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tracint · July 2013

Hello again Ladies,

I hadn't been very active on this board for the last several months and that's mostly because the DH and I were preoccupied with our rainbow baby pregnancy... however, things didn't turn out the way we hoped and now we have two beautiful daughters in Heaven instead of here with us...

Last year (6/25/12) we lost our first baby girl, Edyn at 21w4d due to placental abruption and less than a year later (6/7/13) we lost our supposed to be rainbow baby, Lorelei at 21w2d because of an incompetent/weak cervix

I have my first postpartum appointment in a couple of weeks and I was wondering if anyone has had a similar experience or has some advice on what to ask/discuss with the doctors I'm all ears because I don't even know where to begin since the two causes of loss seem to be completely unrelated. Please feel free to email me also: pino356@yahoo.com

shandorfml2 · July 2013

I have no advice, but I am so, so sorry for the loss of your sweet daughters. They have such beautiful names....

Dixon813 · July 2013

My heart is breaking for you and your husband...I am so, so sorry.

No advice, just want you to know I'm praying for you.

angelsnight · July 2013

***Ticker warning***

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet daughters, it's just not fair to have to go through it once, let alone twice. I don't know where you stand on trying again someday, but you may want to ask your doctor about doing aa cerclage next time. Even if you can't even think about trying again anytime soon, getting information about what can be done next time may help you feel more in control.

Big huge hugs to you!

tuscanbride2007 · July 2013

I also have no advice, I just wanted to give you ((HUGS)). I am so sorry that you are going through this.

hopefulmom88 · July 2013

Sorry I do not have any advice but just wanted to let you know that you, your DH and your girls will be in my prayers. I hate that you have had to experience such loss twice and hope that you find comfort in this board. ((Hugs))

princezjk · July 2013

I'm sorry I don't have any insight or advice to share, just wanted to give you :::hugs::: and let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

meli1025 · July 2013

I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your daughters. My heart is breaking for you and your husband, it's just so unfair. You have all of my thoughts and prayers with you. ((hugs))

Noethola · July 2013

I am so very, very sorry for your losses.

PerkyErky · July 2013

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I lost my daughter at 20w4d on March 27th due to an incompetent cervix. This time around they will be doing a cerclage, basically sewing my cervix closed sometime between 14 and 16 weeks then most likely removing it around 37 weeks. I would ask if you get pregnant again is a cerclage possible. You may want to ask if somehow the incompetent cervix contributed to your first loss. If your cervix opened early the first time it could have allowed an infection into the uterus which lead ultimately to your loss.

I am so very sorry for both your losses.

tracint · July 2013

Thank you for all of the replies... I really do appreciate the thoughts and prayers as well.

figgs0831 · July 2013

Coming out of the shadows because this sounds so familiar to my story. I also had 2, 2nd trimester losses with unrelated issues.

Firstly, I am so incredibly sorry for your losses. I can only imagime the Shock and heartbreak you and your DH are going through. I will never understand why this happens and I wish I had better words for comfort.

My first loss was due to placenta issues. My 2nd ended when my membranes spontaneously broke and then had an abruption. We found out after that I seem to have some blood issues and they can not rule out incompoteny cervix. I've been to so many doctors and no one can come up with an acceptable plan forward. No one has a solution. We've determined that any future pregnancies will consist of the following: cerclage, lovenox, progesterone, 17P injections (again), baby aspirin, and folgard. They are basically giving me everything possible in hopes that I can make it to at least viability next time.

Has your doctor determined the cause of your abruption? Mine was due to some clotting and that was not determined until the bloodwork abd pathology reports came through. Definitely see an MFM at this point. Ask for one who specializes in placenal issues. Unfortunately, from what I have learned... once you have one, you are more likely to have another. Also, ask about the 17P shots. If you are not familiar, these are given weekly starting at 15 weeks. Their purpose is to calm the uterus and help prevent PTL. Aside from that, I really have no advice for you and your doctor.

Again, I am so very sorry for your losses. Feel free to PM me if you would like.

JessicaG220 · July 2013

Oh hun, my heart is breaking for you. I am so, so very sorry you've had to go through this nightmare twice. I would never wish that pain on anyone. I can't give you any advice, but my main concern after losing Ava at 30 weeks was just to ask my doctor how I can get my body in the best shape possible to avoid this again. I has many blood tests done, and a uterine septum removed. I want to ensure that I have done everything possible to make sure my next baby has the best chance at life. Hugs to you!!!!!

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