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single mom...H passed away

celestialnytecelestialnyte member
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MH passed on 5/24 and so I'm now a single mom of my 12 1/2 month old son. Was 11 1/2 months when daddy passed

I'm trying my best to get a handle on single parenthood on top of everything else. Liams in daycare 3x/week now daddy was a SAHD.

Any tips and tricks you've picked up for things like cleaning?? I come home and want to spend time w DS before he goes to bed...and then we sit and rock to sleep I do WIO and by the time he's asleep its 8/830 and I pick up toys and dishes ... pack lunch for the next day and I'm ready for bed.
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  • tracy41tracy41 member
    My sympathies for the loss of your husband. I have no tricks except to say that I've learned to let some things go. I dust, vacuum, and clean less than I used to because I'd rather have that time with the kids even if my house suffers. My mom does pop in on random weekends to give me a few hours to work on things. But most days I do what you do and just fit in what I can after the kids go to sleep.
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  • jmccall79jmccall79 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss!

    I've found that doing a little every day is better than trying to do it all at once(and better than not doing it at all, lol).  For instance, make Monday your laundry day, Tuesday your vaccuum day, Wednesday your clean the bathroom day...something along those lines.  I do keep things picked up...toys put away, dishes done, trash emptied as necessary, but I just feel better knowing I don't have to do it all right now.  And I agree with PP, some things will just have to wait...some things just don't get done...and it's not the end of the world.

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  • inthelostinthelost member

    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss and my sympathies are with you! 

    Allow yourself time to grieve and accept any help that family or friends may offer you..you won't be weak by accepting help! I hope that they are able to be there for you. And I agree with the PP, don't take everything on all at once: do it one step at a time, one task at a time. Try not to get too overwhelmed, espically in a time like this.  

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