TTC After a Loss

Intro and A Question

Before I started to post here, I wanted to make sure it was ok. I was asked to leave by another website and I don't want to upset or step on anyone's toes here so I thought I would share my story and make sure it is appropriate for me to stick around.

My name is Zoey and my husband and I were devastated when we found out our son had anencephaly. It was our first pregnancy and everything seemed to be going smoothly. After we found out that our baby boy had anencephaly which is a neural tube defect resulting in a large part of the brain being missing we came to the agonizing decision to terminate the pregnancy.

It has been one year now since we said goodbye to Raleigh and we are staring to try again. We miss him everyday and it has been an incredibly hard year. This decision to try again has also been very hard and that is why I have been searching for support as we begin the journey again.

I would love to get and give support here if you will have me. Like I said, I don't want to make people uncomfortable so please, just let me know if you would rather I not stick around.

Re: Intro and A Question

  • Zoey, so sorry for your loss and that you were faced with that difficult decision. ((Hugs)). Welcome to TB. I can't speak for all, but I have no issue with you being here. Again, so sorry you find yourself here. 

    married my best friend 10/04/08, TTC since July 2012
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    mmc Angel 2/7/13 @ 15w3d, mmc Aubrey 2/13/13 @ 16w2d, D&E 2/16/13

    BFP#2 9/21/13, EDD 6/2/14, DD born 5/17/14 

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  • Are you saying that you were asked to leave a website because your loss made people uncomfortable?

    I am very, very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. This is a tremendous community for those that give the kind of support they want to receive and there are women here who have had to go through similarly agonizing decisions.  There is a blog at the top of the page that you might want to check out, it can give you a sense of board culture, frequently asked questions, etc.  Big (((hugs))) to you.

    Me: 36 yo, TTC #1 since Feb. 2012
    BFP #1, 3/12, EDD 11/9/12, MMC 3/27/12, D&C 4/10/12

    BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until  August 2013

    IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
    IUI #2 (back-to-back, 9/12/13 and 9/13/13) Femara + Menopur, four mature follicles, BFFN
    IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN

    BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014  Please stick and grow, LO!

    Additional Dx: hypothyroidism, TgAb positive & anti-TPO positive, POR/DOR (2/2013), and suspected endometriosis

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  • imageMsAmandaPants:
    Are you saying that you were asked to leave a website because your loss made people uncomfortable? I am very, very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. This is a tremendous community for those that give the kind of support they want to receive and there are women here who have had to go through similarly agonizing decisions.nbsp; There is a blog at the top of the page that you might want to check out, it can give you a sense of board culture, frequently asked questions, etc.nbsp; Big hugs to you.


    I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in.

    Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.
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    I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in. Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.

    I am very, very sorry that you had to face that and it makes me angry and deeply sad on your behalf.  No one has any right to judge that decision and I don't think you will find that here. Welcome, and, again, I am deeply sorry for your loss and all that you have endured.

    Me: 36 yo, TTC #1 since Feb. 2012
    BFP #1, 3/12, EDD 11/9/12, MMC 3/27/12, D&C 4/10/12

    BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until  August 2013

    IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
    IUI #2 (back-to-back, 9/12/13 and 9/13/13) Femara + Menopur, four mature follicles, BFFN
    IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN

    BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014  Please stick and grow, LO!

    Additional Dx: hypothyroidism, TgAb positive & anti-TPO positive, POR/DOR (2/2013), and suspected endometriosis

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  • Very sorry for your loss, welcome to the board.

    "Love is what makes pain bearable." - I love you my Angels. 
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    BFP #2: 2/20/13 EDD 11/4/13 - Saw HB 3/19/13 (7w2d) - MMC discovered 4/13/13 (10w5d) - Est. loss @ 9w3d - D&C 4/14/13
    BFP #3: 12/19/13 (4 w1d) EDD 8/27/14 - 1/1/14 discovered it was ectopic/ tube had burst/ had surgery to remove tube (@ 6 weeks)
    BFP #4: 9/10/14 (3w6d) EDD 5/21/15 - natural MC 9/23/14 @ 5w5d
    BFP #5: 11/23/14 (3w3d) EDD 8/4/15 - Please be our Rainbow!
     

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  • ((((hugs))))) I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Raleigh.  You will find that this board is an incredibly supportive community and that we are very protective of each other.  In the 9 months or so that I have been on TTCAL the largest outpouring of love and support I saw was to one of our members who had to make a decision similar to yours. 

    Many ((((hugs)))) and I am sorry you were treated that way at the other community. 


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    You are welcome here. I am sorry for your loss.
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     **BFP#2 9/12/13  EDD 5/16/14 changed to 5/27/14 after u/s, hb 126 on 10/11/13, miscarriage on 10/24.13**
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  • Welcome Zoey!  I'm so very sorry for your loss and the way you were treated by that other board.  This community of women here is amazing and I hope you are able to find the support you are looking for here.

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  • I am so sorry for your loss and that you faced that kind of judgement. I hope you find this board helpful. hugs.
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  • Welcome, and I'm sorry you have to be here. My DH and I were faced with the same decision as one of our twins had no head or heart and was relying on the other for blood supply it is nothing a mother should ever have to I through.

    You will find these women to be amazing.
  • I cannot imagine having to make that decision.  Welcome and I am so sorry for your loss and how you were treated on the other board.  I hope that you have a short but positive stay here.

     

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    I am so sorry for your loss. You are definitely welcome here.

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  • Zoey, I'm so sorry for the loss of your little Raleigh and the decisions you faced during that time. You won't be turned away here. Welcome to the board, I certainly hope you find the support you are looking for. (((hugs)))
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  • I am so sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine having to make such a difficult decision. Welcome to the board and I hope this place can be a safe place for you can help in your healing. 
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  • Welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss. I am also so sorry at how you were treated at this other board. ::hugs:: That wasn't fair of them, and it makes me angry that they would do that to you.



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  • You are welcome here. I'm very sorry for your loss. May I ask why the other board asked you to leave? 

    Edit: You already answered my question.  

                               
                  
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, and for your experience on the other board.  As other ladies have said, you are more than welcome here.  (((HUGS)))

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    BFP #2  CP on 3/31/14
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  • So very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. You are certainly welcome here. Many hugs as you start this process of TTC again.
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    BFP #2: 12/20/2013  EDD 9/1/14, missed m/c @ 7weeks, D&E
    BFP #3: 5/26/2014 EDD 2/7/15, missed m/c @ 9 weeks, D&E- DX Trisomy22
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  • I am so sorry to welcome you here, but glad you have found us. I know the heartbreaking decision you had to make must have been the hardest thing you have ever done. But I also know you made that decision out of love for your son.
    Trying again after losing a child is one of the scariest things you can do, but I hope you can find the support you need.
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    BFP #3 Nov. 2012 - mmc Dec. 2012
    BFP #4 April 2013 - mc May 2013
    BFP #5 Sept. 2013 - EDD 5.24.14
  • Welcome to the board and I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your husband must be amazingly strong from what you had to endure. I hope you get the support here that you need.

    TTC since April 2012

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    BFP #2, 04/06/2013 - EDD 12/17/2013 - MC 04/19/2013

    6/12/2013 Diagnosed with Balanced Translocation (12 & 16)

    IVF #1 with PGS: 10/2013: Canceled 9/27/2013 for issues with genetic lab

    IVF #1.5 with PGS: 11/16/2013: Canceled. 11 eggs retrieved, 9 mature & 9 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos

    IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos

    IVF #3 with PGS: 5/10/2014: Switched to FET in July. 10 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized, 2 healthy embryos!

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    Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus

    IVF #4: 12/8/2014: Canceled. 17 eggs retrieved, 15 mature, 10 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos



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  • imagezoeycc:
    imageMsAmandaPants:
    Are you saying that you were asked to leave a website because your loss made people uncomfortable? I am very, very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. This is a tremendous community for those that give the kind of support they want to receive and there are women here who have had to go through similarly agonizing decisions.nbsp; There is a blog at the top of the page that you might want to check out, it can give you a sense of board culture, frequently asked questions, etc.nbsp; Big hugs to you.
    I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in. Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.

    Oh holy hell. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. OP, your loss is just as much a loss as anyone else's. I am so, so sorry. You are more than welcome here. ((HUGS))

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    BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d

    BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13

     

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  • KMW08KMW08 member
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    I'm sorry for your loss. I hate reading that you weren't previously supported, it makes me angry for you. You are definitely welcome here.

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  • So sorry for your loss. You are most certainly welcome here

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  • First off, I am so so sorry. I know a small portion of what you went through and they were the most pain ridden days of my life. After problems were noted with my baby I knew and my ob suggested that termination for medical reasons was probably the path we were headed down, as the issues seemed to be incompatible with life. Our baby slipped away on its own before we had to make that decision but I lived in that world for 3 days. I am very sorry that anyone made you feel uncomfortable. There are some great resources out there I am going to send you a private message with the resources/info my ob shared with me. I didn't share this part of my story in my intro but just had to reach out with HUGS...

     

     

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  • imagesnegde:
    Welcome. I am sorry for the loss of your Raleigh. I am sorry for the decisions you had to make and the heartache you have to deal with. I think you will find this community warm, welcoming, and fiercely protective of one another. It is an excellent place to give and get support and to have some healing take place. Please read the blog if you haven't done so. Again so sorry for your loss and welcome.

    All of this.  ((hugs)) and welcome to the board!   

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    BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
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    BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
    BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
    BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks 
    BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
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    More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results.
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  • I cannot believe that you were asked to leave another site for your decision. Many women here have been in your shoes, and they have always been welcome with open arms. I think the choice you made was the most loving thing you could have done for your son, and I am so sorry you had to face that difficult decision and for your loss.

    This is a wonderful community of supportive women who have experienced all types of loss. I hope you will find the same comfort I have hefe. Welcome.
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  • I am so very sorry for your loss! I can't imagine having to make such a difficult decision and then be judged unnecessarily due to that! Bless your heart!! You are welcome here with open arms!! *HUGS*


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  • First and foremost I'm sorry for the loss of your sweet R.
    Secondly welcome. Thirdly I hate that those women made you feel bad for your choices. Lord knows its hard enough what you've been through without adding others judgement on top of it all. You are more than welcome to stay. And if you do and support others you will be a cherished member if our board. We root each other on and don't pass judgement for choices beyond our own lives. I want to punch those women who asked you to leave. I'm so so deeply sorry for the loss of your baby boy and that those women are so inconsiderate and hurtful.
    Ill tell you right now that is NOT how we do things here!

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  • imagesamjen2010:

     May I ask why the other board asked you to leave? 

    Edit: You already answered my question.  

    ETA I'm really blind. I read your question wrong. I meant to ask what board it was on which website. I want to make sure I never never venture there.

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  • imagezoeycc:
    imageMsAmandaPants:
    Are you saying that you were asked to leave a website because your loss made people uncomfortable? I am very, very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. This is a tremendous community for those that give the kind of support they want to receive and there are women here who have had to go through similarly agonizing decisions.nbsp; There is a blog at the top of the page that you might want to check out, it can give you a sense of board culture, frequently asked questions, etc.nbsp; Big hugs to you.
    I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in. Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.

    It is terrible that you were judged by others for your decision. I am very sorry for all the heartache you have experienced. You are welcome to join us. 

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    BFP #2 09.10.2013  ||  c/p 09.12.2013

    BFP #3 12.1.2013  ||  mm/c  01.15.14  ||  D&C 01.21.14  chromosome abnormality
    May 2014:  Residual HCG and retained tissue found
    05.13.2014:  Hysteroscopy D&C to find and remove retained tissue
    June 2014:  Tissue sample results indicate a partial molar pregnancy
    May - Aug 2014:   TTA for monitoring and testing
    08.21.2014:  Hysteroscopy to remove minor scar tissue - the result of 3 D&Cs
    Sept/Oct: IUI #1  Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN
    Oct/Nov: IUI #2  Femara + Ovidrel = BFN
    Nov/Dec: IUI #3  Femara + Bravelle + Ovidrel = BFN

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, that must have been a very hard decision to make ((hugs)).  And welcome to the board.
  • So sorry for your loss, and all that you've been through. Hugs!
  • I am so sorry for your loss Zoey. Welcome to the board. There are wonderful women here. HUGS.

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  • imagezoeycc:
    imageMsAmandaPants:
    Are you saying that you were asked to leave a website because your loss made people uncomfortable? I am very, very sorry for your loss of Raleigh. This is a tremendous community for those that give the kind of support they want to receive and there are women here who have had to go through similarly agonizing decisions.nbsp; There is a blog at the top of the page that you might want to check out, it can give you a sense of board culture, frequently asked questions, etc.nbsp; Big hugs to you.
    I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in. Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.

    I am so sorry for your loss of Raleigh. I cannot believe they said that to you. It is of course a loss. You made the best decision for you and your son. No Mother should ever have to make that decision. I go to a support group IRL and there are a few Moms who had to make this decision as well. I'm so sorry you ran into that...not ok at all! (((hugs)))

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    I'm sorry for your loss. I hate reading that you weren't previously supported, it makes me angry for you. You are definitely welcome here.


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  • I am so sorry for your loss, what a heartbreaking situation and decision you were faced with.  ((HUG))  You are a good and loving mother!  You are certainly welcome here.  As others have said this is a group of fiercely protective and supportive women.

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    I was asked by numerous people to not post because they felt I had made the decision to end the pregnancy which they saw as not being a loss since it was my choice. It was a very toxic environment for me to be in and so I really had no problem leaving. I didn't want the same thing to happen here so I thought I would ask before I jumped right in. Thank you for the warm welcome. It means a lot to me.

    That is awful, shame on them.  It breaks my heart that there are women out there who would feel that way.

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  • Thank you all so much for such the warm welcome. I am very excited to be a part of this board. I wish none of us had to be here, but this seems like a great and supportive place. I am honestly sitting at home crying reading all of your welcoming messages. I posted and then went away with my family and was a little nervous for what I would come back to. Again, thank you all so much.
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