Feeling So Sadlong

jg1011 · July 2013

I'm sitting in a restaurant at the mall eating lunch by myself well V is with me, but he is sleeping!. I have a very small circle of friends there are 8 of us that are close and I am or I guess was really close with 4 of the others 2 were my maids of honor, one did a reading at my wedding. One of the 4 created a ton of drama and basically began ignoring me when I became pregnant also pitched a fit to others in group right before my wedding bc we were last 2 single and now its just herI finally called her out on her bad behavior bc she was quick to blame others when it's really her.

Anyway, really long story short, for a good year other MOH and I were REALLY close and I listened to her B and moan about this other friend and her drama. I commiserated. But unlike my friend I can't tolerate BS so Like i said I called her on it. That put a little rift in our friendship. My friend had her grade changed and so is now on the opposite end of the school with bad behavior friend. I had V and went on maternity leave and now I'm being iced out by both.

I confronted my friend and she pulled out some BS about how my DH'a family treated her at my WEDDING shower 2 years ago and how I was "all about V now and I just seem
"Not happy" at work. Ummmm yeah.... I just had a baby. You have one, you should get it. She essentially apologized but had still been icy.

DH and I were supposed to vacation with her and her DH and son but we backed out bc of all this BS. Things just not "back to normal" as she said they would be.

And now, I'm alone... Other Women trying to be neutral even though they have said they think original friend is crazy! and other friend of the 4 close goes home to PA for a month to visit family.

So I'm essentially alone and feeling it. I went from hanging with friends almost everyday over the summer to not seeing anyone. DH travels for work Mon Thurs so I'm really alone.

Sorry for length and if you've read this long, thanks for indulging my pity party.
I'm trying to do mommy and mes to meet others with kids but its not going well. Ugh. Just sad.

LovinLife0710 · July 2013

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way

I am going through something similar too. Before Asa, I would hang with the girls at work, and although they knew I was not as wild as they are (always going out drinking, partying, dating scene chaos, etc.) they always invited me to everything and kept me in the loop. Now adays they will come back from the weekend with all of these stories of all the things they did together and I had no clue they were even going out. They also don't even include me in most work lunch convos any more. I literally can't start a story and finish it with people listening. I have been having emotional issues with this lately too, but it's hard to say something. (*hugs mamma*)!! If we lived closer I would totally come and hang out with you and your little cutie!!! I hope your mommy and me groups start to get better!

Gargita · July 2013

jg and LL, I love you both. Sorry to hear about your tough times. Women can be really mean, both intentionally and unintentionally.

Hang in there! And jg, I think you made the right call about canceling the joint vacation. People need to understand that there are consequences for being shiitty. Anyway, I have an extensive beer and spirit collection with your names on it, if you're ever in my neck of the northwoods.

jg1011 · July 2013

Uconn...that's a good question that I need to think over. I really do think its over with bad behavior friend. I just can't take her shiiiit anymore. There is so much more.....I'll leave you with this one....she basically iced out another friend for almost 3 years and talked horribly about another teacher we work with. We were not spoken to for days if she saw us talking or hanging out with them. She is now BEST BUDDIES with these people. I just don't understand how you can do that?

As for the other friend.....I'm just not sure. I think our friendship will continue (our DH's work together as well) but I will be much more guarded and cautious. There's more to the story with her (I knew it was more than wedding shower bs she gave me)...,a comment made (not to me but relayed to me by another friend thinking she was helping me to understand) that my DH bought me a piece of jewelry that she had. REALLY? Do you think I pay attention to that? I couldn't pick 3 things you own out of a jewelry case if you asked me to. And....if you have an issue with it, take it up with our friend the Jeweler who told DH what to buy. Sorry if he gave him the same thing you have!?!? Again,...I just can't deal with petty BS.

Lovin Life...thanks for the pep talk. It really sucks to be the left out one doesn't it? I always tell my 4th grade students groups of 3 or 4 girls is hard to navigate. Boy, I should listen to my own advice.

Gargita, thanks for the offer and the pep talk. I appreciate it.

I know things will be better when friend4 returns from PA. I can trust her and she is not like the other two. Se has a young daughter....just a year older than V. And im sure once V is in daycare fulltime in Sept i will meet other moms and hang out more with V's friends parents.....It's just been a lonely few weeks.

Thanks again ladies!

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