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Pregnancy announcement - my 1st, his 3rd

marina7gusmarina7gus
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Any ideas on how to send a pregnancy announcement to friends and family?

This is my 1st child at 41 years old, while he already has 2 others through my ex-wife-in-law.
I am 9 weeks pregnant.
As many of you can imagine, none of this is new to him. While it is not "special" for him, he remains very supportive.

I am waiting until as late as possible to tell my parents, as my mother is a controlling, manipulative joy-buster who will no doubt steal my thunder. I know this from previous experience as she did the same for my wedding - announcing it out to the world before I had a chance to open my mouth, and then even picking the date for me!

His parents, however, are expected to be the been-there-done-that killjoys. I know this from experience as well... when they learned of my last "secret" pregnancy that didn't go well, they questioned why I would even think of having children at my age.

To add to it all, everyone in my entourage has already had kids. The big peak was last year when not less than 5 of my friends were pregnant at the same time. They are all in their early 30s. My mother has not stopped reminding me that I am truly the last of the bunch and have wasted my life on trifle things like living.

But yes, I do want to make a big hoopla about this pregnancy. I think after everything I have been through in life, I deserve to make a special announcement.... not just picking up the phone or sending an email.

Any suggestions? 

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Re: Pregnancy announcement - my 1st, his 3rd

  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member

    Just because it's your DH's 3rd doesn't mean that it's not "special". My DS was DH's 4th. He's my 2nd but each child is special.

    As far as announcing, perhaps you could send out an announcement card to everyone, if you Google pregnancy announcements under images there are tons of ideas.Or you could have a get together, like a dinner, and announce it there with people most important to you.

    Personally, we just called people and told others as we saw them. I also had a miscarriage with DH and my first pregnancy together and so we waited longer to tell people the second time around. But while this pregnancy is a big deal to you, you have to realize that it might not be for other people and that doesn't have anything to do with it being your first or it being your DH's 3rd. Most people are not going to be as excited as you so just don't let that get to you because that is pretty normal.

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  • hopankahopanka member
    Dont set yourself up for disappointment. Nobody will be as excited about the baby as you and H are, that is normal and to be expected. Just announce it however you want, but to me huge get togethers with a drum roll so to speak are a little tacky and AWish. I just kinda told people as it happenned. Its not as big as a birth announcement.
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    If your husband is making you feel that this pregnancy is not special to him, that's your first problem. That's something you can only deal with one-on-one with him.

    As for the idea of making a big announcement... if you do not feel your family and friends will share your enthusiasm, then skip it. You can't make people feel things they don't. Tell people privately, so if their reactions are not what you want everyone won't be on display.

    Some people are having huge gender reveal parties. Or drop some subtle hints that you would like to go all out for your shower.  

    Honestly, like someone else said, I think you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Your pregnancy is just not going to be the huge deal to everyone else that it is to you. But the corollary of that is that you're the one with the special connection to the baby that no one else gets to have.


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  • xmaryrickxxmaryrickx member
    imagehopanka:
    Dont set yourself up for disappointment. Nobody will be as excited about the baby as you and H are, that is normal and to be expected. Just announce it however you want, but to me huge get togethers with a drum roll so to speak are a little tacky and AWish. I just kinda told people as it happenned. Its not as big as a birth announcement.
    I have to agree with this. It's special you are having a baby but no one is going to be as excited as you are. There are three thousand pregnancy announcements ideas on pinterest. I think most people eye roll at cutesy announcements, but if it's what you really want to do I would browse pinterest and find something that suits your personality.
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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    Mail a photo announcement. Look up ideas on Pinterest. But just mail them out so that, as PP mentioned, everyone is not on display. No one is going to react with all the jump up and down enthusiasm you see in the movies unfortunately. Mailing out someweight awesome announcement allows you the excitement of making the announcement, creative pictures are so much fun!, and allow everyone to digest the news so they can either get happy or at least not be so negative.

    And as others said, try not to be so negative.
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  • marina7gusmarina7gus

    Thanks Ladies, for your insight!

    I wasn't planning on throwing a huge party to begin with... the big hoopla I was aiming for was more in the line of something "small, creative, yet awesome".

    And by the way, baby showers don't exist where I live. So that's not an option.

    I wanted to avoid the in-person-cough-up-the-news that would force me to see their disappointed reactions. I'm not looking for the movie-excitement, but I just can't bear their negativity.

    I was initially thinking of having hubby just break the news to them while I get some air, but then thought this really isn't cool for either me or junior.
    Yes, I know this is only special for me... but on the other hand, the backlash I get for this is not warranted either.

    I really, really like the creative photo announcement idea...
    If they got their negative comments, at least     I'm not there to let it bring me down.

    Thanks again for the input!

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