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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
hrhone328
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working moms: how long did it take you to adjust?
hrhone328
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Moms who went back to work... how long did it take for you to adjust being back at work and not having any separation anxiety (if you had any at all)? I've been back about 6 weeks now and I'm having some severe separation anxiety as of late. LO is being looked after by a family member, so it's not worry about her well being. I just HATE being away from her. I felt like I did pretty good the first month or so, but I feel like it's getting harder lately! Maybe I'm just hormonal? I just miss her terribly lately. I just want to be with her and watch her develop and grow! Lousy full-time job getting the way and everything. LOL
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Re: working moms: how long did it take you to adjust?
I've been back about 6 weeks too, and am going through the same thing! We went on vacation last week, and being with her all day every day again made it really hard to come back to work yesterday. She is just growing and changing so much right now, I feel like I'm missing everything.
So I don't really have much advice, but I feel your pain!!
This is why I think this week may have been hard. I was with her a lot more last week with the holiday and I took a day off b/c my daycare provider was on vacation. Almost felt like I was coming back to work all over again!
DD was about 8 months old before I could go to work without feeling like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. So far I haven't found it any easier with DS.
I have been back to work for about three months now and I think that it is still hard some days to be away from my LO. I wish I could be with him every second of the day---but I know that working gives us great health insurance and I am working to help provide him with things like clothes, toys, food and etc.
I find myself counting down the days till the weekend when I know I can be with him for two days straight. I also come home and make him the center of my world every day after work. I look forward to coming up with fun things to do---putting him in a little kiddie pool in the backyard with me, going to the mall, etc.
It's hard being a working mom----but I was home for three months and I saw the other side of things and it is hard to be a SAHM for different reasons. Either way, it's a balancing act. I take things one day at a time and never take my time with DS for granted---even on his crankiest days.
I think this is part of it for me too... she's so much more interactive and she's starting to roll over and grab at toys now. I'm just so afraid I'll miss her do something new and feel like it'll break my heart forever!
I know lots of moms do this and I know I'll adjust, but man, it is hard!
This is my second week and I feel totally at home. With DD1 it took me about 3 days to get over it. I may miss them sometimes, but I know they are taken care of, and they really aren't sitting there crying for me all day when I am gone...I usually have to drag DD1 out of DC actually haha.
I've been back at work since May 6 and it's gotten easier over time. My work was really great about allowing me time to job shadow for a little bit before getting back into duty full-time. It's still hard on me- his picture on my desk both helps and hurts, depending on how good a day I'm having. If I'm having a good day, it helps to just look over at his picture to keep me smiling; if I'm having a bad day, looking at his picture makes it worse because it reminds me of where I'd rather be. I wouldn't remove it for the world, though.
Honestly, I haven't been as interested in my job since having DS. I didn't particularly love it before, but I was more engaged in it and enthusiastic about it before Jake was born; now that I know he's at home waiting on me, there are times when I really just want the clock to hit 6 so I can get the heck out of Dodge! I just have to remind myself that I'm doing this for him and his security so that DH and I can adequately provide for him, and it keeps me going.