More upset by the day....

Geekywife · June 2013

I am finding more and more things upsetting me each day that I am still trying to get pregnant. I am watching the entire run of Quantum Leap with my husband and one episode has me in tears because it was about a mom trying to keep her baby. Then I heard a news story about a "mother" who left her 3 year old in a locked house while she went out. That poor child shot herself with her mom's gun while her mom is away.

I know that everything is done in God's time but I want to know why I wouldn't make as good a parent as the lady who let that child die.

I wonder what story today will bring.

Jacque Sills · June 2013

Geekywife:

I know that everything is done in God's time but I want to know why I wouldn't make as good a parent as the lady who let that child die.
I wonder what story today will bring.

I know what you mean, I ask this question almost everyday.....Sending Warm Hugs to you!

BeckyP005 · June 2013

I hear you...big hugs to you.

QOTR · June 2013

I'm sorry that you're going through an especially hard time. I hope you receive some good news soon.

on42 · June 2013

I know how you feel. I was hoping to adopt my foster son, who had been severely neglected for the first three years of his life. This is after his birth mother had already lost permanent custody of her four oldest children, and the fifth was killed at 3 months old by her boyfriend. In the end, after being kicked out of other recovery programs and before completing another recovery/parenting/etc program, they chose not to terminate her parental rights and he was placed back into her home. That was just this last winter. He was already in the system for almost 2 years at 4 years old.

It's very difficult to understand how people who WANT so much to be parents many times have to jump through hoop after hoop meeting letdown, while fertile women everywhere give birth everyday and abandon their child(ren) or don't properly care for them.

But, I have faith that my time will come. Our time will come. I'm not sure what else to say, but I do relate, and I do understand.

You are in my thoughts, lady. xo

SapphireDreamRock · June 2013

on42:
I know how you feel. I was hoping to adopt my foster son, who had been severely neglected for the first three years of his life. nbsp;This is after his birth mother had already lost permanent custody of her four oldest children, and the fifth was killed at 3 months old by her boyfriend. In the end, after being kicked out of othernbsp;recoverynbsp;programs and before completing another recovery/parenting/etc program, they chose not to terminate her parental rights and he was placed back into her home. That was just this last winter. He was already in the system for almost 2 years at 4 years old.It's very difficult to understand how people who WANT so much to be parents many times have to jump through hoop after hoop meeting letdown, while fertile women everywhere give birth everyday andnbsp;abandonnbsp;their children or don't properly care for them.But, I have faith that my time will come. Our time will come. I'm not sure what else to say, but I do relate, and I do understand. You are in my thoughts, lady. xonbsp;

Stories like this are infuriating heartbreaking. I want to believe in our laws but when common sense is thrown out the window, it just isn't right. I'm so sorry.

Geekywife · June 2013

on42:
I know how you feel. I was hoping to adopt my foster son, who had been severely neglected for the first three years of his life. This is after his birth mother had already lost permanent custody of her four oldest children, and the fifth was killed at 3 months old by her boyfriend. In the end, after being kicked out of other recovery programs and before completing another recovery/parenting/etc program, they chose not to terminate her parental rights and he was placed back into her home. That was just this last winter. He was already in the system for almost 2 years at 4 years old.
It's very difficult to understand how people who WANT so much to be parents many times have to jump through hoop after hoop meeting letdown, while fertile women everywhere give birth everyday and abandon their child(ren) or don't properly care for them.
But, I have faith that my time will come. Our time will come. I'm not sure what else to say, but I do relate, and I do understand.
You are in my thoughts, lady. xo

To be honest this is a fear I am not visiting yet. We are going to start the process to adopt this time next year after we get a few more bills paid and feel more secure in our money matters. I am afraid of something like this happening to us.

I am so sorry that you were put though that heart ache. I hope things get better soon.

HeathernSteven · June 2013

it is tough, no doubt about it, but we need to stay positive and strong. It absolutly sucks that there are people who can get pregnant just by thinking about it and others that spend $$$$$ trying for one. Its unfair but we need to hold our heards high and keep moving forward.

svega232 · July 2013

It is deinitely unfair. I read stories like that all the time. It's gets me so frustrated and angry. I don't understand it and ask god all the time, why? But we have to stay strong and move forward. Good luck to you & sorry about your loss.

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