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October 2013 Moms
zenjenjen
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Pregnant Wedding...ugh
zenjenjen
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My fianc? and I were engage only 6 weeks before finding out we were pregnant. Within that 6 weeks, we had decided we wanted an informal beach wedding but that is about all the planning we had done. Then once we got pregnant, we were more concerned with prepping for LO. Now we are down to the wire and need to get this done before the baby comes, but I don't even want to deal with it. It is not going to be anything close to what we had originally wanted (except for the beach and the marriage part). We probably won't even be inviting guests, which will be hard for my family but I just don't want the stress of it all. Now I'm trying to find a cute and appropriate dress for an all-too pregnant bride...
Here's to doing things a$$-backwards!
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Re: Pregnant Wedding...ugh
What's the rush? Why don't you wait until LO is here and you can have the wedding you want?
That would be ideal, but unfortunately, it is because I need to get on my fianc?s insurance plan prior to delivery. My plan is a high deductible plan which has been fine for prenatal visits as they are covered under preventive care, but the delivery will cost way too much out of pocket if I stay on mine.
Romantic, huh?!
Thank you - I know, huh!
This. There's no law that says you have to get married before LO comes. You're making it sound like something bad is going to happen if you don't.
ETA: Was typing when you were. Saw what you said about the insurance. Why don't you just do city hall? Alternatively, if you still want to get married on the beach, do you know any seamstresses? An empire flowy "goddess" type dress would be perfect for a ripe prego beach wedding! But, if you're not going to have any guests, do the dress and location still matter that much? To you guys as a couple I mean. Personally if it was just my BF and I, I wouldn't mind going to city hall in a nice little outfit and having a big ceremony and celebration later. But that's just me!
Ok, I see now. Well you can still do some sort of celebration after LO is here, best of luck and congrats.
My brother and SIL got married in vegas, it was planned not a quickie Elvis wedding. B/c a lot of people could not attend, myself included, they did an "at home reception" about 2 months later and it was actually one of the best wedding events of been to b/c it was all party and no ceremony ha ha.
Make sure you double check with his insurance and see the particulars on what/when things will be covered for you and what type of deductable your looking at on a family plan for his insurance.
My friend did this thinking the same thing and ended up joining too late, they wouldn't cover her delivery it was horrible! Just double/triple checck!
I also agree on the city hall small wedding. Then have your dream day after baby comes!
I'm in a similar boat. We'd been planning on getting married before we found out I was pregnant. We were thinking May. Something simple on the beach, like yours. We hadn't made our engagement public (still haven't, although now I'm wearing my ring), and I decided we should wait because I didn't want it to look like we were only getting married because of the baby. Now we've rethought things again, and we want to make it official before LO arrives. So we've pretty much just decided to do a courthouse thing, and we'll have a bigger wedding later.
We were thinking August, but now I'm thinking September is better, even though I'll be even more pregnant. We've just got some things still up in the air that won't be resolved until the end of September, and I want to wait until then so we'll have a better idea of our future.
I know there's no rush, but I want BF (one of these days I'll start calling him my fiance, lol) to be my legal husband by the time we go to the hospital to deliver. In an emergency, I want him to be the one who can make medical decisions for me, and not just the baby. I watch too many medical dramas, I guess. I just don't want there to be any battles going on between him and my mom.
This exactly! Some insurances won't cover because it is deemed a preexisting condition or there isn't maternity coverage added already
I get wanting to just do one thing. I think the important thing here is that you think about what you want and go with what works. Definitely check insurance. My current client at work is an insurance company and the wait times before maternity benefits kick in are a bit absurd. (Like 18 months - but after 11 months there is absolutely no way you were pregnant when you got insured.)
FWIW, we did our state wedding 6 months before our religious wedding/party. We went to city hall with our parents and some of our siblings. We wore jeans and, even though we didn't plan it, we showed up in matching sweaters. We did it so that I'd be covered by his health insurance (I was moving back to the US), we got a LOT of money back in taxes, I was going to be moving in with him, and I wanted us to have legal rights since we'd been together for so long. That moment feels a lot more private than the wedding later.
I got married last month at just about 6 months along... we planned a wedding with 30 guests in less than 2 months (we got engaged after the baby news) and pulled it off for under $8000. It was stressful and I originally wanted us to put it off until after baby so my vain self could be slim and cute on my wedding day, but it was wonderful nonetheless and I don't regret it one bit! Not to mention we got a ton of deals from friends and family on things like the cake and photos, etc., because they knew we were expecting!
You'll be fine. Focus on empire waist flowy dresses, which look great for beach weddings anyhow, and don't worry about the details. I was heartbroken about not being able to invite more people, but the size of the wedding made it WAY less stressful.
Good luck!!