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Pamelacake
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What's up BM's sleeve
Pamelacake
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BM keeps calling and leaving voicemails about her 4th of July time with SD's. This time has already been talked about and scheduled between DH and BM.
DH and BM go to court in a week to modify visitation.
BM keeps calling acting like she isn't getting a response and doesn't know what's going on with the 4th. Most of the voicemails end with BM begging DH not to take her to court. I'm pretty sure that is her main reason for calling as BM doesn't really show interest at all in seeing SD's.
BM had given different phone numbers to have DH text a response.. DH complies. But BM still calls pretending not to have gotten the message. 3 numbers in the last 3 days to be exact.
BM said she couldn't figure out how to get to her texts or voicemail on her new phone so to text BF's phone. Still pretending not to get the messages.
I'm not concerned about contempt really.. but there are always loopholes. It shows all of the messages were sent from DH's phone so that should be enough.. right? I mean if BM is trying to say DH didn't comply
Not to be mean but I don't think she's smart enough to do that.
My thoughts
A) Trying for contempt
Just wants to try to get out of court
C) BF not letting BM know DH is responding.
Hmmmm *scratches chin* I just don't like not knowing.
Just wants to try to get out of court
C) BF not letting BM know DH is responding.
Hmmmm *scratches chin* I just don't like not knowing. 
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
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Re: What's up BM's sleeve
Oh I didn't know that! Luckily that hasn't been an issue but that did stick out in my mind! Thank You
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
Do you have a lawyer?
If so, I would do a group text. I would text a final message to all three phone numbers she has provided to you, along with your lawyer and her lawyer if she has one.
I would say something along the lines of:
"BM, My Lawyer, Her Lawyer - Due to the continued issues with BM's ability to receive texts, I will send one more text regarding 4th of July, Drop off will be <x> and pick up will be <Y>. If there are any further questions, please contact my lawyer. His office number is <555-555-5555>.
Then be done with it. IF she is trying to entrap you, she is now entrapped herself.
^^Exactly.
We do this with emails a lot. Once BM sees that the attorney has been CC'd, suddenly she cooperates. It's a pain and a hassle, but it gives results.
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FWIW, if BM and DH have already agreed on a time, there is no way he is in violation of the CO by not texting her. He is not obligated to keep texting her with details that they already discussed. It's her job to remember - not his to be her secretary!
Does she have an email address? Or, can you set up google calendar for SDs schedule?
I didn't think so but I don't know what her point is. It's just frustrating that we have to go through this, usually worse than this to set up a visit with BM just for her not to show up anyways. It makes me so mad at her and feel so bad for SD's.
I used to text BM to remind her of her weekends and holiday time... she never came for any of it so I stopped doing that.
no email and I have a wall calendar that I keep in my room (took it out of SD's room due to BM never showing up) and on two computers as well.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
Very good advice but BM pretends not to get the texts and leaves voicemails without the phone even ringing. When DH calls the three numbers he has for BM she doesn't answer.
I think I will use your advice though and have DH send a text to all 3 numbers BM has been calling from and have DH include the attorney's number in there as well. Thank You!
DH has an attorney, I'm not sure about BM, as she has been saying she does for months now but nothing that comes out of her mouth can be believed.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5