Wedding invites.

Throw3ks · July 2013

We just got invited to two weddings in late October, one is a week before my due date and one is on my due date. Would you RSVP no to both and send a gift? Or RSVP yes and explain you may not be there but will be if you can. Both know its right around my due date.

jnsmith85 · July 2013

If it were me I wouldn't go. I'd hate to say yes, and then deliver early, get put on bed rest, etc. Especially if they have to pay per person or something.

JuneBug86 · July 2013

Do you have to travel far for these weddings? If they are close by, I would RSVP yes to the one that is a week before, and yes to the one on your due date with a note explaining that you may not be there. Really though, if you RSVP yes to them and you have the baby early I'm sure they would understand you not showing up.

muffyvonmuff · July 2013

Im invited to a wedding about 2 hours away 4 days after my due date. I told her I wouldn't be able to go but I'll be at her shower next month to give her a gift.

RedZee · July 2013

Are they both local? I'd probably just ask the couple what they prefer. Do they want to assume you're coming and have the possibility of you not being there or do they want to assume you're not coming and you can maybe crash if you haven't had the baby? I'd probably RSVP yes to the one the week before your due date.

Throw3ks · July 2013

JuneBug86:
Do you have to travel far for these weddings? If they are close by, I would RSVP yes to the one that is a week before, and yes to the one on your due date with a note explaining that you may not be there. Really though, if you RSVP yes to them and you have the baby early I'm sure they would understand you not showing up.

They are both close to home. My DH says RSVP yes to both and as long as our gift to each couple covers our plate then we should be good. Sounds ok right? I remember from my wedding that I had 6people not even show after RSVPing yes!!

Wino0920 · July 2013

How close to the couple are you? Could you ask them their thoughts? My last pregnancy, my friends got married on my due date. I just talked to them and I was a yes but they totally understood if I was a last minute back out. The bride was hoping I would go in labor at the wedding, I danced my butt off and was one of the last to leave and still nothing! Lol!

Now my other friends are getting married at the end of October and I am due at the beginning. My son is the ring bearer. I will def have had the baby by then since my doc will only allow me to go 7 to 10 days overdue, but it will be interesting.

Wino0920 · July 2013

Throw3ks:
JuneBug86:
Do you have to travel far for these weddings? If they are close by, I would RSVP yes to the one that is a week before, and yes to the one on your due date with a note explaining that you may not be there. Really though, if you RSVP yes to them and you have the baby early I'm sure they would understand you not showing up.

They are both close to home. My DH says RSVP yes to both and as long as our gift to each couple covers our plate then we should be good. Sounds ok right? I remember from my wedding that I had 6people not even show after RSVPing yes!!

I agree with your husband. People understand and if they don't, they aren't that cool anyways! Lol!

kellyk17 · July 2013

My good friend is getting married 3 weeks before my due date, 3 hours away. I asked her when her head count was due and hopefully I can make a decision by then yay or nay. I felt bad asking her to pay for the plates if she didn't have to. Wedding are so expensive, I hate for them to waste money on us.

Throw3ks · July 2013

It's tough to answer because we all want to be there for our friends on their big day. Maybe I can Skype myself at the wedding. Lol. Just set a computer up where ill be sitting and enjoy!

Ajoyd · July 2013

If they are close friends or family I would RSVP yes and explain that you may have to cancel last minute. If they aren't people you're close with I would go with the RSVP no and send a gift.

MySunshine213 · July 2013

I personally wouldn't go.

ETA unless it was my sister or someone I was very close with.. Then I'd probably say yes and make sure I send a nice gift if I can't make it.

CousinVicki · July 2013

i would say no unles it's immediate family. you will prob. be feeling miserable then anyway.

and 'covering the cost of the meal' is kinda dumb logic. just don't go, and send a gift!

Throw3ks · July 2013

After debating the RSVP thing I have decided I will probably be miserable at the point of both weddings so I opted for "not attending" and sent them checks.

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