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Mom with Stage 4 Breast Cancer

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My mother is a 3x Breast cancer survivor.  She is 52, and was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 breast cancer that has since spread to her bones, liver, and lungs.  She's been very upset (which I understand is completely normal).  I have a 4 year old already and one on the way in Feb.  I am trying to keep her mind off of her illness by keeping her busy with activities with the grandkiddos (my sister is in town from FL with her two young boys) and with some things for the new baby to be.  She keeps saying that this is her new reality, she will never be well again, and she will be the sick grandmother who leaves them.  So far from everything I've read, the life expectancy avg for this disease is less than 5 years.  

This is kind of a venting post, since I'm scared and want my mother to be here to watch my babies grow up.

Have any of you all dealt with a similar type of situation with a parent?  How do you comfort someone in this situation?

 

TIA, ladies. 

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  • OutOfStep81OutOfStep81 member
    I haven't dealt with this, but I wasn't to say I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I can't imagine.

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  • lildarling76lildarling76 member
    My dad has stage 4 stomach cancer and it sucks! He was diagnosed last year right after my son was born. I just try to live for today and someone on here said dont worry today for tomorrow's sorrow it will only drain you from your strength today..
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  • Tashalynn1986Tashalynn1986 member
    I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I'm almost 8 weeks pregnant, my second pregnancy, first was a missed miscarriage. Anyway, last November my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at 52 years old and in January, during the surgery to remove it, they found it had already spread to his liver. Sadly my Dad passed away yesterday morning with my mom and I at his side. I had just told him last Saturday and I think the fact that I was going to have a baby made him happy and proud. Hopefully your mom can find some comfort in your growing family. Take care of her but please remember to take care of you and your babies.
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  • BethK22BethK22 member
    I haven't been through anything similar so I don't have any advice. I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry you are going through this, I can't even imaginehow hard it must be. Hugs

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  • pinkgrl84pinkgrl84 member
    First of all I want to say I am so sorry for what you and your mother are going through.  Breast cancer is such a scary and horrible disease.  My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was 11 years and old and sadly passed away when I was 12.  It will have of been 18 years ago in August and technology and medicine have come soooooo far since then.  I understand the pain you are going through and want to let you know I am here for support if you just need someone to talk to (even though we don't know each other I know it can be helpful).  Your family will be in my T&Ps.  My advice is to enjoy every moment with your mother that you possibly can, you never know what will happen in life. Comfort comes from telling your mom and your family how much you love them and care about them.  (((hugs)))
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  • tinkerfly81tinkerfly81 member
    I am so sorry.  My mom passed away from Breast Cancer almost 3 years ago.  It is rough.  There are so many things I wish I could ask her now. Enjoy the time you have with her. Let her know how much she means to you.
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