October 2013 Moms
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Shower drama
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Ugh!!! So my SIL and MIL have decided that they want to throw a shower. So sweet right? Well, the one thing I asked was that it not be too close to my EDD. I am a FTM and i have no idea if this little girl will be early, on time, or late. My SIL calls today and says that they picked a day. Turns out is a little less than 2 weeks before my EDD. I'm just not confortable with this. I want to enjoy my shower and not be miserable, go into labor, or not show up because I just had a baby. So frustrated!!
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Re: Shower drama
As far as the baby coming early, I had friend whose baby came 2 weeks before her shower that was a full month before her DD. He was in the NICU so she came mingled, opened presents, ate and shared pics of the baby. She did leave early to get back to him but it wasn't a huge deal.
I've also been to a shower where the MTB water broke. I'm sure she was a little embarrassed but she said her goodbyes and left. Her family packed up the gifts and brought them to her house for her and people went home.
If you really don't feel comfortable with the time frame you can politely decline the shower and state why. Something along the lines of "MIL, SIL I am so greatful that you guys are willing to do this for me but I'm just really nervous about it being that close to my due date". They may offer to do it earlier they may not. Ultimately if they won't budge on the date and you REALLY don't feel comfortable with it that close to your DD just decline the shower.
You asked them for a date as early as possible. They presented this date. If you are still concerned, you can graciously decline with no hard feelings!
I would politely ask if the day could be moved up? Or they can
Make it a sip and see post baby but you have to be able to have the nursery completely set up
Before going into labor and 2 weeks before is cutting it too close! Make something up like the dr that your measuring big and baby is expected to come early. You don't want to risk it!
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Haha!! So true!! My MIL would freak out!! She's one of those neat freak people.....like a little OCD about it. So it would be an entertaining one!!
Good. I don't understand why this is an issue for people to say "Oh, bummer! That doesn't work for me, can we do it earlier?"
Yeah, we just had some drama with people who didn't get invited by accident (hey, I have been busy here, and no one offered to help with addresses). Jeez.
Sorry you are having the dramaz too.
I think everyone should just be grateful people are getting together to have a party and give them a bunch of presents. I wouldn't care if someone wanted to throw me a shower on my actual due date. I am a FTM, just moved to a state where I don't know anyone and I am not going to have a shower. My sympathy is limited.
That's good, glad that works out for you.
We are having 2 showers and they are about 4-6 weeks before my EDD. My SIL is hosting one and she brought up the point about what if he comes early and how it would benefit us to kind of see what else we need to buy after the shower.
On a side note, my Grandmom seemed a little hurt that we bought his bedding because it hadn't been in stock for about a week a we were worried it may be discontinued. She said, "well y'all don't go buying everything because the family wants to help out".