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what i don't understand

inthelostinthelost member
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I saw my daughter's sperm donor for the first time in a long time a couple of weeks ago. He's usally a giant *** but he was being so sweet this one day. He told me I was beautiful, that he missed me, that I was "glowing", he even seemed concerned when he saw my feet were swelling, started rubbing them and even felt her move several times with his hand and he seemed fasinated by it too, he asked me about all the doctor's appointments I had, etc. he was supposed to contact me a couple of days later but he never did so I contacted him and asked him what was up...how come I hadn't heard from him...he freaked out on me calling me "crazy" saying I "messed *** up for him" and told me "well good luck to you" which, I suppose means, "good luck with raising our daughter" I don't understand what the hell could have happened, what's with the flip. I really, really, really wish I would have never agreed to meet with him in the first place. I haven't heard anything in the past couple of weeks, so I guess he hasn't changed his mind and he thinks i'm the "crazy" one...him calling ME crazy really pissed me off more than anything though...he hasn't even BEGUN to see "crazy" my friends....thanks I guess I just needed to rant about this. It's made me pretty emotional over the past couple of weeks...I'm not very proud to say I've cried over it more than once. :( even though I know he's so not even worth it...but the one day he put through effort and showed interest...it got to my crazy, emotional rollercoaster of my hormones that is pregnancy...
Liliana Seraphina born 9/5/2103


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  • ktedmonktedmon member
    I'm so sorry. Men such @$$es. My son's sperm donor strung me along for a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant for fear I might do "something stupid" knowing I deal with depression constantly/ He already had a new gf moved in with him trying to talk her into getting pregnant too. When I talked about visiting him, he finally had to come clean. She contacted me saying she had no idea what was going on and that he had done nothing but lie to her about our relationship. Anyway, he's alwayss trying to bribe me by saying that he'll buy me something I crave or something like that if I'll see him. I don't want to, but I know I eventually will. I don't have any advice for you, just wanted you to know it happens to the best of us. There is no excuse for the wway these "children" act. I had a similar thing happen with a guy I was dating, but that was it. Try to stay strong and use this board whenever you need to. I am dealing with major depression and lots of other stuff and this site and this particular page have been a Godsend. Wonderful moms are here to listen.
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  • pinitbabypinitbaby member

    He sounds bipolar. Don't beat yourself up over his stupidity. You will always be that childs mother..he has already chosen to be elsewhere. I know its hard to accept but it make us mama's stronger and the more time that goes on is better for us to realize how much we really didn't need them around in the first place.

    HUGS! 

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