How do you feel about Fertility Fundraising?

Re: How do you feel about Fertility Fundraising?

• KH826 member

  July 2013

  So I am not sure how I feel about the fundraising, honestly... I have been thinking about it, and I just am not sure. I don't think I would be comfortable doing it or myself, but I would support a friend who decided it was right for them to do it. 

  In terms of the resources (or lack their of) for LGBT families and the grant program you described, I totally agree that is an unmet  community need, and I would love to see something like the program you described available to people wanting to take advantage of it ... I too wish I had the time, resources and know how to help something like that up.

  i know this doesn't really answer your question, but I have been thinking about it since seeing your post and wanted to reply something...I will keep thinking about this though. Good food for thought, for sure.... 

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• lbugher

  July 2013

  Manada:

  In an ideal world I would have the time, resources and know-how to set up a bursary/grant program to assist LGBTQ people in creating their families (by insemination, adoption, or even fertility preservation for trans* folks if they want it)....   I really wish something like this existed to give us a community to rally around and within, and to create opportunities for awareness out there in the world.

  Well, I have ideas about how one could start such an initiative.  I'd first approach a group that already has lots of resources at its disposal (i.e. the Human Rights Campaign, for example).  You'd have to ask them if they accept grant proposals, and how much you'd need to give to establish a grant.  Maybe they'd even do matching gifts.  They'd probably give you some guidelines (i.e. you'd have to write a proposal and rationale for the funding) and then from there you'd have to do the leg work. 

  Do you want some help?  I have basic fundraising knowledge and I can probably at least get something like this started through an organization... just a thought  

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• only1leia member

  July 2013

  I hadn't really thought of it before.  I was thinking of having a "donate to help with legal costs so I can second parent adopt my baby" but my mom said that's kind of like saying even though we planned for the baby, we don't have money for something that we knew we needed.  She said it would be better if it was worded more like "give baby a small donation to start a college fund" or something.  Anyway, didn't do any of that. 

  Reading the post, it sounds like when trans folk have a fundraiser for surgery.  Would definitely support someone else if their fundraiser, but I'm unsure if I would have one (see above).  

  It's a really intriguing thought, especially since I am sure there are others like me and my partner, who thought it would take longer to get pregnant.  We did at home insemination, but obviously anyone that is planning a baby will generally have some kind of savings, and if you don't have to dip too far into it, you can help someone else out.  I'm for it.
  

  
  
  
  

  

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• maryoosa member

  July 2013

  I'm really against personal fundraising. Perhaps it's just as a queer in NYC, but I seriously feel like I'm part of a handful of gainfully employed folks and pretty much everyone else tries to fundraise for different things: moving, adoption, surgeries, etc. I have started to feel like a community piggy bank.
  

   Frankly, if you don't have the money to do those things (and most likely other people haven't had the money too), then don't do them. 

   I don't think people should do personal fundraising for infertility or adoption.

   

  I do however wish there were organizations that focused on queer family building through infertility assistance and adoption grants. There are many many many adoption grants available---but so many of them are only available to Christian--identified families that it's just disheartening. 

  And frankly, if it doesn't exist, there's no reason it can't be started....It just takes some knowledge to figure out how to do that, who to hit up for start up funds and how to start a 501-C3 or under a fiscal sponsor. 
  

   
  

  
  

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• trisholio member

  July 2013

  This is an interesting topic.  Personally I would be more apt to raise money for legal fees instead of the actual fertility stuff.  Having a baby is our choice and that is at our own cost, but the legal side of things are beyond our control.  That is up to our government, local and national.   Just my opinion in things.

      

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• PJW77

  July 2013

  I would love financial support immediately to assist with fertility and IVF. My insurance waiting period end 25 June 2014. So I have 12months to do my best with hopeful support. Will anyone support me?

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