When are you sharing the good news?

maneesha99 · July 2013

We just found out we're preggo, and now we're debating when to tell family. We've got a big visit this weekend with one set of parents at 5wks, a visit with the other parents at 10wks, and a visit with extended family (including cousin who is an ob/gyn) at 12wks. I've heard wait until you're done with the first trimester and tell family ASAP so you can start getting their support early.

It's hard not to tell anyone - we're ready to yell it from the rooftops!

bumpuser9058414 · July 2013

It's entirely up to you when to tell. With DD we told everyone ASAP. We have told our parents and some close friends and family but are waiting to hear the heart beat before telling extending family since we had an early loss in May.

Serena0429 · July 2013

We told moms and siblings the day we got a positive. H is going to tell a close friend (like a brother) today. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, close friends etc will find out around 8-10 weeks and everyone else 12 weeks

asmall31 · July 2013

My hubby and I are struggling with the same dilemma. We only told our very close friends, a couple who has 2 small children. This was so I could tell someone and also share any information with them. We are going to tell our parents at 12wks and everyone else, soon after.

But it's your choice and there is no wrong time to tell people.

ufsandra85 · July 2013

told my mom. after my betas today i might announce it on facebook if the betas are good

hippiechick21 · July 2013

We told parents the day of BFP. I will probably tell everyone else after my first appt on 7/26 just so we can make sure everything is okay. My husband wanted to put it on facebook. I told him no because we still haven't told extended family member and I don't want them to find out via facebook. Poor thing, is very excited. Big Smile

flmomof4 · July 2013

With DD we told my sister right away and told both sets of parents at the end of the week when they were visiting. DH told his friends right away but I wanted until closer to 810 weeks to tell. This time my sister knows and I'm probably going to tell my parents today. We'll tell DH's parents today if he wants, otherwise I'll wait until I miss my period this weekend.

MaDa8 · July 2013

Hi. This is our first and we found out pretty early during a visit to my doc to talk about clomid!. My hubby is very practical and cautious so he would like to wait until 12 weeks to make the news public and I don't mind that. I would like to tell my best friend, who lives out of state and has two kids. Hubby asked me to wait until 10 weeks. I think I may see if he's comfortable with me telling her after our first U/S in a little over a week. Would be great to have her to talk to.

Jkirst25 · July 2013

I have my first OB appointment at 8 weeks and figure ill wait until after that to tell my parents and close friends, I'd like to have a picture and a due date to share! :

AlwaysSunny08 · July 2013

With my DD we told our immediate family right away and everyone else after the first u/s. My last pregnancy ended in a m/c in feb and I'm glad we hadn't told a lot of people.

As of now only immediately family knows and we won't be announcing to others until between 10 and 12 weeks.

jjt616 · July 2013

FarmBoysWife:
You can tell whenever you want, but be prepared for someone to tell your good news. In about a month you'll start seeing the posts about how mom and grandma couldn't keep their traps shut. My own mom did it to me with strangers.

Not that it always happens but make sure you're ok with all those extra people knowing. If you would 100 not be ok with it save yourself the grief and heartache and don't tell.

I agree with this. I learned the hard way with dd that if you tell one person in a "group" or family be prepared for everyone to know. For some reason people just feel like they have to share other people's news of expecting. So I'd say either tell everyone or noone until you are comfortable with everyone knowing. But honestly do what makes you and SO happy because that's all that matters :.

ETA: with dd we told our families and close friends right away and did he same with this LO. My family is really close and there is no way I could possibly keep it from them.

3rdTimesACharm2 · July 2013

We are not sharing it with anyone until after our US at 7 weeks. This is our third child, so we are being cautious that our children do not find out before we are ready to share the news!

BabiesFTW · July 2013

It's totally up to you and what you're comfortable with. I told my sister a couple days ago but I'm waiting to tell other family until after my 10 week appt when I hear the heartbeat and have an ultrasound.

Parrishfam5 · July 2013

With all of our kids we've told right away and we did the same thing this time all our family is super close and find things out one way or another!

mrsjetertoyou · July 2013

We had a mc 3 yrs ago and have had difficulty TTC ever since. After going to a fertility dr for 4 months we finally are pregnant. Because of the mc though, we are waiting to tell our family until the first trimester is complete. We have told my sister and my best friend, both of whom I've been open with about the mc and the infertility struggles. One thing that bothers me is we found out the night before we went on vacation with another family; when I called my dr, they wanted me to get some bloodwork done immediately, so because we don't have a car and it would have been too far to cab it, we had to ask the other family to use their car and the mom guessed the reason. I am not confident in her not to blab since she's been acting "giddy" and making obvious little comments. I just hate to think that she will tell one person, who tells another person, etc, and before you know it someone's congratulating me on Facebook before I have told my mom, which would really hurt her. Bad timing I suppose but not much we could have done about it. I just hope it stays the secret I would like it to be!

floridablonde · July 2013

We told my Parents, but not our two children yet. We are going to wait till after our first ultrasound to tell our children the news!

bunniekrissy · July 2013

I already told my parents and sister, as they live close and my mom babysits my son while I work, so she was here and I felt no reason not to share. We'll probably tell my husband's family the next time we see them, which should be some time in the next couple of weeks. And I'm not sure when we'll start making the news more public. Last time I told some friends at 8 weeks, boss at 7 weeks because she asked me ....... and made it Facebook-public at almost 11 weeks.

Hays0770 · July 2013

Hubs and I have each told one friend just so we have someone to talk/complain/ask advice from. I told a friend of mine that is a new mom (clear choice) and he told his half brother who has a 10 year old daughter. It was so cool to see their reactions I cant wait to tell more people!!

After our doc appt at 9 weeks we will tell our parents, and then at 12 weeks we will announce to our families.

I keep debating about telling "the world" on Facebook, because I teach and I dont really want to start off the school year with all of my families knowing that their teacher is bailing in March. haha. I know I focus on what others think of me waaaay too much, but before having my own 'lil cook in my belly my students were my kids. I hope it doesn't change for me this school year. That would suck for them. HA

iErica · July 2013

ufsandra85:
told my mom. after my betas today i might announce it on facebook if the betas are good

Glad I won't be the only early announcer

I've even had a m/c before (10 weeks) and still plan to tell soon. The support I had during it was amazing, I don't regret telling everyone soon.

I've told my best friends and parents/inlaws already. I'll be telling everyone else soon! Within a few weeks, I think. Just what we prefer to do, I'm excited to share.

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amandoza23 · July 2013

I will be about 78 weeks on the 15th for my first u/s and we are also leaving that same day to go on vacation to visit my family so we plan on telling them in person then. We will wait until after the 1st trimester to tell all of our coworkers though, just to be safe. I've already told a couple of my closest friends because its a very hard secret to keep lol

mrsdahamm · July 2013

MH and I were NTNP so when I got that BFP we were so shocked and super excited we couldn't keep it to ourselves. I had to work all day in a place with no cell service, so I told my mom, sister, and two close friends before work then told dad and another friend after work. Meanwhile. DH had the day off and I think he texted or called everyone he knows lol We still haven't made it "Facebook official" or told some of my extended family.

Luckie519 · July 2013

I feel you. I want to tell everyone too. I was talking to DH about this the other day about how I would like to tell our family, but he really wants to wait. We had a loss last year and it was rough on us.

I think we will end up telling our families after the first appointment and then maybe wait until first trimester to tell everyone else. Good luck!

VineyardMel · July 2013

With our first pregnancy we told our families and a few close friends right away. When I had a miscarriage I was grateful for the support. With DD we also told family and a few close friends right away, then I told work at 13wks and went FB public at 14wks. This time we found out a few days before my SIL's baby shower and didn't want to take away from her day so we were going to wait another week--then she had the baby almost 5wks early. So now we decided to just wait until after our first u/s on 7/11. Because DD's only 9mo, I'm already starting to show and I'm not sure how long I'm going to be able to put off being "public" with the news.

Ajksandusky · July 2013

I have told my dh, my mom my best friends knows bc she was there when I took the test. Going to wait a few weeks to tell everyone else. We have been ttc for 8.5 yrs so it might turn out to hard to keep quiet.

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