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Need ur opinion
So I have 2 children ages 13 10. My husband has 3 children 21, 19, 17. We are now expecting our first child together in October my best friend wants to throw me a baby shower. Is it tacky since its my 3rd child even though my youngest is 10? TIA
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Re: Need ur opinion
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I have an opinion on the omission of the "y" and the "O" in the title of your post.
Keep the shower extremely small if you must do it...I still say yes, it's tacky. You have FIVE CHILDREN between you. A shower at this point seems silly.
People are not obligated to buy her baby supplies just because she didn't keep things from her children or because they may have expired. People are responsible for buying supplies for their own children; showers are a gift and should never be seen as a means to get everything you will need for LO. Having another child does not mean you earned yourself another shower or some sort of free pass on baby supplies.
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PSA:
Baby Shower: Party to celebrate the changing of a woman/man into the role of a parent. (See Bridal Shower/role: Wife/Husband) A typically gift-giving event as guests are "showering" the guest of honor with love, support and gifts. Registries are expected and not tacky.
Meet the Baby Party/Sip n See: A party thrown by either another person, or parents of child, to celebrate the new life and welcome the new family member into the world. While gifts are welcomed gracefully, they are not to be expected or requested.
"OMG, I love (guest of honor) so much that I want to throw a get-together in their honor": A party thrown by someone else to celebrate the guest of honor. Gifts should not be implied or expected.
Charity Fundraiser: Party thrown by anyone to gather monies and items for the less fortunate who can not, for whatever reason, provide for themselves. Gifts (physical and monetary) are expected and attendees are encouraged to give as much as they possibly can, through various means: Donation, raffles, etc.
For additional reference:
Birthday Party: A party thrown by someone else to celebrate the person of honor. Gifts, while traditionally given, should not be mentioned, requested or expected.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
OMG horrendously tacky! I can't believe people even consider having 2nd, 3rd and so on baby showers. I mean especially with all the animal sacrificing and satan worshipping that goes on at them. I mean what kind of person would take part in that? There was this one 2nd shower that I went to out of obligation and all so I already felt awkward but then they built this giant bonfire and burning books and then a couple people even started chanting "heil Hitler!" that's when I knew that 2nd showers were not for me.
God, you guys are seriously pathetic. Get over yourselves.
This. Seriously, it's your sixth kid. Sixth!!!
Yep. Between the two of you you should pony up for your expanding family.
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God, if only there was something on the website that said that. My eyes wouldn't bleed every time I get on here. I simply pointed it out because it says something about the poster--you in this case. It's hard to take someone seriously when they opt for "ur" instead of "your." It's only 2 letters.
Anyway, you asked for opinions. It's right in the title of your post. We gave opinions. You didn't like them. So what do you want from us? It's not cool to have multiple baby showers. Just like if you divorced and remarried 5 times, it wouldn't be cool to have multiple bridal showers. It's not a hard concept.
Wouldn't that be fabulous?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Please don't. I can't believe someone with 5 kids would even ask....
The only way this is kind of okay is that your best friend offered, you did not ask and hopefully was not fishing for someone to throw you a shower. If you choose to accept the gift, then I would insist that it be very small, and do not invite anyone you invited to your first shower, with the exception of your mom and very close family.
The only way to be 100% sure that you are not being gift grabby though is to decline the shower. Maybe you could have a meet the baby party a few months after LO gets here?
I agree with this.
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Sounds like you have an opinion, so do I. But I didn't get all nasty about it. If the If someone asks on a public message board they are going to get answers. Does it mean the OP HAS to listen to what we say, no, she can do what ever the "H" "E" double hockey sticks she wants to. But she asked, I and a lot of others answered. If YOU don't like it, perhaps the BSB isn't the right place for you.
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There seems to be lots of women on here that find lots of baby shower related things tacky. That's fine, but at the end of the day, think of it from your point of view. If it was your friend would you find it tacky? If not, have one. If you would, then maybe politely decline.