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My Mom is telling everybody..

ajdmamaajdmama member
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So, I'm not big into spilling the baby beans until at least 12 weeks...We did tell our parents over the weekend, but were waiting to tell our sisters in person. My sisters dont live out of town, but they're busy so I have to make plans to see them (little eyeroll there). But anyways, before I could tell my sisters, my Mom told my mouthy little 13yr old cousin who then told my sisters the next day...why?I dont know. 

Idk the whole thing annoys me a little because she's messing up moments that I want to have with my sisters. Overreacting?Hormones?  

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  • babylimasbabylimas member
    I think most find that annoying. My mother tells the whole world as soon as I tell her. I expect it. Luckily I don't enjoy the announcement so she is the only person I have to tell.
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  • BabiesFTWBabiesFTW member
    Not overreacting. That's totally annoying. It's not her place to spread the news. I'm sorry
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  • ajdmamaajdmama member

    Sigh. I'm glad I'm not being crazy- she has a way of making me feel like I'm totally delusional every time she does stuff like this. And to add to the ridiculousness of it, I have 2 other sisters (with no kids) who are watching her every Grandma move...you would think she'd be on better behavior. 


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  • Cristal GomezCristal Gomez
    I'd be annoyed if anyone did this too me. That's ur big news to share with ur loved ones nobody else's.
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  • mevensenmevensen member
     Oh no!  I think that would make me upset as well!  I have a sister who has been TTC for over 10 years with 2 failed IVFs so I am worried about how to approach the situation with her before my mom gets to her.  

                          

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  • legallygingerlegallyginger member
    That is annoying, and I definitely think most people would understand your annoyance.

    I'm having the opposite issue. I don't really want the job of telling extended family, but my mother keeps saying she won't tell anyone even though I gave her permission.
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  • Meesh1222Meesh1222 member
    My mom is the last to know everything!!! Smh for this reason
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  • jjt616jjt616 member
    imageCristal Gomez:
    I'd be annoyed if anyone did this too me. That's ur big news to share with ur loved ones nobody else's.


    All of this. I don't know why people think its ok to tell other people's news.
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  • corbsmomcorbsmom member
    I'd be majorly annoyed, too. I've only told my parents, DH, and sister. I told them all explicitly not to tell anyone else. It's YOUR news, no matter how excited anyone else may be about it so therefore, not their place to tell. I'd tell her that you know she's just excited, but to please not tell anyone else until you are ready.
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  • Birdie1483Birdie1483 member

    imagemevensen:
     Oh no!  I think that would make me upset as well!  I have a sister who has been TTC for over 10 years with 2 failed IVFs so I am worried about how to approach the situation with her before my mom gets to her.  

    Tell your mom that you want to be the one to tell your sister, so she needs to keep her mouth shut. 

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  • mcatmaymcatmay member

    imagemevensen:
     Oh no!  I think that would make me upset as well!  I have a sister who has been TTC for over 10 years with 2 failed IVFs so I am worried about how to approach the situation with her before my mom gets to her.  

    I would tell your sister before i told your mom - it'll make her feel honored that you told her first and respected that you took the time to think about how to approach her.

    OP, i would be pissed - honestly, i haven't told anyone besides BFF for precisely that reason. My rule on telling people is tell people that would be supportive if you had a MC - i.e. that you would lean on if things didn't go well. So, right now, it's just my DH and my BFF because my parents have a tendency to make anything going on in my life about them.  

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  • Lauren659Lauren659 member
    My mom did that last time, and I made her untell everyone she told when we had our loss.

    Because of this, she is going to be the very last person we tell right before we publicly announce it.
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  • mrsj0423mrsj0423 member
    Ugh, I would be very annoyed and I would say something to her.  I am sure she is just excited, but it is YOUR news to share, not hers.
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  • kare_bear_12kare_bear_12 member
    I had to make it clear to my mom that I wanted to tell my brother and SIL. She had told me about my SIL before they did, and I kept my mouth shut until they told me, but I made her swear to not open her mouth cause I'm telling them tomorrow on 4th of July.

     

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