When to spill the beans

johnsonscharosch · July 2013

I haven't gotten a BFP yet but I was wondering when you do, how soon will you tell your families? And Friends? And work? I know you are supposed to wait until after the 1st trimester, but are you going to break those rules, and if you already have LO's how long did you wait to tell everyone? I don't know if I could wait the first trimester to tell our parents, my In laws couldn't conceive and had to adopt which makes them so worried and excited. What will you do?

curlylocks3 · July 2013

My parents and closest girlfriends will probably know very early on. Everyone else we will hopefully be able to hold out until 12 weeks.

jewls619 · July 2013

DH wanted to tell both our families together when we were having DD. So we had a cookout and told them all when I was about 8 weeks. My two best friends also found out around the same time. I didn't tell anyone at work until after the 1st trimester.

SweetTea420 · July 2013

We will tell our family after the first ultrasound, tell close friends after 12 weeks and everyone else/facebook when we find out the sex of the baby.

JulianneJacks · July 2013

I wouldn't want to tell people I had an early mc so I plan on waiting until week 12 or 13 when I would be less likely to have a loss. SweetTea you won't find out the sex until around week 19 so there is a good chance people will figure it out if you wait that long.

CiescaLove · July 2013

This will be pregnancy number 3. I expect my bump to show up even earlier, so when I can't hide it anymore will probably be when I come out of the pregnancy closet.

lookame3639 · July 2013

When I was pregnant with DS I told my mom almost immediatly. It didnt turn out the way I wanted it to...

This time around I want to wait until later to spill the beans unless I have aweful morning sickness then I may not be able to wait. As for work I am pretty close with both my manager and my coworker so ill probably tell them pretty close to when I find out.

Ayana11doctor · July 2013

The idea of telling my friends and family early on and the having a mc scares me. So DH and I decided to wait until after the first tri. If you tell too many people too early and then suffer the loss of a mc then you have to go through the pain each time someone asks about the pregnancy. It happened to my cousin and it was very hard for her.

Meg&Austin · July 2013

We plan on waiting at least 10-12 weeks for everyone but close friends and family who can hopefully keep it to themselves will know probably after the first appointment!

von1976 · July 2013

Family and close friends: After we hear a heartbeat
Work & Bookface: After 12 weeks

dixielee05 · July 2013

We had a cook out and told our parents after the first ultrasound around 7 weeks. I told a few close friends after that. FB and work was 16 ish weeks.

Sarah52Beth · July 2013

I will tell my family first thing and a couple very very close friends. I hate to say it but my H's family will just have to wait. They can't keep a secret.

beckynsean11 · July 2013

Our parents & my closest friends will know pretty early on. They all know we're trying & I'll need them if something happens.

Wildfire2011 · July 2013

I'd prefer to wait to see a heartbeat before telling family, but I'm not sure my DH will be able to keep quiet with regards to his family. We see them all the time and he has a very close relationship with them, so I think it would be hard for him to keep quiet. However, if his mom finds out, she'll probably run and tell all of her neighbors, friends, and extended family and I wouldn't want all of those people to know until end of 1st tri. So we'll see how that goes. I'm not nearly as close with my family so it wouldn't be hard for me to not tell them. Most of my close friends live some distance away, so I probably wouldn't tell them until near the end of 1st tri unless we had a get together sooner than that and I could tell them in person. Everyone else would have to wait until I couldn't hide it anymore... facebook, probably even later, but undecided right now.

greengirl0909 · July 2013

I've previously told family and close friends right away, then waited for a general announcement until after the first trimester, going with the idea that I didn't want to have to untell a bunch of people if I miscarried. Then I did miscarry and I ended up telling a bunch of folks anyway as I was struggling and felt like I needed to explain myself at work, etc. So. This time, we plan on keeping it a secret longer. My family doesn't get too excited about babies and to qualify for STD we need to hold the information a little longer, depending on when/if we get a BFP.

dragossoul84 · July 2013

We tell our family and friends right away. I have had several early term losses and the support of our family really makes a difference to me. I think its really what your most comfortable with

mmb248 · July 2013

I'll tell my mom, sister and BFF after the first ultrasound. I would like to tell DH's mom then, but she's the stereotypical small-town hair stylist (if you want to know what's going on in town, you just go to her salon). As soon as I tell her, DH's whole hometown will know.

Everyone else will found out at 12 weeks.

fxgray · July 2013

I'm honestly not sure... This is my first and I've always been on the 'First Tri' team. But I'm not sure if I'd be able to keep it a secret for that long. I would want to tell my parents (since I would tell them anyway, even if something happened), but I would be so nervous that my Mom would spill the beans...