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Update. WTF did i do post.

PatriciaPottsPatriciaPotts
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Thanks, really I needed a ear. A ear that didn't care about my reaction and some straight advice.

 

So I got myself my own personal therapist. I go today. I moved back in with my mom and we are going to couples counseling.(still)

You know that moment that you have when you know its dead, I have not had it yet. I'm going to give this some cool down time and then at least feel some peace with whatever I decide.

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  • PatriciaPottsPatriciaPotts

    ^^ im trying to say...I don't want to feel like any thing or any action I take is so emotionally driven I turn around and try to fix. Thus maybe making my real reaction of leaving delayed. if I leave this relationship I want it to be with a cool and thought out mind frame and if I stay I want the same as well.

     

    Am I making sense?

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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    I think you are doing a good thing by not making any emotionally driven choices. I wish you peace, comfort, and strength in whatever lies ahead for you.

    I am going to PM you later when I am not at work with something that I believe you might find helpful, even if only on an individual level.
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    You're doing the right thing. The relationship might be done, and I don't think you need to wait for that 'dead' feeling to make a move. When XH and I split, I would have preferred to tried a few more things. I didn't have that certainty that things were done. But they were; it just took me longer to realize it. 

    See what your instincts are telling you. Mull over the last six months, and how well the relationship has worked.

    In any case, making sure your head is straight before making a huge decision is always a smart move. Maybe try giving yourself a bit of a deadline, just so that you aren't left in limbo for too long. 

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  • KTdiditKTdidit member
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    You're doing the right thing. The relationship might be done, and I don't think you need to wait for that 'dead' feeling to make a move. When XH and I split, I would have preferred to tried a few more things. I didn't have that certainty that things were done. But they were; it just took me longer to realize it. 

    See what your instincts are telling you. Mull over the last six months, and how well the relationship has worked.

    In any case, making sure your head is straight before making a huge decision is always a smart move. Maybe try giving yourself a bit of a deadline, just so that you aren't left in limbo for too long. 

    This is good advice. I'm notorious for dragging things out longer than they should be "just to see", just in case some thing changes. It rarely does. Good jopb on getting an individual therapist/counselor. When my first marriage hit the rocks I tried getting him to go, when he refused I went by myself. It really helped me sort through things and figure out what was best for myself and my son. Good luck. We are always here if you need an ear.

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