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lorist202
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Not in love with this job, but it's okay, right?
lorist202
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I've been working at my job since January after being a SAHM for 20 mos. I like the job and the conveniences are great- such as the cafeteria made-to order breakfast and lunch (I eat bacon, eggs and toast for $2 every morning). The commute is awesome too, only 10 min. from home, and 5 min. from daycare. DH and I will be TTC starting next month, and I think these conveniences will help immensely during my pregnancy. I'll stay home another 1.5 years after the birth of the baby.
Meanwhile, my boss has gone back on everything she offered me upon being hired, but I didn't have it in writing. It's disappointing to say the least. She really relies on me and I have a lot to offer the company. She's not really a good boss in any way. I'm really looking forward to the day when I go into work to tell her, "Guess what? I'm pregnant!!" My thought is that with the gap in my resume, this will be a good resume builder, with great conveniences for a pregnant, working mom, that I have no guilt about leaving following my pregnancy. Plus, looking for another job, only to become pregnant 2-3 mos. after starting, makes me uncomfortable.
Am I wasting my time to stick it out for the huge convenience, resume value and advantage of their obligation to keep me during pregnancy? I'll be there approx. another year or less, with below-industry pay and possibly no benefits.
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Re: Not in love with this job, but it's okay, right?
But are you only working because of your rsum? If that is the case, there are plenty of other ways to cover employment gaps, like volunteer work and continuing your education. If you don't want to work and can afford not to, then maybe go back to being a SAHM.
If you're planning to leave anyway, but want a job for your resume, I'd keep it until you have another baby. It'll look silly on your resume to have two jobs you keep for less than a year each and then stop working again.
What sort of things were promised to you but not delivered?
I started as a temp, for less pay than I was comfortable receiving, even as a temp, considering daycare, my industry, and my qualifications. I was told that the temp status would only be for a limited time, and then I would receive the actual pay for the position (significant increase) as well as benefits. My boss has been having some internal systematic troubles in our dept., and has been "under extreme stress" as a result (her words). I feel for her and have helped out in more ways then I should.
My temp time in has come and gone. I feel for her and all the troubles that she is having, but I wouldn't have taken a job with this salary. I've spoken to her multiple times, but she insists that the compensation package has changed due to some unforeseen transitions that are taking place in our dept.
I'm definately recieving entry-level pay. You had no way to know this, but I'm not so sure taking 20 mos. off to SAH constitutes starting over from scratch in my 10- year career (with glowing references and a great background), but I was willing to take the temporary probationary pay to get my feet wet. Had I known the probationary (entry-level) pay was all it was ever going to be, I would have sought out other opportunities to at least explore my options. You make a good point- I'm here now. My resume will reflect solid employment, and back to my original post- it is a really convenient place to work....
I agree. Less than a year is not that long. I would hang in there.
Is it possible that you're not living up to the expectations that she had for you? While you may think that you're doing a great job and living up to expectations, it sounds like you've checked out mentally already - you're TTC with the intent of not coming back, viewing the job as a resume builder, etc - there may be something in your attitude, mindset, or actions that your boss has picked up on. If you're not in it for the long-term, and she's sensed that - there's really no impetus for her to push to get you into a higher paying position.
I was thinking that this might be a possibility as well.
However, if you're just looking for a job to help pay bills and stick with until you have another child, then I don't see any point in looking for another job right now.
If you're only interested in a job to pass the time until your next baby comes, then I'm not sure switching is in your best interest. The only real benefit would be if you find something you like enough to change your mind about staying home for extended time after birth. Is that a possibility? Because I think it will look really bad to switch positions and then leave shortly after vs. staying at one job a few years.
You can look back and say "if I had known x was going to happen" and think about the different choices you would've made but even if you had kept looking, there's no way of knowing where you would be anyway. But it's not worth the energy to think about that and IMO you should just move forward.
FWIW it doesn't sound like you have a problem with your boss so much as the circumstances of your employment. While the pay may not be what you planned, if you only plan on staying another year-ish anyway I'd just stick it out.
Actually, it's just the opposite. We were planning on TTC, but I was actually convinced that I was returning to this job after baby because I'm the first to recognize that good jobs are hard to come by. Meanwhile, my boss has been sending me mixed messages, telling me what a great job I do, even announcing in company meetings that I'm here to stay. She even called me her "birthday gift" because I started on her birthday. Then when I ask about the fact that my probationary period is way over, and remind her of the terms that I was hired under, she indicates that both she and the dept. as a whole are undergoing some difficulties (that I'm fully aware of), and my position is directly affected, although my job is "in no way in danger." Talk about mixed messages....
At this point, yes, I've checked out mentally. I don't want to get into the juicy details, but let me just say that we're a 3 person department, and the other employee (of 21 years) is so fed up that she told my boss to start looking for her replacement. I'm going to hang around, collect my lousy check, and not grow.... except hopefully in the belly area pretty soon.