NBR- Shameless Disgruntled Bride

Re: NBR- Shameless Disgruntled Bride

• Cranang member

  July 2013

  I wish SO MUCH that I would receive an email like this. I would shame that person publicly so much, it would honestly make my year.

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• RibbitGrl930 member

  July 2013

  somerandomchick:

  People are so awful. Why do they think their guests are supposed to pay for their wedding? I'll say it again: if you don't like someone enough to buy them a 200 dollar meal, either don't invite them or buy a cheaper meal for everyone. Those are the ONLY two options.

   Agreed. Maybe it's a regional thing, but I never understood the idea that a guest should give a gift commensurate with the price of their meal. First of all, the budget is the responsibility of the bride and groom, and it is up to them to host a wedding they can afford. Second, how is a guest supposed to know what his/her meal cost? I would consider very tacky for a bride to call up each of her guests to say, "By the way, we're spending $200 for your meal. Purchase your gift accordingly."

  I love the reaction that the e-mail was "the wrong reaction to a gift." I agree. The only reaction to a gift should be, "Thank you."

   

  

   

  
  

  
  

   

   

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• SingleMom31 member

  July 2013

  Personally, I've never had a meal at a wedding that I'd pay 200 per plate for, especially since we don't drink much and don't contribute much to the bar bill. If I'm paying for my plate, I'd like something better than the standard chicken plate or steak cooked medium.

  

   

  

  

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• Aurora317

  July 2013

  Wow, this literally made my jaw drop. The ONLY acceptable response to a gift of any kind is, "Thank You."
  
  A wedding gift is not compensation for the bride & groom deciding to host a reception that is beyond their budget. What you spent per-plate has no bearing on what people "should" give you as a gift. It's bad enough that people are passing judgement on the "appropriateness" of a gift, but to verbalize it in this way is flat out disgusting.

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• RibbitGrl930 member

  July 2013

  Aurora317:

  Wow, this literally made my jaw drop. The ONLY acceptable response to a gift of any kind is, "Thank You."
  
  A wedding gift is not compensation for the bride & groom deciding to host a reception that is beyond their budget. What you spent per-plate has no bearing on what people "should" give you as a gift. It's bad enough that people are passing judgement on the "appropriateness" of a gift, but to verbalize it in this way is flat out disgusting.

  Precisely. In fact, it has always been my understanding that the reception is a thank you to the guests for coming and sharing in the day (with formal thank you's to come in card form for the gift, of course). Therefore, the bride and groom are actually the ones paying back their guests in some form, not the other way around.

   

  

   

  
  

  
  

   

   

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• Texasmomma13 member

  July 2013

  I would love to know who started this "grand" idea that the guests are supposed to pay for the wedding.
  

    
  

  

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• BallSox member

  July 2013

  I'd be so tempted to reply with a link to https://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-18th-Edition/dp/0061740233/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1372894341&sr=8-1&keywords=emily+post" target="_blank" title="https://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-18th-Edition/dp/0061740233/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1372894341&sr=8-1&keywords=emily+post">https://www.amazon.com/Emily-Posts-Etiquette-18th-Edition/dp/0061740233/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1372894341&sr=8-1&keywords=emily+post and say "Well, I sent you enough to cover the book and by my best math, you're still coming out about $70 ahead.  Hey, go ahead and spring for some https://www.amazon.com/Durex-Variety-Fish-Condom-Count/dp/B002T5L454/ref=sr_1_5?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1372894435&sr=1-5&keywords=bulk+condoms" target="_blank" title="https://www.amazon.com/Durex-Variety-Fish-Condom-Count/dp/B002T5L454/ref=sr_1_5?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1372894435&sr=1-5&keywords=bulk+condoms">https://www.amazon.com/Durex-Variety-Fish-Condom-Count/dp/B002T5L454/ref=sr_1_5?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1372894435&sr=1-5&keywords=bulk+condoms to make sure your rude and ignorant genes are not passed on into the gene pool."
  
  What a tool. 

  Little Man (4 years old---holy cow)
  He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be.  He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.  

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• Liz4444 member

  July 2013

  Well then, if this is the new way of thinking we have a lot of phone calls to make because we didn't get anywhere close to what was spent. And here I thought I was just supposed to send a note that said thank you.

  

  
  

  

  
  

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