Boyfriends walked out on me!

Sarahxtj · July 2013

After 2 years and a roller coaster relationship my bf has decided at 10 weeks pregnant he doesn't think we should be together. All I've done is cry and I'm so confused and alone. Has his happened to anyone and if so how did you cope? Can't believe he's done this to me after begging me months ago to take him back and now look! So angry with myself!

mininickle · July 2013

Sorry, i have never been in your shoes but wow...that is absolutely terrible. If i were to give him the benefit of the doubt I would say maybe he's freaking out about becoming a father? But truly, i was scared when i got pregnant too and i am married. It's a huge life change and i am sure you have worries too! He needs to step up and be a father and support you emotionally as the mother of his child! I hope things work out and at the very least, you have financial support from him because he made the baby too, you didn't on your own! You can do it! 3

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Yeah I know I can't believe he's done this he says he loves me but he doesn't think we should be together cause all we do is argue.. I'm so hormonal and crazy I have him cheating on me with girls from his work he says he's not and he's sorry the way things have worked out.. I'm so confused all of his stuff is still here so I just need to ignore him if he contacts me and try show him I'm not bothered .. I feel asthough I'm playing games and I'm over it. I should be excited and happy instead I'm sad and lost. I think your right he is running away as he doesn't want to step up to he responsibility but he already has a 6 year old ! So stressed out! Thanks for ur reply xx

TradeMama · July 2013

I was in your shoes 8 years ago. It's rough adjusting but it's doable and things get better.

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Horrible .. I'm still in shock. How did u mange to get over it? X

Jessie43082 · July 2013

Sorry your going through this. Is he at least being supportive of the pregnancy? I broke up with my boyfriend a week before I found out. We aren't back together but we are trying to figure out if we can work things out. At least he's supportive of the pregnancy and wants to be a daddy to my little boy even if we don't work out.

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Yeah we'll he's acting like he don't care n that's what hurts the most I think. He says hel give me money for "the kid" tht was his words. I'm totally scunnered. Can't believe he's done this at the time I need him the most. He doesn't have the mentality to sit down and talk and try work things out . Horrible little man! Xx

MarineWife6713 · July 2013

This happened to me as well. He walked out when i was about 3 months. Came home on a lunch break all his things were gone. I heard from him at about 6 months, told him he was having a boy. Never heard from him again. Which ended up fine with me. He never knew my sons name, birthday or even what he looks like. You can do it alone if you have to, plenty of people do. I never filed for child support or anything because i wanted nothing to do with him that was asking for problems. He actually died about 8 months ago.
My son will be 3 in october, i am now married to an amazing man father to my son and we are expecting 2. Things happen the way they do for a reason. Good luck to you

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Omg your post actually made me cry cause your one of the few people who know how I feel at this exact moment.. Like my hearts been ripped out. So glad you've finally met someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated .. I feel very insecure and alone.. Just going to hairdressers to pamper myself I need to get out this funk.. All tips welcome? Xx

Gemz1989 · July 2013

I'm in ur shoes right now Hun I told him I was pregnant and he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby I don't know y he acted like a complete prick but never mind just means I'm going to be a strong single mother. I'm sure u will be fine if I'm getting my head round being a single mam then I'm sure u will be just as good of mother being single. U don't need a man that takes the piss with a relationship.

ktpaladino · July 2013

Sounds like you're probably going to be better off without this guy. I know you're extremely scared but I have a ton of single parent friends doing just fine on their own. It's definitely not easy, but you can do it. GL, I hope everything works out for you and the little one!

Sarahxtj · July 2013

There all the same daft wee boys that can't take responibility for their actions.. I'm trying to see it as he's done me a favour! Scum bag . Hope your ok I know how u feel. Xx

Sarahxtj · July 2013

I'm just lucky I have a supportive family .. It's his loss .. Waste of space so he is .. I know il be fine still hurts like a *** though .. Never would of expected this from him. X

beccam1230 · July 2013

It's ridiculous that he thinks he can call himself a man. What he did was cowardly and shameful and I hope he lives to regret it. You, on the other hand, will be everything in the world to your sweet baby! I know it's easier for me to say than for you to handle, but you're probably better off. You have the chance to teach your child how to treat other people and unfortunately you have plenty of first hand experience on what the baby should know. Don't be angry with yourself, you can only do what you think is right at the time. Do you have family who can help you through this?

I'm so sorry this happened to you!

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Yeah your totally right he says he will give me money.. How nice of him eh. Hate him so much hope he has a miserable lonely life! And yeah i have a supportive family and friends luckily still doesn't numb the pain. We lost a baby last year at 5 months so he knows how scared I am and he has done this to me.. I have no words left. Nasty piece of work and best bit about it he acts like he doesn't give a ***! Waste of my time ! Xx

JennyLeighG · July 2013

These scenarios are so disturbing to me. My sister experienced something similar after she gave birth to her first child. My niece was six months old when the 'father' moved 200 + miles away while my sister was away at work and later told my sister that he just wasn't ready to be a father. He never showed up to any of the court hearings so my sister was granted full custody and decided to not ask for child support. He hasn't had contact with her or my niece since and my niece is now 16. I remember it was very hard on my sister at first (expected) but she is now happily marred with two additional children. :-)

I expected to be in your position two weeks ago when I told my boyfriend of three + years that I was 4 weeks pregnant. He has always been honest about not wanting children so I was terrified to tell him but he actually took the news a lot better than what I anticipated. I miscarried two days after I told him but now I understand why it all happened. It opened my eyes to what I truly want out of life and to the fact that I want it with him.

I wish you all the best. You don't need this negativity in your life right now, or ever for that matter.

Sarahxtj · July 2013

That is so sad.. I know exactly how your sister feels .. Numb just now maybe have a cry later. The way I keep telling myself is he's done me a favour as all we do is argue anyway so what am I going to miss.. Can't believe I'm in this situation he told me to get a abortion yesterday!

I'm sorry for your loss but your right what's meant to be will be.. I'm still figuring out why I'm pregnant to a like him but there must be some mad reasons behind it.

I'm glad things worked out for your sister.. It's his loss and good for her. Xx

JennyLeighG · July 2013

Sarahxtj:
That is so sad.. I know exactly how your sister feels .. Numb just now maybe have a cry later. The way I keep telling myself is he's done me a favour as all we do is argue anyway so what am I going to miss.. Can't believe I'm in this situation he told me to get a abortion yesterday! I'm sorry for your loss but your right what's meant to be will be.. I'm still figuring out why I'm pregnant to a like him but there must be some mad reasons behind it. I'm glad things worked out for your sister.. It's his loss and good for her. Xx

Don't allow him to pressure you into anything you don't want to do. I'm not saying that you would, but I know some of the things that can be said by a guy who doesn't want a child and they can be so hurtful and heartless. They'll try anything to get you upset sometimes and make you feel like you won't be able to do this without them. As you've said before, this is his loss and while it may not be the ideal scenario now it will all work out for the best. Stay strong for yourself and your child. We're all here if/when you need to vent or talk things through. :-)

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Thank you so much . I'm trying not to text or call him wich is so hard as I have so many unanswered questions and he's avoiding me like the plague! All I want is a bit o support through my pregnancy and my baby to have a dad to some extent . I feel as though I'm asking for the world. So hard right now n he doesn't give a dalm x

Unknown · July 2013

i know how you feel, my daughters father walked out on me when i found out i was pregnant at 12wks, i found it tough being 18 at the tome and felt alone and when i broke dwn in tears infront of my mum luckily she helped support me, i recently had 2 make the decision to leave my current partner after he was abusive and being 17wks pregnant 2 him. i hope your ok, you can get through this, have you spoken to your side of the family about this, maybe they can help you

Sarahxtj · July 2013

Thanks I hope so! He's horrible! My mum and sister very supportive just saying the usual stuff like u don't need him etc. it's sad n can't believe it ! X

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