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Intro - new to this board
Hi, ladies. I just found out about this board a few days ago. I never really looked at many other boards on The Bump but now that I have, it definitely seems like they've got most things covered! I have spent the last 2+ years on the Secondary IF board.
History: DD was conceived naturally after trying 3 months and I realize now more than ever what a miracle she was. When I was younger, I always thought I?d have 4 or more kids. I?ve always loved children and could not wait to get married and start a family. I went through my fair share of ?Mr. Wrongs? before finding DH. We got married in 2008 when I was 31 and he was 32. We waited about a year before trying to get pregnant and we were blessed that it happened pretty quickly, and that I had a perfect pregnancy and delivery. Around her 1st birthday, we decided to start trying again (Aug 2010). After about 6 months, I made an appt to see my Ob/Gyn to ask his advice. He put me on Chlomid for 5 or 6 cycles before referring me to an RE. At that time, all our tests had come back normal. I was having regular periods, ovulating, tubes were clear and DH?s sperm was good. We tried 4 IUIs in 2011-2012 ? all BFNs. We took a short break at the end of 2012 so we could wait to pick up DH?s medical insurance this year (he has better coverage for IF treatments than I do). In January, we tried an IUI cycle with injectables ? another BFN. The original plan was to try 3 cycles with injects/IUI but after the first one failed, we changed our plan.
We made the decision to try IVF in February and started our first cycle in March (protocol was Lupron, Follistim and Menapur). I produced 2 follicles and my RE recommended cancelling. We had to settle for another IUI ? another BFN. The next cycle, I had a cyst on my right ovary and we were forced to take a break. In June, we went for IVF attempt #2 with Chlomid and Follistim this time. I produced nothing, nada, zilch. The ultrasound tech said jokingly, ?it looks like your ovaries are on vacation?. I was devastated. It wasn?t a joke. This is my life we?re talking about. I?ve been trying for 3 years to give DD a sibling, while most of my friends have had 2nd and even 3rd children. I go to a big clinic so I don?t get to see my RE unless I schedule an appointment. When I go for my monitoring appointments, I see the phlebotomist, ultrasound tech and one of 6 nurses. Some of the nurses are better than others, but the day I found out I had not responded yet again, I had the nurse with absolutely no empathy. She just told me bluntly, ?I?ll call you this afternoon but this cycle is going to be cancelled.? I told her I would like my RE to call me. We played phone tag for 2 days. When I finally got to talk to him, he said he didn?t recommend trying anything else. There was a long pause and I said, ?What do you mean?? He explained that my FSH was between 17-18 at the baseline appt for my last two monitored cycles and that elevated FSH is indicative of diminished ovarian reserve. I asked if there was a different protocol we could try and he said he didn?t think anything else would work any better for me. Essentially, he was giving up on me and I was pissed.
I took a few days to process everything and got a recommendation from a friend to see a different RE with a private IF clinic for a second opinion. We met with him last Saturday and the first thing he said after I briefly reviewed our history was, ?you know you need to use a donor egg, right?? While DH and I had discussed this possibility, my previous RE didn?t even mention this option. The new RE didn?t receive me records in time to review everything the other clinic had done so we have to go back to see him next week after he?s looked at everything. But basically, he gave us the impression that using a donor egg is going to be our best chance for success.
As I?m sure all of you know, using a donor is a big decision, both emotionally and financially. I think for us, the financial part is going to be the hardest. We had to put ourselves on a tight budget in order to finance the $11,000 IVF package we got this year. We never actually used any of the services included in the package so we can convert it to a donor package but that?s an additional $10,000. At this point, we?re just trying to hold onto hope that the new RE may have an additional recommendation after reviewing all my records and doing additional testing.
Thanks for listening and for those of you that responded to my original post about using a donor for secondary IF. I hope to learn from all of you as DH and I decide what?s next for us.
A friend just shared this quote with me yesterday and I thought it was worth passing along.
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
DD conceived naturally in 2009. TTC #2 since August 2010. Praying for guidance as we decide what's next.
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
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Re: Intro - new to this board
Welcome to the board! I'm sorry you have had such a hard road. Many of the women here have DOR (myself included) and plenty of ladies here are using DE. You will find lots of support here.
I think it's great you were able to convert your IVF package to DE.
Great quote, by the way.
************ Signature/Ticker Warning ************
Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
DH: Severe MFI
12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN
8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
My ovaries are just for decoration
12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts.
2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.
6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d.
11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522 Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373
6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!
Snowflake baby is a girl!
Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!
My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
DX: DH (30) severe MFI, severely low count & low motility
Me (32): all clear
Appt with Urologist 5/21/12: exam, ultrasound, bloodwork all normal.
Testicular Biopsy with TESE on 6/8/12. good sperm found! (left side only) froze sperm, failed thaw test
Orientation for IVF/ICSI on 6/13/12. Waiting for the green light following biopsy results...results show adequate sperm production both sides.
2nd SA 6/18/12: sample is "adequate for ICSI"
Plan: IVF/ICSI July 2012!
ER: 7/26/12. 15 eggs retrieved, all mature.
TESE/TESA/aspiration from epididymis, no motile sperm found
froze all eggs, the saga of praying for good sperm continues.
8/3/12: 2nd opinion from MFI uro on biopsy slides. Suspects "partial late maturation arrest."
Plan: more SAs, third biopsy/TESE with frozen back-up either from DH or DS.
SA 8/17/12: Zero sperm
SA 8/23/12: Zero sperm
9/26/12: SPERM FOUND! 15 eggs thawed, 12 survived and were ICSI'd, only 3 fertilized normally. Refrozen as embies and will thaw in Nov. Please survive and grow!
All 3 survived the thaw on 11/15/12!
FET 11/17/12: transferred 2, one 4B, one 4C. Beta 11/30:BFFN
moving on to DS
DIUI#1 2/18/13,50mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta 3/4/13: BFN.
DIUI#2 3/19/13, 50 mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta #1 (14dpiui) 4/2/13: BFP!!!! 150. Beta #2 4/4/13: 420 Beta #3 4/8/13: 2691. Beta #4 4/15/13: 15,086
1st u/s 4/8/13 shows one gestational sac
2nd u/s 4/15/13 shows yolk sac, fetal pole and early heartbeat
3rd u/s 4/25/13: measuring right on track. Heart rate 148 bpm
A/S 7/22/13: IT'S A BOY!!
PAIF/SAIF Always Welcome
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Thank you and I'm so sorry for all you have been through as well. I wish boards like this didn't have to exist but it's so helpful to know that we're not alone. I will keep you in my prayers.
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
Thank you and congratulations to you! I will pray for continued health and happiness for the rest of your pregnancy,
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
Me:37 (DOR), DH: 40 (Normal) TTC #1 since Fall 2010
2010-2012 - 7 rounds of Clomid, 4 IUI & 2 IVF - all BFN (2 chemical pregnancies)
April 2013 fresh DEgg - 15R, 4F, 2 transferred = BFN.
FET - 11/13
Beta #1 11/23 = 247; Beta #2 11/25 = 538; Beta #3 11/29 = 5481 BFP!!!!!
U/s #1 12/7 & U/s #2 12/16 = One perfect little heart beat!!
EDD = 8/1/14
Hope is the thing with feathers - that perches in the soul - and sings the tune without the words - and never stops - at all - (Emily Dickinson)
April 2013 DE IVF= BFN
September 2013 DE IVF (Fingers Crossed) = BFFFN! again...
October 2013 FET of our last 2 = Beta Hellzz for 6-7 Weeks. M/C
Thank you so much.
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
thank you!!
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
Thank you so much!
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
Thank you and best of luck to you with your pregnancy!
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
First, welcome to this board!
It's been a great resource and source of support for many of us. Using DE's is difficult, especially when you realize there are no guarantees in this process and as you've stated there are both emotional and financial considerations...I know for myself, accepting DOR as a diagnosis took several failed rounds with my OE's first. However, hindsight being 20/20, I wish I had moved onto DE's sooner, especially given my age. That said, everyone's journey is different and you have to do what you are most comfortable with.
Sorry you have to be here, but you are certainly welcome.
Me: AMA, DOR, undetectable AMH, carrier of SMA, MTHFR homozygous C677T, high cytokines, low IGg B cells, Factor XIII V34l mutation, High Anti-Phosphatidylethanolmine, borderline hypothyroid and mildly insulin resistant.
MH: No known issues, aside from MTHFR.
Recommendations from RI: LIT, Humira, IVIG, Lovenox, Baby Aspirin, Folic Acid, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin.
Currently taking: Pre-Natal vitamins, Foltanx, Low-dose synthroid and Metformin.
When cycling also taking: Baby Aspirin, Lovenox, Humira and IVIG.
TTC since 7/11/09..with medical intervention starting in 2010, including 4 failed IVF's and 6 failed IUI's...only "success" was a chemical pregnancy in 11/2012 (credited to use of DE).
FET #1 (11th cycle) on 8/23/13 = BFN.
FET #2 (12th cycle) Transfer of last two (day 6) donor egg blasts on 1/22/14 = BFP, EDD = 10/10/14 (please stick little BOY!)
My favorite breed:
***PAIF/SAIF always welcome***
Welcome to the group. Hearing the diagnosis was the worst part for me but I had a great team around me. I can't imagine what you went through- I'm sorry.
Im also DOR and in the middle of a DE IVF cycle. The money part is hugely difficult but the emotional part was even harder for us. We are all here if you have questions.
Thank you very much!
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
Thanks! I appreciate it.
When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
~Author Unknown
Hi Sharon!
I'm adding you to our weekly check -in under "considering DE" - please keep us updated as you work through things, sorry you have to be here but glad you found us!
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle