So my MIL suggested that I have 2 showers. It would save people commuting across the state (my family lives on opposite sides of the state) and I wouldn't be overwhelmed and wiped out from a HUGE shower (60+ people).
i thought this was a great idea. I told my sister who was hosting shower #1 and she had no problems with it. I talked to my mom about it and she went nuts. She didn't speak to me for 2 weeks! My sister finally convinced her that it was a good idea and she begrudgingly went along with it.
Fast forward to this past Sunday. My mom called to tell me what time to be at the shower site. Then said she was sorry to hear MIL wouldn't be able to make it. (She really wasn't because she had previously said she didn't understand why MIL should be invited when she was having her own shower.)
So my mom barely spoke to me at the shower and spent more time talking with her relatives than paying attention to anything that was baby related.
She is constantly saying that she won't get to know her granddaughter because we live 2 hours away.
My other shower is in about a month and I kind of don't want her to come. I'm really tired of her attitude about my pregnancy, my IL, and DD.
Sorry for the dear diary post. I just needed to get it out.
Re: Mom rant
My ILs do live closer to us. This has been an issue for her since we got married. At our wedding, she told my MIL to take good care of her daughter.
I've tried talking to her, but she really doesn't want to hear what I have to say. Part of me knows it's jealously but I feel like she's so full of negativity that I don't want her around. And I hate that because we had such a great relationship while I was growing up.
Unfortunately then, I think that it's up to her to get over her issues. I am hoping that she will realize how important ANY time with her grand baby will be. I say let her have her space and behave immaturely and at this point you just have to hope that she gets over it. Someone else may have better advice than me, but that'd be how I was feeling in the situation. I hope that things get better for you!
She is. I'm just hoping she'll be on her best behavior a this one.
Thanks for all your insights ladies! I really appreciate it!
Chatty, I think you may have nailed it. She was a great mommy, but when I started to spread my wings she became more like she is now.
Im the oldest of 4 and she doesn't have any empty nest yet, but she acts like it.