OK, starting my own thread...AFP and Vent

notkateanymore · July 2013

Totally did NOT mean to hijack your thread, VC! Sorry!

Anyway, as you probably read in VC's thread, I also go back crappy AFP results from my MFM yesterday. Now here's my vent, but with a little backstory.

Long story short, I ended up seeing an MFM and my OB for 1st Tri screening. It just sort of worked out this way because we didn't know if I would get in to see my new OB in time for all the screening. But I ended up getting in, but kept the other appt. with the MFM. He's actually a neighbor of mine and the nicest guy ever. He did my first tri screening for free and an incredibly detailed one at that, just in case insurance wouldn't pay for it since I already had one.

So fast forward to last week and this week...time for the TWO AFP tests I do. I did one on the 3rd with my OB and one this past Monday at the MFM. I felt like I couldn't cancel on the MFM since he was so nice and really wanted to make sure everything was right and good for me. My OB doesn't call if the tests come back normal, my MFM calls no matter what. So I hear from the MFM nurse yesterday that my levels came back slightly elevated. She then spent about 20 minutes on the phone with me explaining what all it could mean, besides only SB and scheduled me for another u/s and my first glucose test. She was great and really put my mind at ease for the moment.

Anyway, after we got off the phone I decided I was call the OB and let them know about the results and see what their tests said. Well, the horrible nurse that she has, calls back and basically screams at me for calling to ask for test results. I said, I know y'all only call for bad results, but as I said ON MY VOICEMAIL, I got back results with my MFM that weren't great and I wanted to see what yours were and let the Dr. know. Well, she basically said OK, thanks and hung up! No I'm sorry, no let me double check results, no I'll tell the doctor. I am so pissed. I mean, am I crazy that I think she should have said one of those things?

mcraig107 · July 2013

I would report her to the office manager or speak to the doctor the next time you see him about her. Eff her!! You have every right to know your results.. Good or bad.

shortms6 · July 2013

What is wrong with all these nurses and ultrasound techs lately??? It's so rude.

I hope you get some answers soon too. It sounds like you had a positive conversation with the MFM nurse and I'll keep my FX crossed for your future tests.

boston143 · July 2013

Wow, that is really frustrating! I'm sorry. I had a frustrating experience yesterday as well. I have been waiting for almost three weeks for my NT scan results so I finally broke down and called the doctor's office. The office manager tells me she will find my results for me, asks for my info, locates my chart, and says "oh here it is.. hmm.. I'd better have the medical assistant call you back." She said it in such a negative way that I was convinced that the results were bad and that she didn't want to tell me herself. Then nobody called me back. ALL DAY. I posted earlier this week that I am also waiting to find out if my breast biopsy comes back positive for cancer so perhaps I am a little bit on edge, but still. They need to train people to handle test results better and realize that the people on the other end of the phone have a LOT at stake and should be treated with sensitivity.

Best wishes that your results turn up okay and that your baby is healthy. Sending good thoughts!

jmb527 · July 2013

First, hoping all is ok with you and LO! I'll be thinking of you!

Second, the nurse was completely out of line and rude. Is their someone else you can call back and speak to?

So sorry you are dealing with this and then get a bitchy nurse on top of it.

FX for you! Keep us posted. hugs

notkateanymore · July 2013

I just don't get how somebody calls you and tells you they got bad results on the test and she acts like nothing is wrong! I mean, they suggested I skip my appt. with him, what if I had and never got the results? I mean, GD isn't anything to mess around with even if it's just that.

esf60 · July 2013

Incredibly rude. I'd be furious. I will never understand how nurses that work in high pressure places like OB practices and hospital can have so little patience when the patients are already under such stress. You'd think they'd have compassion. You have every right to be angry. I hope you tell your Dr.!

HerbanMom · July 2013

That's pretty sh!tty, I'd be putting in a call to the office to complain. That is very unprofessional! You are paying these people for their service during your pregnancy- you also paid for those tests so regardless of the results you have every right to know what they are. So if you are so inclined to call out of curiosity, worry or just because you d@mn well please- it's HER job to tell you. I'd be on fire if I were you and I'd make sure the office knows it.

megs2419 · July 2013

I'd be livid. I am really sorry she treated you that way, that is the last thing you need to deal with right now! Thinking of you and hoping that it's a false positive.

Jen4033 · July 2013

oh yea - I'd call back & biotch her out! So sorry you are going through this. Thoughts & prayers that this is another case of false positive! ((hugs))

brownie2181 · July 2013

I'd report her. She was rude and unprofessional. You have a right to know what your test results were. I hope it's a false positive and that you and your LO are fine. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

malamutemommy · July 2013

That was incredibly rude and unprofessional and I would bring it up at your next appointment. There are just some people that shouldn't be nurses, and she sounds like one of them. Hopefully they address the issue and everything is good with your test results.

notkateanymore · July 2013

I've found over the years that crap doctors have great nurses and crap nurses work for great doctors. It's a balance thing.

Tigger & pooh · July 2013

KateMW:
Totally did NOT mean to hijack your thread, VC! Sorry!Anyway, as you probably read in VC's thread, I also go back crappy AFP results from my MFM yesterday. Now here's my vent, but with a little backstory.Long story short, I ended up seeing an MFM and my OB for 1st Tri screening. It just sort of worked out this way because we didn't know if I would get in to see my new OB in time for all the screening. But I ended up getting in, but kept the other appt. with the MFM. He's actually a neighbor of mine and the nicest guy ever. He did my first tri screening for free and an incredibly detailed one at that, just in case insurance wouldn't pay for it since I already had one. So fast forward to last week and this week...time for the TWO AFP tests I do. I did one on the 3rd with my OB and one this past Monday at the MFM. I felt like I couldn't cancel on the MFM since he was so nice and really wanted to make sure everything was right and good for me. My OB doesn't call if the tests come back normal, my MFM calls no matter what. So I hear from the MFM nurse yesterday that my levels came back slightly elevated. She then spent about 20 minutes on the phone with me explaining what all it could mean, besides only SB and scheduled me for another u/s and my first glucose test. She was great and really put my mind at ease for the moment.nbsp;Anyway, after we got off the phone I decided I was call the OB and let them know about the results and see what their tests said. Well, the horrible nurse that she has, calls back and basically screams at me for calling to ask for test results. I said, I know y'all only call for bad results, but as I said ON MY VOICEMAIL, I got back results with my MFM that weren't great and I wanted to see what yours were and let the Dr. know. Well, she basically said OK, thanks and hung up! No I'm sorry, no let me double check results, no I'll tell the doctor. I am so pissed. I mean, am I crazy that I think she should have said one of those things?nbsp;

I am so sorry she was so rude please call the office manager when you feel up to it. As I told VC I have had a high AFP result in the past and if there is anything I can do to help or questions I can answer please let me know.

zou bisou · July 2013

Just wishing you the best. And I hope nurse eventually finds her true career as a mail sorter, dish washer, or some other job that puts her in contact with as few people as possible.

Ktrue85 · July 2013

What a jerk, seriously. I would speak to the office manager and/or your OB -- I had to do this earlier in my pregnancy for issues with a particular nurse who was giving me false information over the phone. She got reprimanded and had to call to apologize to me. Not that I cared for that, but it felt good to know she had been dealt with.

FX everything turns out okay with your other set of results and any further testing.

(((HUGS)))

molisar · July 2013

mcraig107:
I would report her to the office manager or speak to the doctor the next time you see him about her. Eff her!! You have every right to know your results.. Good or bad.

This. Sorry you're going through this

Brandi81012 · July 2013

That nurse is VERY unprofessional! She should have calmed your fears and found your results for you. It is not like you accused them of not calling with elevated results or that they were wrong! She needs to be reported!

mightymousy · July 2013

What a b!tch!!! Sorry you're dealing with that :[

ladameperdue · July 2013

The last thing you need in an emotional situation is a rude, insensitive person. You would think people in those positions would be used to responding to nervous parents. So sorry you're dealing with this. xo

amberpro · July 2013

Oh, yea. Totally uncalled for and extremely unprofessional. Sorry you're dealing with that. Hope those results turn out to be nothing.

RI8340361 · July 2013

That's bullsh!t. Sending good thoughts your way.

GeauxM&V · July 2013

No, she should have definitely said one of those things or at least let you know when she would call you back once she confirmed with the OB. My thought is she is probably ticked off that you had another test done in another office as if you didn't trust their results. She may have been been having a rough day and felt swamped at the moment you were talking to her, but she should have handled it better. I would have been pissed too, and most likely would talk to the OB about the situation next time.

notkateanymore · July 2013

GeauxM&V:
No, she should have definitely said one of those things or at least let you know when she would call you back once she confirmed with the OB. My thought is she is probably ticked off that you had another test done in another office as if you didn't trust their results. She may have been been having a rough day and felt swamped at the moment you were talking to her, but she should have handled it better. I would have been pissed too, and most likely would talk to the OB about the situation next time.

They knew I was seeing the MFM. The only reason she told me not to go to the other appt. is because of insurance. Anyway, it's not up to the damn nurse to make judgement on what I do or who I see. Not that you are saying it is, but that's just my thought. Also, it would be different if she didn't act like this all the time...like every single time I talk to her, she acts like she has two minutes and doesn't listen to me at all. I might just start talking really slow and asking a LOT of damn questions. I mean, if I tell you I took the same test that you have as coming back normal and it came back elevated, I would think that you would at least be curious enough to tell the doctor or double check your results. Hate her.

jmb527 · July 2013

KateMW:
GeauxM&V:
No, she should have definitely said one of those things or at least let you know when she would call you back once she confirmed with the OB. My thought is she is probably ticked off that you had another test done in another office as if you didn't trust their results. She may have been been having a rough day and felt swamped at the moment you were talking to her, but she should have handled it better. I would have been pissed too, and most likely would talk to the OB about the situation next time.
They knew I was seeing the MFM. The only reason she told me not to go to the other appt. is because of insurance. Anyway, it's not up to the damn nurse to make judgement on what I do or who I see. Not that you are saying it is, but that's just my thought. Also, it would be different if she didn't act like this all the time...like every single time I talk to her, she acts like she has two minutes and doesn't listen to me at all. I might just start talking really slow and asking a LOT of damn questions. I mean, if I tell you I took the same test that you have as coming back normal and it came back elevated, I would think that you would at least be curious enough to tell the doctor or double check your results. Hate her.

Umm yeah this makes it 10x worse. Sounds like she needs a new career.

lp0 · July 2013

Ugh! I'm sorry your dealing with this. It definitely doesn't help to have a biitchy nurse to deal with on top of it. Sending lots of T and P's everything is just fine.

playball13 · July 2013

She clearly sucks and needs a new job. It is incredibly stressful to a parent to hear news about their AFP test and then to deal with a beyotch like that is terrible. I am so sorry you are going through this. I am sending good vibes your way.

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