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Hospital Care Packages

WindyCity33WindyCity33 member
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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind my posting here. I haven't posted here because I wasn't sure if I had been far enough along (18w gestation) when I delivered. I've lurked a few times and am touched by the size of your hearts and compassion. I think this may be the best place to ask my question... 

Now to the purpose of my post. Recently a fellow loss parent touched my heart and I want to essentially pay it forward. So, I want to put some kind of mini-care packages together for mama's who have had to deliver their babies knowing that they were delivering angels. My grief counselor is connected with the hospital where I delivered and while I haven't broached this with her I'm pretty confident she'll be on board with making sure that those who need it receive the package. All of that being said, what would you include? Are there things you wish you had while in the hospital or after that you may not have thought of. I was in pretty big denial at that point so I'm having a hard time making sure that I put something together that is heartfelt and helpful without crossing any lines. I appreciate any feedback that you have.

Gigantic (((hugs))). You're an amazing group of women.

ETA: The hospital was pretty good with lists of people to contact and information on handling the mental and physical trauma that most often comes along with what's happened. They also offer memory boxes. I guess I'm looking for the little things (no matter how trivial they may seem) that might help whether it's a new bottle of nail polish or whatever you think may be something that could offer even a second of help.

Unmedicated and medicated IUI's: all fail
IVF #1: Dec 2012 16m/15f 12/9: 5dt of 2 beautiful blasts and 5 frosties
TWINS!
15w4d:baby a-pProm
March 25: 18w...2 baby boys born sleeping
July 29: FET-BFN

Sept: TAC placed

Oct 27: FET #2-Cancelled-monster cyst producing insane amounts of estrogen

Nov 13: FET #2-take 2
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Re: Hospital Care Packages

  • L RosL Ros member
    Hope you ladies don't mind me posting. Im from the miscarriage board but have been lurking here since our board is still under maintenance.

    I wasn't as far along when I lost my baby, only 8wks, but my best friend picked me up from the hospital after my loss [SO was away for military training] and she gave me a journal that reminded me of her. It seems like such a small thing, but I've written in it every single day since my loss and it has helped tremendously. Im normally not good at writing in them, but I found like it was a really good outlet for me.

    Also, I just want to point out that I think what you are doing is an amazing thing! I can't imagine how many wonderful ladies will be touched and feel loved receiving your care packages. Im so sorry you went through your loss, you sound like such an amazing person!
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  • NoetholaNoethola member

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    The box that was given to us from our hospital had a gown that fit with her gestational age (so it would fit her and not look huge) and a hand crocheted blanket. What I wish to this day I had: a plaster kit to make hand and foot prints. We got prints of her footprints, but the plaster is 3D. I so wish that we had those to put on the Christmas tree or put on the mantle or something. 

    We also brought home hair clippings, the tape they used the measure her, her baby cap, etc. 

    Lilypie - (qptF)


    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers 
    "Elsie Irene was born sleeping at 35w 6d on December 8, 2012. Mommy and Daddy miss you sweet girl."


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  • WindyCity33WindyCity33 member
    Thanks for the suggestions! I appreciate your responses!

    Unmedicated and medicated IUI's: all fail
    IVF #1: Dec 2012 16m/15f 12/9: 5dt of 2 beautiful blasts and 5 frosties
    TWINS!
    15w4d:baby a-pProm
    March 25: 18w...2 baby boys born sleeping
    July 29: FET-BFN

    Sept: TAC placed

    Oct 27: FET #2-Cancelled-monster cyst producing insane amounts of estrogen

    Nov 13: FET #2-take 2
    imageimage

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  • schulme2schulme2 member
    Great question! That's very sweet of you. I'm so sorry about the loss of your little one. I had the same urge to do something. I ordered a bunch of the book, "Mommy, Please Don't Cry" and wrote on the inside in memory of my sweet Mary. I gave them to the NICU for them to give to anyone who lost a baby. It was kind of twofold for me because I got to do something to help grieving parents and also honor my daughter's memory.
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  • WindyCity33WindyCity33 member

    imageschulme2:
    Great question! That's very sweet of you. I'm so sorry about the loss of your little one. I had the same urge to do something. I ordered a bunch of the book, "Mommy, Please Don't Cry" and wrote on the inside in memory of my sweet Mary. I gave them to the NICU for them to give to anyone who lost a baby. It was kind of twofold for me because I got to do something to help grieving parents and also honor my daughter's memory.

    I love this 

    Unmedicated and medicated IUI's: all fail
    IVF #1: Dec 2012 16m/15f 12/9: 5dt of 2 beautiful blasts and 5 frosties
    TWINS!
    15w4d:baby a-pProm
    March 25: 18w...2 baby boys born sleeping
    July 29: FET-BFN

    Sept: TAC placed

    Oct 27: FET #2-Cancelled-monster cyst producing insane amounts of estrogen

    Nov 13: FET #2-take 2
    imageimage

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