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Anxiety over minor illness

MomtothreeloveMomtothreelove member
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Hi, sorry to bust in on the board! I'm usually a lurker first, bc I'm on due nov2013...but I have DS who is 4 and DS who is 2 and I'm losing my mind!

I have unhealthy anxiety when my kids are sick. My kids are generally healthy, but the 10 or so times a year that they get sick, I am a wreck! I panic, get diarrhea, hyperventilate, and go outside my mind. The whole time I know I'm being irrational. I try to get it back under control, but I cannot control it. I keep it together in front of them bc I feel so horrible that I am an epic fail in this respect, but I'm such a flippin disaster on the inside. My 2 y.o. Had a febrile seizure once and that has heightened my paranoia but even the stomach flu brings on the whole ordeal?!
What is wrong with me that I cannot stop being crazy? I tried talking to my doctor about it and he just brushed it off like all moms worry. I just want confirmation that this is "normal" and that getting hives bc your kid gets sick is considered "normal"?! My DH makes me feel like I should be institutionalized! He thinks I'm nuts but I cannot control it! Sorry for my long, crazy post!!
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  • AsOctoberFallsAsOctoberFalls member
    I think it's normal to feel anxiety when your kids are sick, even mildly sick - I do.  But hives, diarrhea, hyperventilation, etc. are NOT normal.  Have you considered talking to a mental health professional about it?  Perhaps it's a chemical imbalance that can be easily corrected.  It sounds like your doctor wasn't really listening when you described the extent of your anxiety.
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  • Temp123197812503460Temp123197812503460
    I think you are right to ask the dr and it sucks your family dr brushed you off!
    I know where you are coming from, my kid also had a febrile seizure and I feel like my response to them getting sick has gone a little too far on the anxiety scale, not quite as bad as hives etc but I'm also thinking of talking to someone

    I howl you get the support you need and while it isn't normal and you should get help I also don't think you should feel like a freak or anything, anexity happens and can be dealt with.

    Good luck!
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  • MomtothreeloveMomtothreelove member
    Thanks ladies! I will talk to someone...I never get anxiety over anything and this is so not like me! I'm sorry I was in a meltdown at 2am last night. I love every grey hair they give me but I need to cope better with them getting sick. I just wish it was me and not them. Thanks again and best wishes!
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  • abeer26abeer26
    Ugh! This is me to a T!!!!!! I have the worst anxiety over my dd being sick. It's irrational and NOT normal and it's A huge part of why I will not have another child. I can't explain the feeling but like you my husband doesn't understand and I have a hard time keeping myself in check over it. I pray that she doesn't get sick : so sorry and let's hope for each other that they just stay healthy!
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  • Kingston54Kingston54 member
    Worrying is normal but yours sounds extra serious.  I'd see your doctor and see if you could talk to someone about it to see if that helps.
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  • virginiagirl11virginiagirl11 member
    I agree. It's normal to be anxious to a degree about a relatively minor illness like the stomach flu in your child, but your reactions are definitely not normal (no offense!). You should definitely seek out someone who will listen and can help you with this. Good luck!
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