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Rdmaggie
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So it begins...
Rdmaggie
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DD is 2.5 and pending ASD diagnosis (which I have absolutely no doubt is coming, and have expected since 18 months or so). She used to have some physical delays as well, but always just made the "cut off" for typical. She crawled at 11 months, walked at 13 months...etc. I tried to explain to the pedi before that she had some fine motor issues and planning issues as well, at 2 I could tell her to put a toy down her little people slide and she kind of just threw the toy in that general direction. She couldn't stack blocks, and haphazardly tried to force the shapes in the shape sorter (nevermind she knew the shapes and colors if asked but to do a simple task like put circle in the circle...oy vey) her rote memory was/is excellent and disguised a lot of her other issues, which I also attempted to explain but was pooh poohed at the time. I'm thrilled shes as high functioning as she is but shes still night and day different from an NT toddler, still I can kind of understand why the first developmental pedi wrote me off as an over concerned parent.
Anyhow thats just back story, the one issue she has yet to overcome physically is drooling. She does it and very bad...like soak her shirt bad. We have an ENT referral because her tonsils are always swollen and red and shes had strep a number of times, but our EI warned us that it may be more developmentally related and not so much "tonsil" action.
BUT to finally get to my story, mil came by to see DD for the first time in months and without telling us brought along our 6 year old niece. I was pretty excited because DD actually noticed and took interest in niece and said her name over and over while smiling and looking at her. I tried my best to throw together a quick play date/ make the best of her being there and set up our bounce house as I knew it was something they both enjoyed. About 3 mins into jumping niece looked at us and said "Shes disgusting, all she does is drool. I" m out of here." And left to go back and sit with MIL.
I know shes six, I know its innocent, I know I could have used it as a teaching moment, I know I have to toughen up...but I just wasn't ready for that.
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Re: So it begins...
It sounds like someone needs to talk to your niece, as she is getting old enough to understand how her comments can hurt others.
For me it always feels like everyone is noticing differences in my DS, even if they're not. Then when he is rejected by a peer it brings on feelings of hurt. Just know you're not alone.
This post made me sad..just want to let you know how sorry I am and I can relate. My son has ASD and has some quirky ways..he does a lot of hand flapping and stimming...often in public. Of course..as a Mom I feel super protective of him whenever he does this because I am always afraid of him being judged. It is a heart wrenching thing.. We all just want our kids to be accepted.