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Feeing blue

ktedmonktedmon member
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Before I begin, let me just say that I have no where else to voice my concerns, problems, etc. I'm not neccessrily looking for advice, but just a place to let everything out. I'm a FTM. At 20 weeks, I am still scared and very depressed. I am on antidepressants, but they don't seem to be working any more or last week was just very emotional. I posted about my porr kitty who got sick and ended up having to be put down. I still cry daily and it's partly that, but I also just feel so hopeless. I am out of work and am having a hard time finding anything! I don't know how I am going to support my baby boy and just so scared for the future. So far baby is healthy and I plan to keep him that way. Dad says he wants to be invloved and will only help financially if I let him be involved, like naming him. He will not be at the birth, or visit often as he lives in another state. I don't know how he will help finacially since he is quite proud of the fact taht he doesn't pay CS for other children.He's a user and not a good role model for our child. I am low on rent for the next few months and state help is not enough to cover it. I am at a loss. I just don't know what to do. Thank you for letting me vent/rant. I feel safe here with everyone that is single as well. I never imgianed being pregnant and alone, but it is what it is. I don't know where to go from here.
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  • babymama619babymama619 member

    I'm sorry, that sucks. Even though you might not want it, here's some advice:

    1. Talk to your doctor. If your meds aren't helping you it might be hard to put everything in perspective. 

    2. If you don't want BD to be involved in decisions, then don't let him be. Just because you let him pick the name doesn't mean he'll  keep his en of the bargain and help financially. His financial obligations should ideally be fulfilled because he cares about his son. If not, they should be met based on legal action you take against him...it is free to seek CS, but does take time.

    3. keep plugging away at the public aid offices or wherever you need help from. I know it's easier to say than do, but you just have to. Also know that when the baby is born a lot more services open up to you, so just hang on and keep asking for help.

    I'm sorry things look so dire right now. Hopefully they will turn around soon.

    ((creepy ehugs)) 


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  • Sherrita82Sherrita82 member
    imagebabymama619:
    I'm sorry, that sucks. Even though you might not want it, here's some advice: 1. Talk to your doctor. If your meds aren't helping you it might be hard to put everything in perspective.nbsp;2. If you don't want BD to be involved in decisions, then don't let him be. Just because you let him pick the name doesn't mean he'll nbsp;keep his en of the bargain and help financially. His financial obligations should ideally be fulfilled because he cares about his son. If not, they should be met based on legal action you take against him...it is free to seek CS, but does take time.3. keep plugging away at the public aid offices or wherever you need help from. I know it's easier to say than do, but you just have to. Also know that when the baby is born a lot more services open up to you, so just hang on and keep asking for help.I'm sorry things look so dire right now. Hopefully they will turn around soon.creepy ehugsnbsp;


    All this. It's tough but know you aren't alone. I too am sending creepy ehugs.
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  • inthelostinthelost member
    I'm also sending ehugs! *hug* I'm so sorry hon! I'm feeling a lot of what you're feeling...being pregnant and alone too. I know it's painful. I know every day feels like a lifetime. I know the lonliness. You're not alone though, we are here. You can private message me anytime if you'd like. 
    Liliana Seraphina born 9/5/2103


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  • pinitbabypinitbaby member

    I'm sorry sweets. It's just like you said...it is what it is. And we have to make the best of it! Is there a housing help centre near you that maybe has a rent bank? Sometimes Salvation Army can help..I live in Ontario Canada so I'm not sure what is available where you are. Another option if you get REALLY stuck facing eviction is going to a womens shelter..they may be able to help you with housing and give you that little head start that you need. Just do the best you can. Not every day will be a great day but as long as you're doing things to help your situation then you won't be at a complete loss.

    HUGS!! 

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