Surgery Friday (Long, sorry)

TJ1979 · July 2013

Okay, since Chi called me out last week, I'll go ahead and share. Stick out tongue I hurt my wrist a few weeks ago. After an x-ray, MRI, and CT, t turns out I had a fracture from an injury back in 2002 that I didn't know was fractured, a new fracture from my current injury, and because the previous fracture didn't heal properly, I developed osteonecrosis. Which is basically a big scary word for a big scary problem in the joint, for which there is no actual cure, but a few surgical treatment options that might help slow down the problem, and gives me a best case scenario of 85% use of my wrist for the future. Worst case scenario would be that the joint collapses and I have to have a joint replacement.

Being the nerd I am, I was fascinated looking at the images and hearing the surgical options. Until I remembered that he was talking about me. I really thought this was going to be a sprain and no big deal. The plan had been for my mom to come for a week or so and help with E -- because of the extent of the surgery, I won't be able to pick her up for 6-8 weeks Crying But with my dad being in the hospital last weekend, my mom isn't sure if she can leave him, and I don't want to ask her to. So I'm kinda freaking out about the whole thing.

Plus there's the fact that I'm still BFing, so I'm worried about the anesthesia, and the pain meds, and being able to hold her to feed. I know side-lying is our best bet, but she's too busy to lay down for long. So I'm afraid my supply is going to tank.

So there you go. That's what's going on with me. I'm pretty nervous about it, so if you can spare even more T & P for my family, we'd be happy to have them.

itsmevkb · July 2013

That is a lot to be going through and I would be worried too. I couldn't hold my daughter for two weeks because some nerve/muscle issues in my arm and shoulder and it was driving me (and my husband) crazy.

I hope the surgery goes well and that you get as much improvement as possible in your wrist. And let's hope for a super speedy recovery.

imoverit · July 2013

I would be worried too. Not about the surgery but about who is going to care for E, BFing, and not picking her up for that long. Huge hugs. Is there anyway to postpone surgery until you find out what is going on with your dad?

jesselayne8 · July 2013

Huge hugs. Is there anyone else to help with the baby? I'm sorry you have so much to deal with right now.

mcgeeva · July 2013

Wow that is terrible! I hope it heals fast but in the mean time I guess take your friends and family up on any help they can provide. You definitely don't want to hurt your wrist more. Just means your other arm will become super strong picking up you daughter. Good luck!

kmc84 · July 2013

That's a lot to think about! Try and take everything one day at a time. TP's headed to you and your family! I'm hoping for a speedy recovery for you and your dad!

mnj05 · July 2013

That certainly is a lot on your plate. I'm sorry this is all happening, especially with your dad's health concerns. Thoughts and prayers for you!

Robeano · July 2013

Oh TJ!!! I totally get why you're upset! You will be in my TP on Friday. I hope everything goes well and it won't be worst case scenario!!!

Mr. & Mrs. Woodtick · July 2013

T&Ps coming your way and huge ((HUGS)) too! I'm sorry that this is all happening at one time.

Saraevh · July 2013

Sounds stressful! I hope you and your daddio both have a speedy recovery after all of this.

JBDamonM · July 2013

oh no. TJ that's so awful..... Sending you huge hugs and thoughts and prayers that everythig comes together and this is easier than you expect!

pb_bride · July 2013

Gosh, TJ, that's a lot to take in such a short time period! When do you have to have the surgery done? I see that E will turn 1 soon, are you planning to wean her by then? If so, can you postpone the surgery until she's somewhat/almost weaned so you don't have to worry as much about BFing? Or just do EP?

Can any of your family or friends come stay with you for a couple of weeks (eg, 2 wks for person #1, 2 wks for person #2 etc) to help you out with picking E up?

Lots of T&Ps coming your way.

ETA: Doh, just saw your title that you're having the surgery this Friday. Is it something that they can wait a little bit longer, obviously NOT if it'll be detrimental to your joint. Can YH take some time off to help out???

OceanBreeze1 · July 2013

Ugh, I'm so sorry you're going through this! Wishing you the best of luck with everything.

Fwiw, I was on steroids for a week and didn't bf and was able to get my supply back...but we also ff and dd used a bottle when I pumped.

Hugs!!!

Mrs.AmyDylan · July 2013

Oh TJ, I'm so sorry! Good luck with your surgery. T&P that you get the full 85%. Can you get a mothers helper for a few weeks?

AKB090609 · July 2013

Hope all goes well and you end up with the best case scenario.

mdiblasi10 · July 2013

Oh hun, I am sorry to hear that! Big hugs! I hope the surgery fixes you up and those 6-8 weeks fly by. Try not to worry too much - you will get through it.

amandaleigh1 · July 2013

Yikes! That is a pretty scary situation to be in. I am so sorry that you are facing surgery. I have no advice to give, but I will keep you in my thoughts.

Hugs

Cwhitaker27 · July 2013

Oh no TJ! Sorry about all of this. First of all good luck with surgery Friday. Ill keep you in my prayers. Hoping for best case scenario! Seems like sometimes when it rains it pours. Hope things clear up soon

firewife9278 · July 2013

Oh my goodness ... that's a lot to take in all at once! I will send many T&Ps for a speedy recovery!

TJ1979 · July 2013

Thanks for all the T and P. I'll try to answer a few of the questions...
We can't really postpone the surgery. The longer I wait, the worse it gets. It is now progressing quickly. I'm in stage IIIB of the disease and collapse is the next step of stage III. Also, we desperately want to TTC ASAP, and can't do so until this is complete.
We don't have family nearby. Our friends are all about an hour away, and of course work full time and have children of their own. I do have one friend who has offered to help all she can, but she is on maternity leave with an 8 week old, so there's really not that much she can do to help. She might pick E up from DC though after the surgery so MH doesn't have to leave me alone.
Hiring a mothers helper for a few days would be awesome! But we've had a huge month of unexpected bills including the surgery, so it's not really in the budget right now.
Thank for keeping me in your thoughts. I know it will all be fine. I'm such a worrier! But MH will do an amazing job of taking care of us, he always does.

kaf7 · July 2013

Oh TJ! Good luck tomorrow. I hope you get good results from it and that the recovery is smooth and everything works out. If I lived near you I would come and help!

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