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Who new trying to get pregnant was so hard......
I am trying to get pregnant just as all of you are. Once I started reading into it and how you have to chart and practice a lot during ovulation...I realized how exact you have to be. Before reading many blogs, I had no clue that all of this was involved. I just figured, have sex, then poof, you're pregnant. I guess what I'm saying is that you don't always hear the other side of the story.
This is my 3rd cycle and am already tired of all the charting and temperature taking. I wonder if I just don't worry about it and just have sex when I want to, it will happen when it happens. I was so worried before ttc, that I had to have all my ducks in a row, ie. all bills paid off, a house, yada yada yada, but I guess it's ok to not have every single duck in a row. After all, you're always going to have bills, and either way, people find a way.
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Re: Who new trying to get pregnant was so hard......
You're tired after 3 cycles? This does not bode well for you.
GL.
SAHM to two sweet girls, both born at home; Baby #3 in 2013!
I'm not really sure what the point of your post is, but that statement can be really hurtful to people who have been TTC way longer than 3 months.
I know you are stressed but I don't think you should assume everyone on here is TTC.
Lurk a little and get to know various boards before posting. You'll learn a lot.
You really should have lurked before you posted this. You are lucky that some of our regulars are not around.
3 months is NOT a long time.
::flipping OP the bird::
::walking out of thread::
If it makes you feel better,you can get pregnant without charting. Charting just tells you that you have ovulated, not when you are. But if you chart enough, a pattern may emerge that can help you predict a little more accurately when you will ovulated.
I couldn't chart because of working rotating shifts (nights one week and days the next) but I still got pregnant. On the other side of this, my SIL tried for two years before she got regnant with her first. She didn't chart or use OPKs or anything, just had lots of sex and let it happen when it happened. It could go either way.
If you're too overwhelmed, you might consider taking a break one month from charting and try charting again after that. I think that if I had been able to chart I would have wanted to stick with it. It seems like after a few months, when you finally get the hang of it, more or less, it might become almost second nature.
Either way, hang in there.maybe it'll happen soon for you, and the other women on here who are TTC.
Of course not. Questions are just too HARD.
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TTC#2 Chart
IUI #1 - #4 (repronex trigger) = BFN
IUI#5 on 10/28/2008 ** BFP 11/10/08 ** EDD 07/21/09 *** It's a GIRL (07/14/09)
med/treatment free BFP 06/28/10. EDD 03/05/11 *** GIRL #2 (02/23/11)
beta#1 @ 17dpo = 1296 .... beta#2 @ 19dpo = 3034
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If you are finding charting stressful, then don't chart for a cycle and see what happens and what you prefer. While charting comes highly recommended here, it isn't for everyone.
And really, the number of women who chart compared to the vast number of women who do not and did not throughout history when BBT were unavailable is pretty small. Most people do just sort of get pregnant without a lot of conscious effort.
For me, I understand what you mean about timing things and wanting to get it right and that being stressful -yes, I felt that way even at cycle 3. Because in my head it was like I had some control over it all. Then I realized I really didn't (a quick glance at fertilityfriend's chart gallery will drive that message home - plenty of lovely perfect charts are BFNs and plenty of wacky charts with poorly timed sex are BFPs), I was able to ease up on myself.
A lot of your stress is probably self-induced. See if not charting or charting and just having sex when you want is helpful. I needed to stop obsessing over this current cycle, and so I found a compromise to reduce the stress and it helped a lot.
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I suggest you breath and get ready for a long haul. You may be like many of us and it may take you YEARS to get there. Or you may suffer some losses. Either way, we will be here to support you, but silly blabbering will earn you a throat punch.
"I love glitterfarts and pregnant unicorns." ~ Tim'sWifey
"Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, a natural thing, and how dare you degrade it with your yuppie wanna be rapper and his rhymes." ~ Melaneigh
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If you take yourself too seriously to enjoy a little snarkiness and sarcasm, you might as well move along now.
The "unfriendliness" you describe might be in response to the fact you've only been trying for less than 3 months and many women here have been trying and are still trying for over a year and hearing someone complain about 3 months is ridiculous.
SAHM to two sweet girls, both born at home; Baby #3 in 2013!
Did you take the time to lurk before you posted on this board?
My guess is no!
People were actually much nicer to you than I was expecting.
It's a public message board, you can't request the responses you get, blah blah blah.
Go away now.
I understand what you're saying. We're lead to believe our entire lives that contact with a bare penis results in preganncy every time no matter what.
Sadly getting pregnant can be difficult. Three months of trying isn't that long but it doesn't mean that it's easy to be let down andsee that BFN. It's still hard to sit through two weeks of wondering and analyzing every pain and twinge in your body. It's still hard to hope and pray and want a baby so bad just to find out you have to try again next month. You don't have to be trying for years to have these feelings.
Keep trying and try to stay positive. It could take much longer but you're not alone.
I appreciate the sarcasm, it makes me happy.
Honestly! I wasn't trying to offend anyone and I wasn't complaining.
I really didn't realize there were so many people taking this the wrong way.
I totally agree!! This board is way too nice lately!
I assume you are talking to me. That makes me giggle.
Did I hurt your e-feelings with my e-casm?
Listen, since I am not TTC and am feeling nice, I'll make it as clear as possible. No one is "taking it the wrong way." Many ladies on this board have been trying for FAR LONGER than 3 months, and have suffered losses or extreme setbacks. While we understand your plight and frustrations, you have got to understand the magnitude of your words. It's like if someone has been trying to find a job for two years, and you have for 2 months, and you get one on your first interview but still say: "gosh it was So hard to get this job." Please be more empathetic.
She's not waving a BFP around and complaining how hard it was to get.
DD 10/31/09 - BFP 3/22/11 M/C confirmed 4/9/11 at 8w4d - BFP 10/5/11 EDD 06/16/11
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I love it...e-casm...it will be my new word