A little unsure here....
So this is Hubby and I's 3rd little bean, and we are beyond ECSTATIC! Well, that is when we're not so nervous we feel like puking, or I'm not so hormonal I plan the perfect murder, but you get the idea....
I have both a boy and a girl (ages 5 and 4) and I have gotten rid of completely EVERYTHING little girl I had: Crib, Bassey, Bottles, Clothes, Toys, Blankies, EVERYTHING. And because of school fees (Hubs and I are back in school), the fact that we're in the middle of moving from one state to another, and on a major job hunt hasn't left us with a whole lot of extra dough-ray-me, if ya catch my drift...
The thing is, I could REALLY REALLY REALLY use a baby shower! Literally all we've been able to afford is a bassy and a PnP :O
Talk about major freak out when your 32 weeks along! I don't want to be that girl who seems all gift grabby and demand someone throw me a shower, or beg my mom too lol
Also there's the hitch of living between two states...
Any suggestions?
Re: A little unsure here....
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If it IS MUD, it's pretty elaborate. She put up 30 pictures. So she's either ripped off someone, or this is, tragically, real lyfe.
OP, sweetie, you don't need to be having another kid if you can't afford it. It's no one else's responsibility to pay for the result of sex with your husband. It's not a secret how babies are made. And if you're 32 weeks along and haven't been able to afford anything else for this kid, then you need to re-examine your priorities. Someone needs a second job or something. And it sounds like you need to be making some trips to Goodwill or something. Not to mention, a baby shower is a gift that someone gives you...if no one has offered, what was your plan? Throw it yourself? So you're comfortable calling people up and saying "hey, I need you to buy me things for this baby...come over at this time and give me stuff." Because that's what throwing your own shower is.
You've got bigger problems than baby showers. Wow...just wow.
Then don't. Be polite and hit up garage sales and slowly build up your supply of baby items. Besides, infants don't need much anyways. Keep an eye out on freecycle, craigslist and even facebook in case your FB friends are clearing out their supply of baby items. But no, you don't get a baby shower. How would you feel if you weer having a hard time and one of your relatives or friends was like "Whoops, gave away all my baby stuff, time for you to go buy me some more."
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...or at least thought about this a little sooner than 32 weeks. Wow
Has to be MUD... you can see how the kids look photo shopped into this photo.
And the boy... always wears the same shirt...
https://www.thebump.com/profiles/LyonsChick/media/photo/details/1968261
You compounded the bad timing of this pregnancy with your bad money situation with waiting for people to buy you stuff or offer a shower. You have two options:
1. Get on Craigslist, local Facebook Mom Swap groups, Goodwill, etc and buy your child the supplies it will need. Newborns don't need the bells and whistles right away so you are safe to get some of those items at a later time when you have more money.
2. Demand a shower from someone rather last minute and look gift grabby/tacky/rude to a hostess and guests.
Completely unrelated however it did catch my attention:
Bassinet not Bassy
Blankets not Blankies
Money not Dough-Ray-Me
For reals. Buy second hand. And it's not like you would throw your baby shower right? From your post, it doesn't sound like anyone has offered to throw you one.
Don't forget..."hubby and I's"
I cannot believe the time some people must have on their hands...looking up Pinterest pages and spouses face books? LOL. Don't you have children to watch? Just answer the question, or get a life. Weirdos!
OP, look at garage sales, or community baby/children's clothing swaps. There really isn't a lot you need for an infant- and save your money for a good car seat. I would buy most of everything else used or on sale.
Yup I did have a little time in my hands at work. Most people were off today so we were rather slow. Regardless, how much time do you think it takes to do a google search? If it's more than 4 seconds, you're doing it wrong. And yeah, before I gave a thoughtful answer, I looked to see whether it was MUD or not.
Tacky is as tacky does.
You do realize people take picutres of their kids on the same day right? There were 3 maybe 4 photos where the boy AND girl were wearing the same outfit. Again, when we visit the zoo for example, I wouldnt change my kids clothes for each pic I take. It looks to be the same situation for the OP. Your detective skills arent that great.
OP, you chose to have another baby. You are now 32 weeks and are going to seriously tell us that you did NOTHING for this baby? Buy second hand, ask friends to borrow some of their old baby items, and in the future plan things out a little better.
You should realize this haven't had two babies previously- newborns do NOT need a lot of stuff. Place to sleep, a few things to wear, and a way to eat. Done. Everything else is just extra.
I don't want to be that girl who seems all gift grabby and demand someone throw me a shower.
Too bad, 'cause that's what you sound like.
Hmmm... some of you are really kind of conclusion jumpy, eh? Lol
First of all I was on birth control, but due to the meds for cluster headaches we had a bit of an "oops!" But, be that as it may, we can't wait to have a new little addition to our family, and things have worked out a little better in the past week- THANK GOD! ha!
Secondly, we can afford it. But our funds have been temporarily out of wack due to our move, but the hubs will be transferred and into his new job around the time baby #3 has arrived.
Thirdly- I have no idea what MUD is but from what I've concluded it's a fake? Which I'm not. Just someone who had a couple questions to ask of what she thought was a nice, understanding community. I guess there are hum-glums in every circle tho, eh?
But honestly, some pretty cool things have happened in the past week- such as instead of having to move into a small apartment, we've been offered a remodeled (small) 3 bedroom! YAY! I can't recall if it's stated here, but we'll be attending RBTC (Rhema Bible Training College) this fall, and even though things looked pretty sketchy for a minute, God has ultimately provided.
But besides the bit of rudeness I may have encountered here, I'm guessing for the most part ya'll were trying to be helpful- so Thanks
But some people who we helped out with their children have returned the blessing and sowed their little girl clothes (etc) to us!
Thanks anyways guys Lol
Oh and also-
I have had couple of people offer to throw a baby shower- it's just living between 2 states, plus having to spend so much time in MO has kind of made hat impossible. When I asked this question I was wondering about an after the babies born shower. Which my mother-in-law and best friend both have since offered to have- seeing as right now is kind of a difficult time.
But I'm glad I asked anyway, as a couple of sincerely nice people have stepped forward and let me know how their similar experiences worked out.
Also LOL just realized I replied to this wrong, *sigh* Long day haha