just need someone to nod their head yes and agree (vent)

jezebel57 · July 2013

Had a rough night last night with a HUGE argument with DH (which of course continued this morning). Ended up with a panic attack last night, didn't last too long but was definitely hyperventilating for 3-5 minutes. I am now PARANOID that the babies weren't getting oxygen and something is now wrong. i have since went back to dr. google (even though i swore him off) and everything i read says this is pretty common with all the hormones, etc... in pregnancy and is ok, but i would love someone to tell me that being upset and angry for a few hours isn't going to harm the babies and that the panic attack didnt' cause them harm either.

would appreciate anyone who wishes to agree with me to make me feel better. I have severe anxiety even pre-pregnancy and am seeing a counselor to deal with it and have been doing great up until last week. thanks ladies!

daiseydooda · July 2013

Oh you poor thing. Your babies are definitely fine.

Laylarue · July 2013

I'm so sorry! I think that everything is probably just fine. I'm really hoping it is because I had a disagreement with my mom this morning that threw me into a full crying anxiety attack. Fights suck, they especially suck while having all these hormones! ((hugs))

jezebel57 · July 2013

Laylarue:
I'm so sorry! I think that everything is probably just fine. I'm really hoping it is because I had a disagreement with my mom this morning that threw me into a full crying anxiety attack. Fights suck, they especially suck while having all these hormones! ((hugs))

oh thank god i'm not the only one! lol. i was actually able to calm myself down much quicker by thinking about them and concentrating on breathing but i'm worried because of the stress. everything i read says long term stress is what's bad, not short term so i'm trying to remind myself of that. thanks for the reply and i'm sorry you had a rough morning also. can't wait for the weekend-i'm so ready for this week to be over!

jezebel57 · July 2013

daiseydooda:
Oh you poor thing. Your babies are definitely fine.

knew i could count on you to keep me grounded! thanks for the head nod. each response makes me feel better that i'm not a horrible mommy already.

Roeni · July 2013

Why do DH's feel the need to argue ANYTHING when we are pregnant?!? This irritates me so badly. I have anxiety and while I haven't had a full blown panic attack, I have gotten very upset while arguing and worried about the baby's health. I think you will be just fine though. He needs to apologize for making you so upset while pregnant! I told my DH to forget about his own needs for once....the needs of our unborn babies should be the only thing that matters! (this was stemming from a fight we got into on 4th of July when I had gone to bed and he was blaring music and still partying with friends late when we agreed the party would end at 8pm).

luvboston · July 2013

your babies are fine, my baby would never breath if they didnt get o2 when you are upset:)

jezebel57 · July 2013

Roeni:
Why do DH's feel the need to argue ANYTHING when we are pregnant?!? This irritates me so badly. I have anxiety and while I haven't had a full blown panic attack, I have gotten very upset while arguing and worried about the baby's health. I think you will be just fine though. He needs to apologize for making you so upset while pregnant! I told my DH to forget about his own needs for once....the needs of our unborn babies should be the only thing that matters! (this was stemming from a fight we got into on 4th of July when I had gone to bed and he was blaring music and still partying with friends late when we agreed the party would end at 8pm).

ahhhhhh!!!!! they are frustrating at times, aren't they? i just think he truly doesn't understand what we go through with IF and now this. He saw I was getting upset (which he hates because I think it makes him feel bad) and said "i can't" and walked away. which in turn, made me feel worse. he did apologize this morning (which is huge for him, can count on 2 hands the amount of times that has happened in 14 years) so that made me feel better a bit. i'm just really, really sad lately. i'm sure it's hormones but it's depressing me!

jezebel57 · July 2013

luvboston:
your babies are fine, my baby would never breath if they didnt get o2 when you are upset:)

lol, thank you!!!!! i knew i could count on you PAIF ladies! i'm feeling much better.

mlamping · July 2013

I have very bad anxiety and get panic attacks daily. You will be fine. Good luck.

Keephope2012 · July 2013

I can commiserate on the anxiety front! And the stressing about the stressing. But I think your babies are fine!

Are you finding anything that helps? I'm struggling a bit. Headaches all day make exercise sound like sheer torture. I am trying to meditate with guided relaxation CDs and going to look for a prenatal yoga class. But still feel like I could be doing more to de-stress! I would love to hear what you re trying.

jezebel57 · July 2013

Keephope2012:
I can commiserate on the anxiety front! And the stressing about the stressing. But I think your babies are fine!
Are you finding anything that helps? I'm struggling a bit. Headaches all day make exercise sound like sheer torture. I am trying to meditate with guided relaxation CDs and going to look for a prenatal yoga class. But still feel like I could be doing more to de-stress! I would love to hear what you re trying.

i go to a counselor every 2 weeks who specializes in IF/anxiety. I also go to acupuncture, and i try very hard to think of happy things or things that are going right in my life at that very moment instead of getting wrapped up in the "what if's". I was a huge user of zoloft and xanax for years which helped with anxiety/depression but haven't taken zoloft since 2011 and xanax since 2012 before the ivf cycles. i miss my xanax lol. i tend to do a lot of precipatory anxiety/worry and don't even wait to see what actually happens. i don't do exercise/meditation. Reading, watching tv, anything that takes my mind of it.

jezebel57 · July 2013

mlamping:
I have very bad anxiety and get panic attacks daily. You will be fine. Good luck.

ugh, i'm sorry. they totally suck and i'm hoping they go away once these guys/gals are born! did you have them pre-pregnancy too?

CousinVicki · July 2013

your babies are fine. if your anxiety is indeed that severe, there is medication you can take that is safe while pregnant. it's actually more detrimental to be high anxiety/depressed/etc while pregnant than to take meds to prevent this.

jadwedd · July 2013

I had the same thing happen. I just get random anxiety attacks and my heartrate went up to 190. Uggh. The baby did not care at all. I had dh check her on the doppler and she could not care less about anything that I am doing, I went to the dr. she was fine. I do take medication for depression. The dr wanted me to go off of it but when I tried to lower the dose it was bad so she said it was fine to keep taking it.

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