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MIL is making me crazy

poohbear033poohbear033 member
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My MIL lives in Kansas, we are in Michigan. She calls 3-4 times a day for the most random things. She called yesterday to ask if I was a big baby. She called back again to ask what our theme is. Then again to tell us she wants to buy our baby furniture.

I am just not at the point where I want to start thinking about all of that. DH has been working on building walls and storage in our laundry room so we have a place to store all of our extra clothes that are currently in our spare bedroom, so that is what I am focused on right now. 

I'm just not ready yet. DH has told her this, yet she still calls a lot and asks random questions. I'll get there eventually right? I want to be happy and excited but I'm not there.

Wedding 08/08/08

BFP #1 12/29/10 EDD 08/29/11 Blighted Ovum 02/09/11 D&C 02/11/11

Clomid 50mg BFP #2 09/21/11 EDD 05/29/11 Chemical Pregnancy 10/4/11

BFP #3 4/19/13 Beta1- 106 Beta2- 524 Beta3- 3500 EDD 12/22/13 LO born 12/31/13

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  • ellajune2012ellajune2012 member
    Is she calling on your cell phone and/or a phone with caller ID? I would have no shame in letting it go to voicemail.
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  • poohbear033poohbear033 member

    imageellajune2012:
    Is she calling on your cell phone and/or a phone with caller ID? I would have no shame in letting it go to voicemail.

    She calls DH, he always answers because "its my mom."

    Wedding 08/08/08

    BFP #1 12/29/10 EDD 08/29/11 Blighted Ovum 02/09/11 D&C 02/11/11

    Clomid 50mg BFP #2 09/21/11 EDD 05/29/11 Chemical Pregnancy 10/4/11

    BFP #3 4/19/13 Beta1- 106 Beta2- 524 Beta3- 3500 EDD 12/22/13 LO born 12/31/13

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  • babystolibabystoli member

    My sister was super excited and wanted to tell people immediately & start planning stuff immediately.  She had had a few miscarriages, too!  And she was still like this and didn't get my hesitation.  

    I think I was around 16 weeks or so when we picked the shower date.  That gave her LOTS to do & she stopped asking questions constantly.   Is there something like that  you can distract your MIL with?  

    TTC since Feb 2012. Me: 39, DH: 37
    BFP #1 5/27/12- m/c 7/9/12 @ 10w2d (cytotec induced @11w).
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    BFP #2 11/18/12  EDD 7/27/13
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  • natleilynnnatleilynn member

    The good news is, she's excited for you :)

    But I'm sure it gets annoying. I fortunately/unfortunately don't have that issue. While I was in my hormonal/drugged up stupor from my D&C, I flew off the handle at something my MIL had done (don't get me wrong, it was fully justified but I probably would have never said it if I hadn't been so jacked up). I think right now she's terrified I won't even let her see her grandbaby (which isn't true, but I'll let her keep thinking that if it will keep her on good behavior).  

    BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
    BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13.
    BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!

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  • ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
    It took people a really long time to understand that I wasn't ok talking about this pregnancy. I had to tell some people very explicitly, others were easier. Your H should help his mom understand.

    You should never feel forced to talk about something that makes you uncomfortable. I think we've all been there, and it's really no fun. Good luck.
    BFP #1 - Mango - 6/11/12, EDD 2/22/12 Natural MC 7/15/12
    BFP #2 - Nacho - 10/14/12, EDD 6/20/13, MMC 8 weeks, D&C 11/16/12
    All testing shows both H and I are perfectly normal. Baby Nacho had triploidy. 
    Back to normal business December 2012
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  • poohbear033poohbear033 member
    imagebabystoli:

    My sister was super excited and wanted to tell people immediately & start planning stuff immediately.  She had had a few miscarriages, too!  And she was still like this and didn't get my hesitation.  

    I think I was around 16 weeks or so when we picked the shower date.  That gave her LOTS to do & she stopped asking questions constantly.   Is there something like that  you can distract your MIL with?  

    I think MIL is more excited than I am. My mom has been wonderful about not pressuring me about things. I'd worry that MIL would start calling my mom everyday.  I keep telling my mom that I don't want a shower. I'm sure I'll eventually feel different but like I said, I'm not there yet.

     

    Wedding 08/08/08

    BFP #1 12/29/10 EDD 08/29/11 Blighted Ovum 02/09/11 D&C 02/11/11

    Clomid 50mg BFP #2 09/21/11 EDD 05/29/11 Chemical Pregnancy 10/4/11

    BFP #3 4/19/13 Beta1- 106 Beta2- 524 Beta3- 3500 EDD 12/22/13 LO born 12/31/13

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