Wondering when other moms of multiples have "gone public," or so I'm calling it. I am a FTM, 13w3d tomorrow with di/di twins! My husband and I have told family and close friends but have kept our news to ourselves besides that. Being our first pregnancy, we are obviously ecstatic about sharing about our LOs. I am not a huge Facebook person, but keep in contact w/friends and family using it considering we live hours away from my hometown. We now live in a small town where everyone seems to know everyone's buisness and I really would like this special news to come from us rather than hearsay. The pregnancy has run smoothly so far. 2 u/s, both were great, to match both of the babies heartbeats. I guess I'm just not sure we should hold out for another appointment or if that is even a big deal at this point. Thoughts? When did you share with others besides those close to you?
Re: When did you "go public?"
It's my second pregnancy.
Abigail Taylor 09.18.2008
T1 diabetes diagnosed 11/95 due to severe pancreatic injury
BFP 1 1/22/10 EDD 9/30/10 Adria b. 9/11/10 d.8/9/11, Transposition of the Great Arteries,
Pleural effusion, Kidney Failure
BFP 2 4/26/12 EDD 1/3/13 M/C 5/13/12
BFP 3 10/3/12 EDD 6/17/13 Twins! Preston and Juliet b. 5/22/13
We announced to parents around 6 weeks and went "public" around 8 weeks (I actually think it was closer to the end of 7 weeks). We were really excited - but my dad had a hard time keeping the news to himself and I wanted other close friends and family to find out from me/dh.
I stick by the saying, "Once you tell one person - you can't be made the secrets out." People mean well, but there is a good chance the secret will slip in excitement.
Dx: balanced translocation and LPD
TTC since Oct 2011
BPF 02/19/12, EDD 10/31/12, natural m/c 02/28/12 (4w6d)
IVF (BCPs starting 10/30/12, ER 11/18/12, 5dt of 1 beautiful, healthy embryo 11/23/12)
BFP 12/02/12, u/s @ 6w,5d showed 2 HBs! Identical twins!!
Bed rest from 21w-35w due to short cervix, hospital bed rest from 23w-32w due to PTL
Our rainbows were born 07/19/13 (36w, 5d)
We told my parents at 7 weeks, close family and friends at 9 weeks. Had our first u/s at 10 weeks where we found out it was twins. We came out on FB around the 14 week mark. Although a lot of people were spreading rumours long before we told anyone because I was extremely sick and tired in the beginning. Also, as a PP said, you tell one person, its likely to get out. One of our good friends slipped during a rec league hockey draft when asked why I wasn't playing. (Pregnancy wasn't the original reason why I didn't play in that league again but that's the reason the friend gave).
I told family at 6.5 weeks, then went public at 7, when I had my ultrasound.
Honestly for me though, I was more of the mind that whether or not something goes wrong... my life is changed. If I did have a miscarriage, I was going to have no problem telling people (but then again I hate that its something that people feel so ashamed of... most miscarriages are not preventable.)
First of all Congratulations! We told our parents at 6 weeks when we found out it was twins... I told my Bosses on Monday because I am already showing and couldn't continue to hide it. I am 8 weeks turning 9 weeks tomorrow. I will go public at 12 weeks (end of first trimester) I was trying to hide it for longer but since in am a public figure and do appearances at events often people are starting noticing. This is my second pregnancy I had a miscarriage 2 years ago with twins also so this time I am taking it very very easy. I guess timing is a personal choice most of my friends announced at the end of their first trimester.
PS:
I am already working on our announcement! LOL
2 Onesies
Vacation Souvenir
Baby A & Baby B
both of us holding them over my belly at a close by park a picture will be taken and will mail to rest of family & close friends. Followed by posts on social media
so excited i cant wait to spill the beans! Good Luck to You!
We are actively discouraging our families from posting on Facebook. DW and I are basically anti-FB.
But we told DW's mom and brother around 10w because it was Father's day and they were in town.
We told my parents and her cousins around 11w because it was the 4th and we were all together.
We started telling other friends at 12. We'll be telling my brothers closer to 13w, as that's when we'll see them next.
Basically, after 12w we're telling people as we see them. And actively telling them to keep the news off FB.