Saturday Morning Discussion

Manda-Kay · June 2013

I think this is my third week doing this. Do you ladies like it? I think it livens up the board.

This one is a doosy. I saw this on Oprah a very long time ago and Klil's post about "the talk" made me think of it. As part if your "talk" will you include a discussion about "taking care of one's own needs"? This lady on Oprah said you should talk to your kids about it at an early age like while they're still in elementary school. Or is this something they'll figure out in their own? I didn't even know females did it until college; living in a sorority house I typically heard more than I ever cared to know. I think you ladies know how naive I am. I don't know if knowing about it would have caused me to lose my v later or not.

What are your thoughts in the subject?

mamahawk12 · June 2013

Um, absolutely not.

Crossingfingers · June 2013

I have no plans to include that in "the talk."

Manda-Kay · June 2013

stephaniemthomas:
We won't be discussing self pleasure when we have the talk. To me that's more of a sexual discovery thing.

ITA. I was watching it and was like wtf is wrong with this lady

WhimsyGirl14 · June 2013

I guess for me these are two different talks. I will not discuss this in the birds and bees talk. I do expext this to come up later on although I hesitate to say exactly when.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

I tend to think that's something you figure out on your own so no.

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

Um no. That will not be in the talk. I think that's something you figure out on your own. I'll have to discuss it with DH because I don't know when boys learn their self pleasuring techniques. I'm thinking it happens sooner than with girls since DS is always grabbing at his penis. I could be wrong.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

Scout2005:
Mrs. Rohde:
Um no. That will not be in the talk. I think that's something you figure out on your own. I'll have to discuss it with DH because I don't know when boys learn their self pleasuring techniques. I'm thinking it happens sooner than with girls since DS is always grabbing at his penis. I could be wrong.

It can be early. Like elementary school early.

I really hope DH steps up and deals with DS on this topic.

When I was teaching preK, there were boys and girls who would play with themselves at naptime.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

carolyn231723:
My parents and I have never discussed masterbation and I hope we never do. It's awkward just thinking about it. Lol.

I found out about it in junior high school. Some of my friends had older siblings who discovered the concept and shared it with the rest of us.

I don't plan on bringing it up, but if he asks I will talk about it. I am hoping that he will become aware of it from his friends like I did though.

This is how I feel. No way in hello would I have brought it up as a teenager! It is natural for teens and pre teens to keep secrets and I'm ok with this one. If he needs to ask about it, fine.

piphigirl · June 2013

I think it depends on the kid and the age. I'd play it by ear.

MommyMelRN · June 2013

I definitely expect to have to talk to G about it at some point since his penis seems to be his favorite toy, lol! I certainly have no problem answering any of his questions, and I hope he always feels comfortable enough to ask. If G was a girl? I think perhaps I would still mention to her, at some point. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't give her instructions or anything, but I might just let her know that it's ok to do if that's something she wanted to do, but I'd probably wait until middle school age to do that.

ks3pink · June 2013

I think they figure it out in their own. DD had already had a couple of moments where she'd tell me something tickled and laugh. At this age I just told her we don't say that in public and move on.

Andreabks · June 2013

if we do "the talk" when she's young, this will certainly not be included. I hope she and I can have the kind of relationship where we can talk about it later, like early teens, but that isn't something she needs to be thinking about in elementary school.

Jnmac83 · June 2013

meaknigh:
Um, absolutely not.nbsp;

This.

beckyfarrelly · June 2013

Umm no

I do like this weekend posts!

lady_tytah · June 2013

It wont be Iin the same takk but I will tell them. I feel self-pleasure is so damned especially in certain religious circles. Hubs never touched himself in fear of his god. I was told it was damning and not woman thing to do touch myself. I think it's stupid. I will be telling both of them its ok. With Nene, I will be telling her I'd rather her satisfy herself than let a boy mess up her future talking that dumb sh! T. I really feel if girls especially were not felt like its so damning we would have less pregnancies.

AprilAngie · June 2013

I like the Saturday morning discussions. I don't find Im "Liberal" however, I guess having kids older makes me more open to things, As many of you know I have 4 kids; ages 14 YO, 7 YO, 5 YO and dd is 10MO. I have had "sex" talks with all my three older kids, in the age appropriate ways. I bought DS1 a book (sadly lent it to a family member after, and haven't seen it back) when he was 10/12 ish about sex, its a great book. here is the link and they make other versions for other ages,.. I think youngest is 6 ish YO.

https://www.amazon.ca/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763644846/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_b

here is one about babies

https://www.amazon.ca/Its-So-Amazing-Babies-Families/dp/0763613215/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&qid=1372537068&sr=8-10&keywords=sex+books+for+ages+8

I find being honest with kids is important. it does talk about masturbation. I talked to DS1 about it.

So getting to my point, for all who said NO they aren't talking about this... Im sorry but "self pleasure" is natural and normal part of being a kid. My 5 YO and 7YO say things like," mommy when I touch my penis it gets hard", or it tickles, or I like when the water is sprayed on my penis. this is all normal.

I have explained that if something where they want to touch their penis, to do it in the washroom or in private as its not polite/ good manners to do it in front of ppl.

OP: not sure if I answered your post or not

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