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nikkilyn35
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Spoke my mind today
nikkilyn35
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So, back in April BD dropped the bomb that his wife was pregnant, and I did not take it well.
Fast forward to present time, he and I barely communicate anymore. Prior to the pregnancy bomb, we chatted via email almost daily. While he would SAY all the right things, how he regretted how he treated me, how he wished things had been different with us back when I was pregnant, how he wants to be involved with our son, his actions NEVER backed up his words. He lives out of state, but his parents, brothers, older son all live here and in 3 years, they have never made an attempt to see this child. His wife didnt even allow BD to discuss our child during a visit with them, stating the subject was "inappropriate conversation" in front of her teenaged children. Seriously, what kind of person does that?
Anyway, for the most part BD let me be upset for a bit, but lately he has sent random emails saying "hope you and our little guy have a good weekend" and yesterday he sent "happy 4th, including a little comment about the weather. Rather than me being won over by that as I have many times before it made me angry and I let him have it.
It just burns my butt that MY child was something to get rid of and hide from, and now he is just so happy about this new baby and giving it cute little nicknames before its even born. Why is MY child not worthy of attention, love, and family?
Sorry, just had to vent a bit.
Fast forward to present time, he and I barely communicate anymore. Prior to the pregnancy bomb, we chatted via email almost daily. While he would SAY all the right things, how he regretted how he treated me, how he wished things had been different with us back when I was pregnant, how he wants to be involved with our son, his actions NEVER backed up his words. He lives out of state, but his parents, brothers, older son all live here and in 3 years, they have never made an attempt to see this child. His wife didnt even allow BD to discuss our child during a visit with them, stating the subject was "inappropriate conversation" in front of her teenaged children. Seriously, what kind of person does that?
Anyway, for the most part BD let me be upset for a bit, but lately he has sent random emails saying "hope you and our little guy have a good weekend" and yesterday he sent "happy 4th, including a little comment about the weather. Rather than me being won over by that as I have many times before it made me angry and I let him have it.
It just burns my butt that MY child was something to get rid of and hide from, and now he is just so happy about this new baby and giving it cute little nicknames before its even born. Why is MY child not worthy of attention, love, and family?
Sorry, just had to vent a bit.
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Re: Spoke my mind today
First, sorry BD is a douch. Hopefully this is just a momentary vent and not ongoing feelings.
I think some of the questions you are asking are just making your life harder. You will never know the reasons the made the choices he did. You cannot spend energy worrying about that. Although it's hard, you probably just need to accept that he is an @ss and move on. It appears that you really should not be surprised by his weird input and empty words at this point. It sounds like you are a little jealous of his other situation, and in the end, would you really want him, or to be married to him?