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Late Term and Child Loss
Noethola
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Loss Check-in
Noethola
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***Ticker Warning***
Mrs Nice is on vacation, so here are the check-ins.
Welcome to our checkin!
I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
QOTW: Do you have something that reminds you of your LO/s that brings you comfort? (Remembrance items, butterflies, sounds, scents, etc.)
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
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Re: Loss Check-in
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
Not really. Just trying to focus on the future.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
To try to accept my loss and find a light at the end of this very long dark tunnel. My plan is to work with DH and the Dr. on ttc again - and what needs to be done before we start that process.
QOTW: Do you have something that reminds you of your LO/s that brings you comfort? (Remembrance items, butterflies, sounds, scents, etc.)
I have everything they came in contact with! Blankets, clothes they wore, and hospital bracelets- looking all that comforts me - it reminds me they were such fighters!
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Alot. But I will go with how hard the 4th of July was for me- watching all the kids having so much fun and wishing my boys could be there to join the fun. It was heartbreaking and I had a few breakdowns during the day. But in the end I was somehow able to get through it. I would like to think I had two little angels on my shoulders helping me
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
I feel like I've taken a step back, but probably haven't I had a total melt down today, like..massive. Haven't had this big of one for a while. Had to pull over because I could drive. It was horrible. My heart aches when I grieve this hard. I made it through though and hope to get a good night sleep.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Make it through July 7th, the anniversary of when we found out we were pregnant. I was hoping to be KU by now, and kinda depressed I'm not.
QOTW: Do you have something that reminds you of your LO/s that brings you comfort? (Remembrance items, butterflies, sounds, scents, etc.)
Butterflies (even from before she was born),her pink blanket she was wrapped in, our memory box with her hospital bracelet, clipping of hair etc. Baby shampoo smell and hospital smell, I have a pair of butterfly earrings, just ordered a necklace, I got a butterfly tattoo for her, her teddy bear from the hospital... Pink roses (we had a bunch at her funeral and burial)
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Grief sucks, and it's so tiring.
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Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
Not really. Just got through some big milestones, my EDD, 4th of July and DH's 30th birthday. The week had some rough points, but I am glad to have gotten through them. With EDD days before DH's birthday, I wonder if I will always be rough. 4th of July is also a big deal with my in-laws so that was tough and I wonder if that will always be tough, too.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
My next big goal is getting through my first week back at work starting on Monday. The last day I worked was Friday, May 17th. I took a half day that day to go to my doctors appointment. It was from there I was sent to the hospital and learned my Izzie was gone. The last month and a half has been surreal and I know going back to work is going to force me back into real life, something I have been trying to avoid.
QOTW: Do you have something that reminds you of your LO/s that brings you comfort? (Remembrance items, butterflies, sounds, scents, etc.)
I have lots of pictures of my Izzie, a stack full of sympathy cards, her hand and feet prints, hats, sweater and blanket from the hospital, lock of her hair, a memorial necklace with her name. I think the item that brings me and DH the most comfort is our Izzie bear, which is weighted to her size from Molly Bears. Holding the bear and feeling its weight reminds me that my daughter was real and not just a figment of my imagination.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Always my Izzie and just getting through my first week back at work.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
I can't tell. My therapist tried a new therapy on me and I am not sure if it helped.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
I am trying to stop the burning feeling in my chest and stop running from babies and pregnant women... I am trying to face them more, but it is not helping.
QOTW: Do you have something that reminds you of your LO/s that brings you comfort? (Remembrance items, butterflies, sounds, scents, etc.)
I have my tattoo on my left wrist that I just adore, I have her little monkey toy hanging on my mirror in the bedroom so every morning I look at it.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
I became relief charge nurse in the emergency department, I hope that I can further it in the future to a full time deal.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? No not really, I find every day brings new and different challenges.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
To get back to my prepregnancy weight and continue eating healthy, so far I'm about 3 pounds away. Makes me feel like I'm one step closer to getting pregnant again and starting the next pregnancy as healthy if not more.
QOTW: Do you have something that reminds you of your LO/s that brings you comfort? (Remembrance items, butterflies, sounds, scents, etc.)
Yes I have a small necklace that has her initial on it. I love wearing it because I physically feel like I'm carrying her near my heart and she is with me everywhere I go.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I love my DH and he has been so supportive and without him I know I could not have made it through this time. I am so thankful for this board also because I can read the posts from other moms who are going through the exact same experiences and emotions as me and I don't feel so awkward and alone.