Another tacky shower....

blondolphn · June 2013

An old friend of the family is expecting her third kid. I got a text message about the baby shower. Wow. It's a potluck at a local park. I ended up buying her diapers, but only because I know her and her so will be getting legal custody of her so's sister's 5 kids. So she'd have 8 total and well that's going to be tough on anyone.

Originally I said I wasn't going due to a work conflict, but that's changed so I'm going to show up. W/o a gift (friend already got her econ sized box of diapers) with a dish. I really just hope I have left overs for my own meals for the week. I know I'm being somewhat tacky, but in this case I feel like I'm only reflecting what the shower will be like. It'll be good to see my friend again though, she's due in weeks and is on strict bedrest.

BlondieBia21 · June 2013

It was nice of you to get her diapers knowing the situation she will be in. It is also nice of her and very giving to step up and take care of her sister's children. I do not think anyone will be able to judge you on "tackiness" so just ignore them. You are showing support and if anyone does want to ask about your gift, just say it was already given to her.

BeckyTheEngineer · June 2013

Your friend will have 8 kids, and it sounds like she could use any help she can get. I'd want to support her too.

But are you saying you hope to take enough food from her party to eat leftovers all week? That is far more tacky.

blondolphn · June 2013

No, just the food that I made.

But it sounds like the hostess who is throwing it, isn't making anything so I won't have anything left over. I was planning on doing a pulled pork because my husband is gone so making pulled pork for one person is a bit much. But if you can give half of it away, it's perfect for left overs for the week.

I'm more pissed at the hostess. If your going to do it, do it. But sending out a text message randomly to people and then asking for everything is kind of ridiculous. At that point why not just do bring the mom some food rotation schedule, especially since she is on bed rest.

Edit: I also realize I've been in a super cranky mood today. Which probably makes me a bit more stabby at the hostess (who I don't have a great friendship with). Hopefully tomorrow I"ll wake up in a better and more gracious mood and not worry about the petty stuff.

ANDOPANO6 · June 2013

Is this for real? I would never bring a dish to a party and expect to take the leftovers home. That's beyond tacky.

SunshineMuffin · June 2013

ANDOPANO6:
Is this for real? I would never bring a dish to a party and expect to take the leftovers home. That's beyond tacky.

This x 100

blondolphn · July 2013

In the end, it didn't matter. I was the only person who knew what a potluck was as I was the only person that brought something other than the hostess (who had picked up a quick cake from a bakery). So the baby shower karma got me. And after the shower, the Dad promptly posted on fb how he was disappointed that none of his friends could make it to the diaper q and that they still needed diapers.

So I will take the lessons learned here and apply them for next time.

msmerymac · July 2013

MissConstrued:
right? you never take home whatever's leftover, unless the host asks if you'd like to. if you're more concerned about leftovers, why don't you just leave some at home before you go?

I *think* that's what the OP was saying. She was going to make enough to leave half home for leftovers all week, but then it turned out she had to bring all the pork. At least I hope so.

Sony22 · July 2013

blondolphn:
In the end, it didn't matter. I was the only person who knew what a potluck was as I was the only person that brought something other than the hostess (who had picked up a quick cake from a bakery). So the baby shower karma got me. And after the shower, the Dad promptly posted on fb how he was disappointed that none of his friends could make it to the diaper q and that they still needed diapers.

So I will take the lessons learned here and apply them for next time.

how sad Poor mommy to be, I wish it had gone better for her

RibbitGrl930 · July 2013

msmerymac:
MissConstrued:
right? you never take home whatever's leftover, unless the host asks if you'd like to. if you're more concerned about leftovers, why don't you just leave some at home before you go?

I *think* that's what the OP was saying. She was going to make enough to leave half home for leftovers all week, but then it turned out she had to bring all the pork. At least I hope so.

This is how I read it too.

Liz4444 · July 2013

blondolphn:
In the end, it didn't matter. I was the only person who knew what a potluck was as I was the only person that brought something other than the hostess who had picked up a quick cake from a bakery. So the baby shower karma got me. And after the shower, the Dad promptly posted on fb how he was disappointed that none of his friends could make it to the diaper q and that they still needed diapers.nbsp;nbsp;So I will take the lessons learned here and apply them for next time.nbsp;

You should respond to his post with the address of the closest Target.

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