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Need opinions...

mommyilenemommyilene member
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My hubby and I are moving 7 hours away from his parents at the end of this month. They have 2 other grandchildren and are a part of their lives in a big way. They fully expected to be just a part and involved in this child's life as well until they found out we were moving. Now they are going to be the far away grandparents while my parents are now only 2.5 hours away as opposed to the 5.5 hours away we currently are from them.

This where I'm not sure how I feel...
Today hubby asked me if I minded his parents coming to visit when we move. I told him no, fully expected they would want to visit. Then he adds on every month for no longer than a week. I told him I wasn't too sure how I would feel about that when the time actually came. Anyone have a similar situation??
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  • CrinitaCrinita member
    Wow.  That seems like a lot.  I guess it depends on your relationship with them. 
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  • MrsMommyQMrsMommyQ member

    imageCrinita:
    Wow.  That seems like a lot.  I guess it depends on your relationship with them. 

    And also how big your new house is. House guests can be tough, especially for a week. That's a long time.

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  • HFrizzleHFrizzle member
    Sure....if they are going to help pay your mortgage and bills too. LOL Every month for more than a week seems pretty excessive to me. We moved over 15 hours away from all of or family and we visit them several times a year, they come here, we even send our older girls to them for the a month or so in the summer....but I sure as heck wouldn't want them in my house every couple of weeks.

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  • CMireles2CMireles2 member
    I live in TX and my family lives in NH and this is the first baby in my family in about 15 years! My parents are rather sad about being so far away but as a family you can make it work. Skype is wonderful as well lol

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  • RedZeeRedZee member

    I think telling him that you're not sure how you'll feel about when the times comes is the only thing you can say. You might find that you like the extra help and the free babysitting. They might hate being your house guests. Tell your H that you want his parents to be active in your lives and have a strong relationship with your children (which it sounds like you do want) and just take it day by day.

    Also, don't think of one set of grandparents as being the close ones or the far ones. It's not a competition and terms like that set it up like it is one. It's great that your children will have 2 sets of grandparents who want to be part of their lives.

         
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  • AjoydAjoyd member
    I think a week out of every month would be quite an imposition. Maybe a long weekend every month would be a good compromise?


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  • CousinVickiCousinVicki member
    haha that is a LOT!!  i would just be honest with him.

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