Frustrated.

bigbootyjudi · July 2013

I applied for daycare assistance from the state. We can afford daycare, but we'd be scraping by once SO's student loans start going into repayment in two months.

I put SO on the application because I didn't want to commit welfare fraud...because I'm a productive, honest member of society, and by law, I was supposed to because he lives in this house. I explained in the comments why we were applying, that we only needed assistance for 3 months, and we didn't even require full assistance.

I got a denial letter in the mail. When I called the worker to ask why, she said it was due to our combined salaries and that I should have left SO off the application since we weren't married because then I probably would have qualified.

So, for being an honest, working, member of society with more than a "baby daddy," I'm punished. But, a girl I work with who 5 kids by 4 BDs at 27 years old, who works one day every two weeks, doesn't go to school, and lives in her house Section-8 approved house, gets full assistance in every which way; over $1,000 a month in cash, groceries, and mortgage assistance.

BULLSHITT.

It's so discouraging. I mean, we both bust our assez, work, go to school, have our own apartment, cars, etc. We're not begging the state for money left and right. We just need some help for a few months. We're good people, do what we're supposed to do, and ugh.Why would I try to do something with my life when I could sit on my asss and let everyone else pay for me to live?

smile50208 · July 2013

BBJ - I totally respect you for being an honest person. It drives me nuts when people take advantage of the system and those who need the assistance are therefore out of luck. Is there any way to appeal the decision?

nduquette23 · July 2013

Has your SO applied for Income Based Repayment? It's based on last year's taxes. I have this for my federal student loans and it's really helpful.

punkrockabye · July 2013

nduquette23:
Has your SO applied for Income Based Repayment? It's based on last year's taxes. I have this for my federal student loans and it's really helpful.

This, this, this! I would owe a couple thousand per month if it weren't for IBR. I am lucky enough to only have federal loans do my entire student loan debt is covered. Based on income and family size.

I'm a huge proponent of this; it was very unfortunate how few of my grad school peers had heard of IBR. And when I told them, they shrugged it off.

latnprincess · July 2013

I hear you girl. I always put us both down and always get denied. We just barely make above what would be the requirement. For reduced lunches for my ODS and for daycare assistance, for everything! But we live paycheck to paycheck pretty much. IT sucks.

MeredithML · July 2013

I am right there with you!! It's just frustrates me that those people get to stay home with their kids! I go to work everyday and leave my son because I need the money to live. They get the money out of my paycheck and don't have to leave their kids.