this she might get way more clothes than otherwise and no baby gear. This is a bad idea all around.
...twincesses?
I was thinking maybe princesses that are twins? Also, OP- I 2nd and 3rd what the other posters say, no way to do it kindly. It's a good "idea" but in reality can be nothing more than that. People are usually good at bringing receipts, and a lot of stores will do exchanges/store credit without them. It can easily be done in one trip, just maybe offer to go along with her to help.
Married: August 2012
DD: 9/22/2014
I know... It's awful. I hate the whole princess crap.
Ditto. "Twincesses" just takes the cake though. I'm going to force my daughter to play "construction worker." Just so I can privately gloat about twarting this "princess" craze. I have a vagina...does that make me a princess? Because I'm pretty sure I'm not...
Oh, and 100 people at a baby shower? FFS...
OP, don't mention the clothes at all. If she needs to exchange something, she can. Let people buy what they want.
Yes, what you are suggesting is rude. It is never ok to tell people how to spend their own money. If people ask, then yes it is perfectly fine to say she will need clothes in bigger sizes, but to just dicate that on the invite is not polite at all.
Look, these guests are already taking time out of their day to come and honor, celebrate, buy, wrap and give your friend a gift. Please don't do this. It will reflect very badly on you.
A baby shower isn't much different than Christmas. Would your friend feel comfortable going up to her grandma and saying " Grandma, you're going to get me a new blender for Christmas. Aunt Sally, I am assigning you a new blouse I saw at the mall. Cousin Julie, you are going to buy me some accessories for my living room." No, of course not. Both are cases where you get what you get. If someone wants to know what she wants, they can consult the registry.
You can invite 100 people.. I really don't think 100 people will show up. That is insane.
Also, agree with everyone else. Please don't tell people what they should bring.
I agree putting specifications for gifts is not a good idea.
Also consider this: clothing that is bought in larger sizes is often out of season if purchased all at once. The baby born in summer will not need 6 month summer clothes, because it will be winter.
What she is unable to return she can consign or donate. There are a lot of things you can do to still get use out of items that are not needed. Just do not tell people what to give the mother or baby.
LOL
This is a good point. I know when I go to a baby shower I usually get season appropriate clothes that are I nthe 9-12 month range.
This. I registered for multi-packs of onesies in all sizes up to 12 months. I got all of the sizes, and I even got some 2T pajamas. Nobody was assigned anything.
Besides, I'm sure the guests aren't dummies. Many will naturally buy clothes of varying sizes. I did not have 100 guests between my 3 showers, and I still got clothes from sizes Newborn all the way to 18mos.
it drives me crazy with weddings, too. Whenever anyone used the word I would tell them I am not marrying someone who is inheriting a small country, I am not a princess.