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TTC #2 1st child is 16yo

kcareybearkcareybear member
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I turned 35 a few months ago and the baby bug hit me like lightning. My daughter is 16 and I had always wanted more, it just never seemed like the right time.  We have been trying for like 6 months and nothing yet.  When my daughter was about 4 I got pregnant twice in one year but due to my circumstances, I chose to end those pregnancies.  I felt then and still feel guilty about it.  I want to have a baby so bad now that my life has finally settled down and I am in a wonderful relationship.  Am I being punished for making that decision so long ago or am I just impatient? 

 

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  • megad80megad80
    I wish I didn't know what you were going through! When I was ttc my first I went through those same feelings about choosing to end my first pregnancy. I went through two miscarriages before my beautiful baby girl arrived. Now we're trying for #2 and the same emotions are surfacing.
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  • StephPVStephPV member

    You are not being punished! 

     

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  • on42on42 member

    You DEFINITELY are NOT being punished. You made a decision you felt at the time was right for you. Hold yourself with love, and be patient. :)

    A friend last night was telling me how she had her first, tried for over 10 years with no luck. Her daughter was a teenager before she had stopped trying and got pregnant again finally (her daughter was 16 at that time, too). 

    I've never been able to get pregnant, was told my AMH levels were extremely low (which they correlate with diminished ovarian reserve), stopped TTC, and got a surprise BFP in May (ended in M/C). 

    GOOD LUCK! It will happen... stay hopeful!

    xoxo 


    Sarah, 38 | Nathan, 40 | Maxine b. 11/2014 | TTC #2


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  • GeekywifeGeekywife member

    You are not being punished.

    Sometimes things just take time.  Keep your head up high. Things will get better.

    Welcome to our group. I hope you have a short stay that is sweet.

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  • dragonlady1dragonlady1 member
    Definitely not a punishment, although it feels like it many days even without your special circumstances.  Keep positive, and good luck!
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  • HeathernStevenHeathernSteven member

    You are not being punished you made the decision that was right for you at that time. However since its been 6 months go to an RE and I would ask for the HSG, and to have your uterus checked that there was no scarring from the terminations. That coul;d be a problem.

    But I wish you peace and a BFP :)

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    Me: 41 DH: 46. We are TTC our 1st, started July '11,
    3 cycles clomid with Ob,
    1 cycle Tamoxifen with Ob,
    Diagnosed PCOS 11/5/12
    clomid, trigger & timed bd 12/12 BFN
    1st clomid IUI 1/4/13 BFN.
    2nd clomid IUI 2/13 cancelled didn't respond to clomid.
    3/15/13 scheduled laparoscopy & on bcp.

    May 10 IUI from injectibles - BFN 

    May 22 done with interventions it will either happen or it won't. 

    February 2014 No longer actively trying, but not preventing. 

    SURPISE BFP 4/2/2015!!!!!!!!!!

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  • QOTRQOTR member
    imageHeathernSteven:

    You are not being punished you made the decision that was right for you at that time. However since its been 6 months go to an RE and I would ask for the HSG, and to have your uterus checked that there was no scarring from the terminations. That coul;d be a problem.

    But I wish you peace and a BFP :)

    Great advice.  Welcome and good luck.

    Me-41, Hubby-40.
    1st BFP-8/17/12!  Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US.  D&C.
    2nd BFP-2/13/13!  Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
    3rd BFP-5/22/13!  By early June, progesterone plummeting.  Another loss.
    August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
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  • MarylandWedMarylandWed member
    I see that as a spiritual question and it goes to what you believe. First if you asked this question I assume you believe there is a god because someone has to dole out the punishment after all. Is your god a punishing god? Mine isn't. I think things happen for a variety of reasons. I choose to believe whatever children are or are not in our lives is maybe because my child just hasn't been ready to come to me yet. I struggle with having waited too long. But maybe the decisions in my life that led me to hold off occurred because my child is taking his sweet time. maybe he is not ready to be an earthling yet. The bottom line is, it's common to feel the way you do but no one really knows so why punish yourself by thinking thoughts like that. If you are struggling with your decision though be sure to seek counseling. Hugs!
    Me:39 Dx LPD, Fibroid, AMA and all that goes with that. H:37 Dx low motility and low morphology. TTC since 3/12. Clomid 8/12 and 9/12: BFN. 11/12 on a break for Myomectomy sched. 11/26. Resume TTC early 2013.
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  • Jacque SillsJacque Sills member

    Welcome to the group.  Don't punish yourself and put those bad thoughts in your head.  Try to keep positive and maybe, you should make an appt., with an RE to check everything out to ensure that all is well with you. 

    Best of luck!  ;)

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  • kcareybearkcareybear member
    Thank u all for the positive answers. If we didn't conceive this month then I will see about an h s g. Had to type it that way cause it kept turning it into hag.
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