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Not having a birthday party

Mummyisaac+1Mummyisaac+1 member
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Is it mean to not throw a party for my (almost) 4 yr old? 

My mother in law keeps having digs at me about not organising him anything but I really don't understand why. He doesn't really have many friends so I wouldnt have anyone to invite so it seems pointless organising one. He's still going to be getting presents and we're taking him to the zoo for the day so it isn't like we're ignoring it competely! 

Is it me being a bad mum or is it just my MIL being her usual irritating self? 

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    blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member

    As long as

    1) you're acknowledging the day and

    2) he's not begging you for a party

    I don't see anything wrong with this or mean about it.

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    belladonna11307belladonna11307 member
    imageblu-eyedwife:

    As long as

    1) you're acknowledging the day and

    2) he's not begging you for a party

    I don't see anything wrong with this or mean about it.

     

    Agreed 

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    karen_loykaren_loy member
    I agree with PPs, is fine as long as he isn't asking for one and you do presents, cake and something fun and special
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    AmandaKessAmandaKess member
    As long as you're making him feel special that day that's all that really counts. You don't want to throw a party with mostly adults and a few of his friends. I would have loved going to the zoo for the day when I was a kid! Have a great time.
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    klynne924klynne924 member
    We just had DS's 3rd birthday party this past Sunday and I have been exhausted since! I already told DH we were skipping the party next year and going to the aquarium and having lunch or dinner with our close family. 
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    notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    imageblu-eyedwife:

    As long as

    1) you're acknowledging the day and

    2) he's not begging you for a party

    I don't see anything wrong with this or mean about it.

     

    I agree. 4 is getting to the age where kids really love birthday parties though, so be prepared for him to want one. 

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    Mummyisaac+1Mummyisaac+1 member
    He hasn't shown any interest in having a party so I think we'll be fine.

    I'm glad you all agree its not an absolute necessity :)
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    SunAndRainSunAndRain member

    it is my observation that IL's will disagree with any decision their DIL makes so ignore her.

    Apparently the party I'm planning is TOO big in my IL's opinion.  So you can't win with them either way, it seems.

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    ChristyMLChristyML
    I agree with the pps, but have you directly asked him if he wants one or not?
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    &orchid&&orchid& member
    For my son's 1st birthday we're going all out.  The rest of them will be immediate family over for cake and ice-cream.  At least until he is old enough to want a birthday party with kids his age.
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